Fed up of getting up late every morning

[myhorseforaring]

Regardless of what time I go to bed, I can never get up in the morning on any day. I usually lie in bed until the very last point I can, which is 8.25am on a week day or sometimes 9.30am and then I roll out onto my home desk (in diff room). I hate how this makes me feel - sluggish and demotivated with zero energy. The other day I had to be at the local shop at 7.30am. While there, I saw school children who were at the shop on their way to school. Workmen in their vans, also on route to work. These people were up, ready and out at a time when I am usually struggling to turn off the alarm let alone getting up. There is a whole world of activities going on while I lie on bed wasting my life/time and feeling sluggish and crap for it.

I would love to be a 6am morning person. I could then do the gym, sort laundry, get ahead for the day. It would make me feel so much more energised.

But getting up is just so exhausting

What time do you go to bed and do you sleep well?

I hate getting up early. I really need my sleep and I find it such a struggle to get up early especially in winter.

But on the occasions I do it, I do feel better for it. Getting up even half an hour earlier gives me more time to get organised in the mornings. It gives me time for a quick dog walk. It means I may have time to prep something healthy and free for lunch instead of going to the bakery!

It's definitely worth it if you can do it. But I don't do it often enough.

No advice as I'm the exact same. I'd love to get up, have breakfast, do a work out, shower and start work at 9am.

Instead, I'm a slug and slime out of bed at 8.55am.

I was genuinely going to start a similar thread! I could lie in bed all day and still go around in a foggy exhaustion. I've always had this tendency since my teens but it goes through some phases where it's worse. Very bad at the moment but I'm sleeping well. I seem to be stressds and tired with no energy or relaxed and tired with no energy. I think night time eating might be a factor, if your body needs to wake to eat it will make you wake. Starting tomorrow I'm on a bit of a detox as i never recovered from my Christmas binge and I'm going to monitor if no eating after dinner helps.

What is your morning routine? I used to be dreadful in the morning. I'd set about 5 alarms, get up at the last one, then rush around to get showered, bag ready etc. Now I do as much as I can the night before (including shower). So all I have to do is brush teeth and wash face, dress and eat breakfast. However I also get up early enough to do a (short) yoga video. Basically I've made my morning work for me, rather than feeling I had to shower in the morning. Don't know if thinking about that might help.

Is there anything that could motivate you say like half an hour to have a nice coffee? A nice breakfast? If it's making you feel crap then you need to try to find a way to change your routine so you wake up feeling good and ready to go

@Wizomania when wfh I get up 8.25 -9.30am (work flexi hours and need to start between 7&10am), I will have turned off around 5 alarms since 6am. Some days I might brush my teeth, some days I don't. I put on old shitty tatty clothes, no underwear, then start work. No wash, no hair brush, no makeup.i have a bath every night. I make every excuse I can not to go into the office twice a week, simply because I can't be bothered to get up or get ready. Once up I have no time to sort anything else in the morning. I would love to do some exercise. If Im on the school run (the 8.25am get up for me) then I sometimes go back to bed afterwards until 9.30am. I don't leave the house in the day at all when wfh. I sit at my home desk unmotivated, sluggish and CBA.

I desperately need to sort this out

Lay your clothes out the night before and make yourself get up and get ready, it will make you feel a hundred times better. If you're sitting around without getting yourself ready you're going to feel rubbish!

Could your reluctance to get up be symptomatic of a bigger issue? Worth some thought. Aside from that, if it’s just a case of motivation, well you can work on that. You clearly can get up if you need to.

Following because i am exactly this

Roll out ofbl bed to get dd up and to school

I've now switched to morning baths for her, so have to get up a bit earlier but I really wanna be a morning person 😟

I’m with you. Could you maybe be having too much sleep? Anything more than 7 hours and I feel groggy. I tend to feel better on the days where I have to get up early.

Maybe worth a GP appointment to rule out any physical causes like vitamin deficiencies. I always feel sluggish if my ferritin is low.

Do you perk up later in the day?

I'm a late person. I really wish I was an early person because I think it's a lot more practical. Unfortunately, I just cannot seem to change. I would always rather work late than start early.

Sounds a bit like mild depression. Could be the wfh every day with no interaction with anyone. I would make the effort to get in the office, I find a day around people often perks me up and gives you reason to get up and go.

Maybe you are setting too many alarms, from too early, and so giving yourself too many chances?

I find when I put the snooze function on then I will slug about much more than if I just have the one alarm and know I need to get up or otherwise will fall back to sleep and oversleep.

Perhaps decide a sensible time that is a bit earlier than normal but not crazy - 8am - and set it for then but only set the one alarm and tell yourself you will get up. Even if getting up is just getting dressed to go downstairs and having a coffee and sitting about for 30 minutes. Just do that for a few days until it gets easier then try and add in going out for a quick walk as well before you start work.

I used to have to walk my son to school which took about 15 minutes, but he now doesn't need that and I really miss that early morning walk as I don't do it anymore because I don't need to for him – but I think I really need to get back into doing it for me!

How old are you?
What kind of work do you do?.

@MagdaLenor 52, work in IT

This was pretty much me last year. I had bloods done and it was discovered I had extremely low vit D and had to be put on emergency ampoules to get it up asap. After this I did feel significant more energised and it did increase my ability to be able to get earlier in the morning without it being such a physically difficult chore. So maybe go to your GP for this?

Ok. Do you find that you have a problem with the job? I'm wondering if it's not very demanding or stimulating enough for you?
52 is still young, but you could have an iron or vitamin deficiency?

That's actually a good idea because she doesn't leave the house much to get any sunshine.

I'm the exact same, OP, with the same thoughts about everyone else being up and about.

How i ever got to the office by 9am five days a week, showered, hair dried & curled, makeup, professional attire and a 20-mile commute plus 15 min walk from car park is beyond me. It seems surreal now after 5 years wfh.

@BettyBardMacDonald do you think you needed the structure and stimulus of working outside the home?

Have you had bloods done recently at the dr?
Do you take a multivitamin? Everyone should take at least vitamin D in the UK.

If hormonal imbalance (menopause) or deficiencies are ruled out then you should consider depression.

And that was my issue also as I had been recovering from a shoulder and foot injury so worked from home all week and was pretty much housebound most of last year so saw zero daylight. I thought I was going mad. I was exhausted all the time and even though I didn’t have to travel into the office once work was over, I just sat at my desk immobilised for hours with overwhelming tiredness . So I really empathise with anyone going through the same!

How is your thyroid?

I felt like this a few years ago and it turned out I had under active thyroid.

Now it's controlled on medication and I leap out of bed at 6.15 no problem.

@MagdaLenor

In a way, yes. I love not commuting but i also live alone and it's difficult to stay motivated.

The last few years in office I was in a sort of overflow area away from colleagues so didn't really see anyone most days anyway. And my current manager is almost totally hands off. So very little interaction.

I am 61 so can supervise myself but it's very isolating (I'm in comms ironically, mainly doing a couple of websites and newsletters). Wish I had a more interactive role.

Massive insomnia doesn't help.