Weird things happening around death

[Whatishappeninginmylife]

New username because this is specific.

my lovely mum died very suddenly this morning. It’s a huge shock. I couldn’t get there in time and am hundreds of miles away.

but. I lost a glove a few weeks ago. I was really annoyed about it and retraced my steps. Today, I took a route I don’t use that often, looked down and saw my glove in the gutter of the road. I’m sure this is coincidence but it’s very strange. What are the odds?!

Regale me with your unexpected tales please.

I had 2 early miscarriages last year. Then in October I found out I was pregnant for a third time. A few days later I went on holiday to Morocco, only 4 weeks pregnant and wondering if this one would have the same fate. One day at the pool, 2 white feathers landed right in front of me, in the pool. I wondered if it was a sign from my babies.

I'm now 23 weeks pregnant with a baby girl.

My father used to put scraps of food out for a battered old fox with a limp. The fox came every day in the early afternoon and would sit in the middle of the lawn in the back garden and wait patiently for Dad to bring out his bowl of scraps and put it behind the garage.

A couple of years passed and Dad had to go into hospital as he had terminal lung cancer. He was in for about six weeks and began to fail. In that time, the fox never appeared. The hospital started talking about the hospice for Dad but he wouldn't go there and insisted he wanted to die at home. He got his way. There were nurses coming to the house to look after him. On his second day back home, I stood at his window looking out and his old fox was back, square in the middle of the lawn staring intently at the window. He sat there for a couple of hours staring and staring and then suddenly he got up and limped away. There was a sudden silence in the room and I looked over at Dad and he was gone. That fox knew.

My DM was always generous and would help me out financially without me ever having to ask. I'd find money stashed in weird places just after her death and when I'm struggling now, often find money turn up in my pocket or bag unexpectedly.

@Whatishappeninginmylife

I moved into an old bungalow where a husband had died and lady Went into a care home. On the first night a car seat in the middle of a table fell to the floor, then I hear the piano playing (same room) - but no one was in there. Same room - I was asleep and an alarm clock went off loudly. No alarm clock there, but there was an alarm clock in the rightmove picture - exactly where I heard it. Then DD saw a figure in the toilet. She said it was a man dressed in a suit. Later a neighbour told me that the guy that lived there was always in a suit.
Then it all stopped after a few weeks.

I think there is so much we don’t understand about science, and what happens when we pass. I’m not ‘woo’ but none of what happened was particularly frightening. Just odd. Ok we can’t explain this yet, but I think I’m 500 years time we’ll have a better idea.

So sorry for your loss OP
May your mother rest in peace and rise in Glory 💐

I had various experiences after my DH1 died, the most memorable one was driving round the streets desperate to find a parking space and suddenly finding one almost outside where I needed to go. Now it would be just good luck but back then in my brain fogged grief, I felt DH watching over me and giving me a bit of help, which was quite comforting.

sorry for the loss of your mum, look after yourself, grief really takes it out of you ♥️

Have you heard the one about the person suffering from the loss and closest to the grief, gets to choose what they need and when they need it.

you're furthest away from this story as you can get, so you don't get to choose, comment or judge.

I am so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like your mum was so caring for you with wanting to reunite you with your glove to keep you warm. I truly believe it wasn’t coincidence but your mum ❤️

I was so very lucky to be with my nan at the time of her passing; it was unexpected as days before we’d been informed she would be able to go home soon but that afternoon I phoned home for an update and was told to get ready to say goodbye.
She had 5 children and her youngest was with her throughout, her three middle ones all said their goodbyes but her eldest was struggling to get back due to plane delays. My Nannie held on until her first born arrived and she passed within minutes of opening her eyes and seeing her arrive. She passed hearing her youngest tell her “we all still love you”.
that day at the hospital I saw my very first and only double rainbow from the hospital window 🌈
when she passed the room was instantly cold and empty and I felt she had gone straight away (I worried this meant she wouldn’t get to give me signs)
I had been struggling to conceive and seeing her with her firstborn daughter made me realise the power of a mother daughter relationship- weeks after her death I asked her out loud if she could give me a sign and I dreamt of visiting her at her home with my new baby and passing them to her in a blanket, a few weeks after her death I got my first postive pregnancy test and not long after I drove home following a rainbow which seemed to end just behind my house. I did have a baby daughter and felt so much closer to my Nannie for having started a family. I truly believe she did hold my baby before giving her to me 🌈❤️

I'm sorry for your loss Op 💐 I find it comforting having signs from loved ones. On the morning of my son's funeral service there was a robin on his old gym equipment in the garden. I like to think he was letting me know he's always close by x

My Mum had her cancer recur after the all clear. Unfortunately her death was less than a month after the recurrence. I didn’t live close, but came & stayed. She was in hospital and cold. She asked for a blanket. I went to Tesco and there weren’t any apart from 1, one the end of a random isle. It was BHS & that was where she had worked for 30 years. When she passed a flock of ducks took off just after she took her last breath. On her birthday, at 4 am I had a moth keep setting off my ring camera. Thus had never happened before or after. I often feel her around me. I had a medium group and she told me things that no one would have known, she called me brilliant which is not a word typically used in my current country. I miss her terribly

Afew hours after my mum passed from cancer,
I opened her front door
It was morning, the sun was shining but there was nothing
No sounds, no cars, no people
A feeling of peace come over me that i hadnt felt before or since

Thank you so much for your kindness in sharing your stories. And for chastising the one who really doesn’t need to be here.

I woke a little while ago, I checked my watch. The exact time of her death.

It is very rare for me to wake in this part of the night, I normally roll straight over and sleep again.

Sorry for your loss OP.

I was having a dream about a family member. I recall chasing after the family member and shouting "I love you to her" in my dream. What made this weird is that I actually shouted it out loud in real life and woke both my husband and myself up. I checked the time before going back to sleep.

A few hours later I received a call from my mum who explained that the family member i had dreamt about had died that morning at the same time I'd woken myself up shouting "I love you".

Before my late dp died I lost my engagement ring, we searched the house from top to bottom but never found it. After he died, his dad rang to talk to me about the funeral & afterwards I walked into my bedroom, the ring was in the middle of the floor.

When we first got together, we watched PS I love you & he said out of the blue, "When I die, you will come to my funeral won't you?" I laughed it off as he was much younger than me & at the time completely healthy, 4 years later I went to his funeral.

I wish there was a ‘wow’ reaction button for some of your stories. I’ve settled for the heart.

I was always very close to my maternal grandparents. As a child, teen and later young mum without a car, my grandad would give me lifts here there and everywhere. I would always shout ‘thanks grandad!’ as I got out, and he would always reply with the same thing ‘just leave your half dollar on the seat’ with a little smile.

The day he died, I had been next to his hospital bed holding his hand for a few hours. Later that evening we were called back but I was minutes too late. As I got back into my car, there lit by a street lamp, was a coin sat right in the middle of the passenger seat.

It immediately brought me comfort.

There's a specific type of dream I have which informs me a good friend has lost a parent.

The last time I had this dream, I hadn't spoken to, or thought about, the friend in about 5 years. He lives 200 miles away.

The friend, and his newly widowed mum, gained so much comfort from my dream when I contacted them 2 days after his dad's death and had a very gentle conversation.

When I was a child my grandad lived with us and every morning he'd leave a 20 peace peice on the fireplace for me and my brother as pocket money, he died when I was 22 and a month later my ex wife fell pregnant with our eldest.
Now however I find 20 pence pieces in the most random and bizarre places, for instance just last Saturday night there was one between 2 teaspoons in the cutlery drawer!!
It's always 20 pence and never any other coins

My dad died very suddenly. I was away on holiday, I didn't get to say goodbye. He died in his chair after drinking a cup of coffee from his favourite mug, one his mother has given him.

My mum gave me his mug in the following days, I think she don't want it in the house. The first time I made a cup of tea in that mug, as soon as I started filling it with boiling water it began to slide across the table, quite fast and quite far. I vaguely understand it was probably something to do with the heat, the table being slightly wet...but it's never happened to me before and hasn't since.

Also rainbows. On his first birthday after he died I took my toddler to the play park. It was grey and miserable but suddenly a gigantic rainbow filled the sky, when I hadn't seen one for months. The same thing happened on the first anniversary of his death, only it was a sunny day.

It all made me smile. I miss him.

I am very sorry for your loss OP.

A few weeks after losing dad to a short battle of cancer, I had a dream which felt absolutely real. I’d been struggling losing him and wanted to die, the grief was unbearable.

He was sat on my bed and I woke up (but was still in my dream) and I remember being shocked at seeing him. I said ‘oh thank god you’re alive dad I’ve had such an awful time thinking you had died.’ I remember holding his hand and it looked healthy and so did he. He told me he was fine and I didn’t need to worry. As I started coming out of the dream the grief and reality came back.

I tried desperately to ‘go back’ into the dream because there was so much peace and love in it.

I was having this exact same conversation last night with my best friend as it’s his anniversary of his death. I’ve now opened the thread and found so many more other beautiful stories.

I needed to hear this, although I don’t want you to have suffered your loss OP. I just think sometimes there are times when we are brought peace (even if just for those moments) and whether or not others believe or feel the same way is irrelevant. If it brings us peace in our hearts at that moment then that’s wonderful.

I am sending out all my love to you OP and everyone on this thread who has suffered loss, or those of you who are tending to ones you love in their last moments.

Grief is overwhelming. I read a quote which said it’s the price we pay for love. It is. It never goes away. You learn to live with it but it never goes away. It’s still buried raw.

Much love OP.

My 3rd child was induced due to my blood pressure rising .i had five attempts at induction and nothing happened. The doctor decided I needed a section and my son arrived on the anniversary of my mother’s death. DS takes after my mum and is the image of my brother at the same age. DS was a “surprise” baby at age 45 and we always say my mum sent him.

When my uncle died, I cleared his bungalow because he left it to my brother but my brother was not well.

Among his effects was a newspaper clipping about a 17yo American soldier who had crashed his plane near our home village in WW2 and was buried in the graveyard there.

Once the bungalow was sorted and sold and my uncle had been buried, I had more free time so I went to the graveyard to find the soldiers grave but it was hopeless. I had no idea where to look so I asked my uncle and the soldier where he was buried. I sort of relaxed, stopped looking at the names on the graves and just started walking and within a few minutes I was right in front of the young mans grave.

I said I was sorry that he died so young and thanked him for his service.

His family in NY were wealthy and had paid for a really elaborate cross and border which looked like new among the overgrown greenery.

I am so sorry for your loss.

The night before my Dad died, I could sense it. I couldn't sleep. I spent ages just gazing out the window. It was the middle of the night and the sky was clear and I watched a meteor shower around the time he died. Last time we saw one was on our last holiday with Dad. He died on my birthday too.

My died used to wear a gold chain with a Chinese good luck symbol on it. Everytime one of my grandparents died the morning before they died. He would find the chain on the bed not around his neck. It was the only time it ever came off.

My mum died suddenly as well with no illness beforehand. Many many strange things happened after but the most was me, my dad and my husband would see big bursts of light, just out of the corner of our eyes. It had never happened before she died and only happened for a couple of months after she died. It happened in the house she died in, our family home, and also in the new house we completed on just weeks after she died, which she had never visited. Given three of us saw this, at the same and different times, and I've never experienced the phenomenon since, i have no doubt this was connected to her death