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Ex has completely ignored consent order-at my wits end-broke, no money for legals- googling and in a blind panic- hand hold, advice,signposting- anything would be greatly appreciated

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Farquinell · 26/02/2025 11:04

In a nutshell

Finally found the courage to leave an abusive man and a hideous marriage
divorced - it was hell

He’s refusing to sign over a small property to me as directed by the court

I don’t have money to pay for legal advice (am in debt to the tune of £30k- just to get me to consent order) no legal cover with any insurances , I checked.

Does anyone here know what application form I would submit to the court myself? I can only find enforcement applications for child arrangement order or money owed

I’m so stressed from it all that I’m frozen and not able to snap out of it . Ex does not want to sign over to me as this would leave me free to sell/move away from the area which I plan to do as he has escalated his behaviour and this is the last piece of control he has left.

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Aknifewith16blades · 26/02/2025 11:12

Talk to https://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk/ first OP.

Also https://survivingeconomicabuse.org/i-need-help/

Also Women's Aid if you think he may escalate.

ElsaMars · 26/02/2025 11:13

Perhaps also pot this in legal?

Fuuuuuckit · 26/02/2025 11:16

Get on the wikivorce website op. Their forum got me through my divorce a decade ago.

You can apply to court for a judge to sign the paperwork. It should be one form to apply, possibly a couple of hundred quid in fees.

I hear you re the frozen bit - my ex was relentless.

You will come out of this eventually, I promise. You will be stronger for it too.

Take care <unmumsnetty hugs>

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Farquinell · 26/02/2025 11:26

Fuuuuuckit · 26/02/2025 11:16

Get on the wikivorce website op. Their forum got me through my divorce a decade ago.

You can apply to court for a judge to sign the paperwork. It should be one form to apply, possibly a couple of hundred quid in fees.

I hear you re the frozen bit - my ex was relentless.

You will come out of this eventually, I promise. You will be stronger for it too.

Take care <unmumsnetty hugs>

Thank you - I know you can make an application but I cannot specifically find what form it is - thank you for your reply though

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Sunat45degrees · 26/02/2025 11:33

I suggest you use an AI tool to help navigate this - I use ChatGPT. It's not 100% accurate necessarly but they are surprisingly effective, can adapt according to the details you provide and, most helpfully, can then signpost to other sources. I find it astonishingly helpful to cut through things when googling is not getting me where I need to be.

Sunat45degrees · 26/02/2025 11:35

I put your post into Chat GBT and got this:

I’m sorry to hear about the difficulties you’re facing. To enforce a court order requiring your ex-spouse to transfer property to you, you can apply to the court for enforcement. The appropriate form for this is Form D50K—“Notice of application for enforcement by such method of enforcement as the court may consider appropriate.” This form allows you to request the court to enforce the order through a method it deems suitable.

In situations where your ex-spouse refuses to sign the necessary documents for the property transfer, the court has the authority to appoint a nominated person, such as a judge, to sign on their behalf. This is done under Section 39 of the Senior Courts Act 1981.

Given your financial constraints, you might be eligible for fee assistance. You can apply for help with court fees using the EX160 form, which assesses your financial situation to determine eligibility for a fee waiver or reduction.

Additionally, since you’ve experienced domestic abuse, you may qualify for legal aid. Organizations like Rights of Women offer guidance on accessing legal aid for those who have faced domestic violence.

Sunat45degrees · 26/02/2025 11:36

If it was me, I'd now independenly research the forms and suggestions Chat GBT has made, but in my experience, this means I am closer to the answer and more able to ask the right questions when googling.

Good luck!

Foxgloverr · 26/02/2025 11:38

You should be eligible for legal aid. See if you can find a Citizens Advice legal centre near you. Lots of info here https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/law-and-courts/legal-system/finding-free-or-affordable-legal-help/

Foxgloverr · 26/02/2025 11:39

They will also help you fill out the forms.

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Farquinell · 26/02/2025 11:44

I’m not eligible for LA

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Farquinell · 26/02/2025 11:45

Sunat45degrees · 26/02/2025 11:35

I put your post into Chat GBT and got this:

I’m sorry to hear about the difficulties you’re facing. To enforce a court order requiring your ex-spouse to transfer property to you, you can apply to the court for enforcement. The appropriate form for this is Form D50K—“Notice of application for enforcement by such method of enforcement as the court may consider appropriate.” This form allows you to request the court to enforce the order through a method it deems suitable.

In situations where your ex-spouse refuses to sign the necessary documents for the property transfer, the court has the authority to appoint a nominated person, such as a judge, to sign on their behalf. This is done under Section 39 of the Senior Courts Act 1981.

Given your financial constraints, you might be eligible for fee assistance. You can apply for help with court fees using the EX160 form, which assesses your financial situation to determine eligibility for a fee waiver or reduction.

Additionally, since you’ve experienced domestic abuse, you may qualify for legal aid. Organizations like Rights of Women offer guidance on accessing legal aid for those who have faced domestic violence.

Thank you for doing this for me

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thequeenoftarts · 26/02/2025 12:09

The clerks in the courts are usually very helpful if you call them and explain the situation and ask them what paperwork you need to file. Explain you cant afford a solicitor at present and need help knowing what forms to use

statetrooperstacey · 26/02/2025 12:23

Agree with pp, call the court and speak to a person, they are really helpful and will point you in the right direction.

statetrooperstacey · 26/02/2025 12:25

Also, you're nearly there, you're on the home stretch now . Chin up tits out keep going . Best luck x

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