Ours have talked to us about possible degree courses, a level choices etc
they are level headed about it all and we trust them
we don’t even know what jobs are going to be like in 10 years, with AI rapidly coming up the sidelines, so telling them to keep and open mind, be adaptable, enjoy learning, exploit all opportunities, which they do, and hopefully will continue
they are entering an uncertain world, youngsters mental health and pressure is huge, uni is vastly more expensive than it used to be, so building up resilience, social and emotional intelligence and keeping them calm and focused for exams overrides “future salary”
We want them to move about, take chances, make mistakes, not get tied down to a job, here, with a mortgage to pay in their 20s. They like learning, doing different things, exploring how far you can push ideas and theories, they are not same in same out day after day - but if that’s what they gave to do they will do it to the best of their abilities
it’s only on MN that money seems to matter above everything else
we’ve never had to say you are not doing that we like their ideas, passions, choices, we’ve given advice and the eldest took listened to us for his a level choices which was a new feeling!
maybe we have been lucky, or maybe our guidance has had more influenced than they let on, but so far so good, their university plan seems decent (eldest just doing GCSEs so it’s far from set in stone)
they a growing into decent, hardworking, smart, caring, strong young gentlemen who love others around them succeeding because if everyone’s bar is raised it’s raised for all if they can’t find a way to enjoy their adulthood then fuck knows what the world will look like
we are raising people who will be adults soon and make decisions regardless of our preferences- as it should be - did everyone do what their parents wanted?
one step at a time - their life their decisions