Without going into detail, I noticed immediately over Christmas and said he needed to get seen. I have zero personal experience of any STDs.
We've been together 13 years and have 2 kids. I haven't been unfaithful and I don't think he has.
He went to the GP and his female GP didn't know what it was so got a male GP in the room who also didn't know what it was. They said it was nothing to worry about.
I wasn't convinced and got him to make an appt at the local sexual health clinic. Having looked at LOTS of images of genital warts online, his looks benign and nothing like the images I've seen but I wasn't happy with the GPs "don't know" and knew it must be something without knowing what exactly.
He went to a clinic during the week and it turns out it's genital warts. He's in his 50s, I'm in my 40s. I don't know what to do now. I've read about it online but it seems to be conflicting info.
Apparently it could have been me that transmitted it without any visible warts but the virus living on my skin, or he could have had it lying dormant for years until he has developed a wart. There are so many variables. And no one knows.
But my worry is what happens now?? Can we have unprotected sex again when his symptoms have gone? Can I give him oral and vice versa?
I wasn't allowed in the appointment with him or allowed to join at the end which I was very angry about because it obviously affects me. He was told, yes it's genital warts, then sent outside to the waiting room to me and we were on our way. He couldn't remember everything he was told and couldn't answer my questions obviously. Apparently we can't have unprotected sex when he has visible warts which he needs to treat. But when there's no visible warts he can still have the virus living on his skin so it could still be transmissible. For fucks sake.
Now I'm left wondering what the hell I do. He's said we can still have sex but with a condom when he has the warts and I'm like are you kidding?? I'd be so paranoid he touched himself then me, or that he had other lesions I couldn't see and asking for a full inspection before we do anything isn't exactly a turn on. What kind of sex life do we have now as a married couple?
I actually can't believe this is happening.