Weird things happening around death

[Whatishappeninginmylife]

New username because this is specific.

my lovely mum died very suddenly this morning. It’s a huge shock. I couldn’t get there in time and am hundreds of miles away.

but. I lost a glove a few weeks ago. I was really annoyed about it and retraced my steps. Today, I took a route I don’t use that often, looked down and saw my glove in the gutter of the road. I’m sure this is coincidence but it’s very strange. What are the odds?!

Regale me with your unexpected tales please.

My dad was very green fingered and loved to garden. He pressed flowers and interesting leaves often. Decades later I still find them between the pages of books.

Exactly a week after my dad died a butterfly came into my house and landed on me, I sat still for over an hour not wanting it to move. It became a bit ridiculous so I decided to get on with my day. I’m not lying when I say the butterfly stayed on me for 5 hours, In that time I hoovered, cooked dinner, loaded the dishwasher among other house hold chores. It was just chilling on my head and would fly on to my hands when free and sit on my nose. It was so weird - eventually I tried to release the butterfly into my garden I placed it on a plant several times and it just flew straight back to me. I even ran inside at one point and it found me. In the end I passed it to my daughter, it stayed on her for a while then we took it into the garden and I said goodbye Dad it’s time to go and he flew away. If that wasn’t strange enough exactly one week after his funeral a butterfly visited again and did the same thing. Me and my Dad had a fractured relationship and I feel like he was saying sorry, I was able to say sorry too. I was at peace after that day. To me there is no other explanation than him trying to communicate with me before he left this world for good. I have photos and videos it really was a bizarre but healing experience.

I am so sorry for your loss op.
My beautiful aunt ( who was like a mum to me as mine died when I was 17) died very suddenly in April 2023. She absolutely loved Christmas. I was doing a bit of cleaning before putting up my decorations last year and found a Christmas card behind a cupboard. It was the last Christmas card she gave us before she died. I couldn’t believe it, if it hadn’t fallen it would have gone in the recycling with the other cards. It will be displayed every Christmas from now on. 🥰

I am so sorry for your loss xxx
when Grandma was dying, I was in the garden and I saw a red admiral butterfly on the garage wall, nowhere near the flowers! It stayed there a good while before it flew off.

I recently lost my friend of 50 years suddenly in tragic circumstances and one day I was really struggling to process it so decided to take my dog for a walk at a local park to try and clear my head as I was walking through the park my phone rang and it was another mutual friend I sat down on one of the benches and we were talking about what had happened as well as other stuff when a beautiful robin flew over and landed on the arm of the bench next to me looked at me then flew off again.I like to think it was my friend letting me know he was now at peace.

I totally believe in woo but the elastic bands I’m afraid is explained by the post man. When you say hall do you mean a communal hall and you find them outside your front door? Mail is separated by elastic bands and our postie drops them all over the place!

Sorry for your loss 💛

I've had several since my Mum died. My Mum always bought my daughter her winter coat and boots for school (she loved buying the practical stuff, the cosy coat etc). The winter after Mum died we went shopping for winter clothes (my Dad buying, continuing her tradition), and my daughter spotted a coat she liked in a shop window. She tried it, loved it, and when it was being wrung through the till I spotted the style name of the coat was my Mum's name (this sounds made up, or at least embellished, however I promise it's not - entirely true!).

I needed to read this thread this morning, thank you.

My grandfather passed away whilst I was at university and I didn’t know. I was in town on the day he died and saw him crossing the road, or at least thought I did. The strange thing was that I didn’t think it was odd at all, despite the fact it couldn’t have been him (I was in Scotland and he lived in Wales). It was only later that day when I was told he’d died that I thought about it.

Sorry for your loss

When arranging my dad's funeral we couldn't decide on music. He'd spent years saying he wanted to go home, I was going home after the discussion about music jumped into the car and the beach boys sloop jon b was playing on the radio, the lyrics I want to go home stood out immensely.

My mum used to keep her hair in place with lots of hair grips and the morning after she died I found one attached to the little handle on top of our tea cosy. that was always a sign to me that she was around.

My dad was ill for a lot of his life and always wished he could fly. At his funeral my mum swore she saw a large pair of golden wings leave the coffin and fly upwards. It comforted her.

When my mum died I kept the silver locket she always wore and my sister kept her silver bracelet. Not long after her death I was away with work and went for an early morning run around the cliff/harbour. She loved the coast and I had a little cry about how much she’d had loved the view. As I ran back to my hotel I heard something land on the floor - the locket had come off the chain and fallen to the ground. The chain was secured firmly around my neck and there seemed to be no break in the link on the locket itself. I couldn’t get the locket back on the chain and needed jeweller to use tools to open/close the link to reattach it. My sister was skeptical, but a little while later she was sitting watching TV when her bracelet suddenly popped open and fell onto the floor. It wasn’t broken, just seemed to open/close and fall off by itself. She admitted then that she found it a bit spooky. Of course, it’s most likely that it’s a sign that my mum hadn’t kept up on her jewellery maintenance but I prefer to see it as a sign she’s still checking up on us…

Not long after those two things, I’d had a terrible day at work and went on a run to clear my head. I found a bunch of daffodils just lying in my path. Obviously someone had dropped them from their shopping bag, but they were my mum’s favourite flower and, again, it felt like a little sign that she’s still looking out for me.

I had a horrific health scare a few years ago when a scan showed a tumour on my liver.My children were very small children and it was a very difficult time for me.

One night I dreamt about my late grandma, who had died a couple of years earlier. She looked at my torso, then looked into eyes and gave me the warmest, most beautiful reassuring smile. When I woke up I knew I was going to be fine.

I can’t decide if it was my grandma visiting me when I needed her most, or my body’s way of giving me a symbol I recognised.

I know feathers are a bit of a cliché. But when my grandma died, my mum called me very early in the morning to let me know. I had already been up working at my desk in the window looking out on the garden, and as soon as I sat back down after the call had ended five perfect white feathers fell down onto the grass (there are five of us in our house and my grandma was close to us all). I don't usually believe in things like that but I went out and picked them up and still have them to this day.

My dad died after a short but awful cancer battle a long time ago. The funeral staff waited very respectfully as he died at home but informed we’d need to take his watch, rings etc off. They did that and we put them in a drawer. An hour or so later I went back just for no reason really to have a look at the watches - just to hold something of his I suppose - and the minute hand was spinning backwards of its own accord. I showed my mum who was in a daze really and didn’t take it in and I know it sounds implausible as I simply couldn’t believe what I was seeing. However, in a strange way I found it comforting. Never could explain it of course.

You got there before me!
What's the need to be so mean @CarpeVitam?

Sorry for your loss @Whatishappeninginmylife 💔
Some of these stories are really beautiful, and completely give me goosebumps.

When my Nan died a grandfather clock started working that hadn’t for years. It just suddenly chimed.

@MrsArcher23 This is so beautiful. I recently lost my special 16 year old dog. He has a lot of care needs for the last couple of years and my first thought was who will look after him, it's a comfort to know our beloved family are there for them.

My fil had been very ill in hospital for weeks before he died. The last few days the hospital withdrew treatment and made him comfortable with morphine.
The night before he died I got up in the middle of the night for the bathroom and thought I saw my fil in the hallway. He looked confused, bewildered, but in a calm way. In my mind I told him he was safe, it was ok, we loved him, don't be scared etc
All morning I kept getting these impressions that he was torn as he didn't want to leave mil but he was tired and knew the end was coming. I kept saying to him it's ok, we'll look after mil, we loved him etc
I still felt these impressions for a few days after he passed so I kept telling him he was at peace now, he's in a transition time and will be released to the new place soon, look for the warm bright light. Then I woke up one day and it had stopped.
I haven't told anyone before now.

After my grandad went into a care home (nan was still alive but already in the care home) I took a mostly dead pot plant from their kitchen and brought it home. The day my grandad passed away I came downstairs to get a cuppa and the plant had about 5 big pink flowers that had come from absolutely nowhere. It was in January aswell. I was shocked. Then my nan died a few months later, and the exact same thing happened again. I was so shocked again that I took photos and sent them to a friend. It’s a plant that has heart shaped flowers - can’t remember the name. It’s only flowered once since and nowhere near with the same amount of flowers. It’s only a pot plant but having it in my kitchen is a big comfort to me!

I've no stories per se but I wanted to say how deeply sorry I am for your loss OP.

I lost my mum suddenly and unexpectedly and I didn't get to her in time (my dad and sibling were with her as it happened at home). It was the single most difficult thing I've ever had to cope with.

Ever since losing her I've had such a pronounced reaction to all things nature. It's like I see things with a clarity I didn't before. I see beauty in everything. I notice the small things. I read the most beautiful quote the day after she died about us all being part of the universe when we die and it's just made me really see the small wonders.

Every little beautiful thing leads me back to my mum ❤️

I hope in time you are able to find your own comfort and solace.

My beloved dog Molly had to be put to sleep. I was devastated. I've been a Dogs Trust supporter for years, and get cards from them throughout the year. Two weeks after losing Molly, a Valentine card came from the Dogs Trust, with a photo of one of their rescue dogs, who was the image of Molly, in a heart shape, saying "I love you". These cards were sent to all supporters, with a random choice of Dogs on them. This dog was the image of Molly, it really felt like she was sending me a message. I kept the card in a box with her old collar and one of her toys.

Not long after my DM died we went on holiday to a Haven-type site. Stood in a queue in the little shop we were surrounded by the usual tat-with-names-on for the kids.

At the front of the rows of beaded purses were two, Patricia and Jean, my mums name.

I am kicking myself for not taking a photo.

I'm so very sorry for your loss OP. You must be in total shock

My own mum died suddenly a few years ago. A few days beforehand our cat, who usually didn't bother mum as she must have sensed mum wasn't keen on cats, suddenly wouldn't leave her alone, miaowing, climbing up on her. We couldn't understand it at the time but cats are supposed to be very intuitive and I wonder to this day whether she sensed mum would pass the next week 😞

That's really horrible