Does anyone else not enjoy going out?

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I'm starting to think im becoming a recluse lol I absolutely do not enjoy socialising ( unless it with my very very small group of friends, but even then I can take it or leave it.

My husband is the opposite, he really enjoys socialising with work people so he can't understand my feeling.

I have a work party on sat and I just don't want to go. Unfortunately I've said I'll go and. Have paid so I will go but I dreading it already.

I never used to be like this, I think it's since I've turned 40

Extroverts rarely understand introverts. They think there is something wrong with us.

Daytime meet ups are great. Nowadays they are the only socialising I enjoy anymore. It's not that often either, but a nice sunny day, late lunch, lingering on a terrace or pub garden with some drinks and a chat about anything, home in time for tea, is absolutely enjoyable. For me!

I do not like going out at night anymore, but will do it for a special occasion. Weddings are difficult, they go on for so long but again, I get in the spirit but am bloody glad when they are over!

Overall I prefer in that out and about.

It's the same the other way round as well.

On MN threads the introverts always assume that extroverts are loud and like the sound of their own voices.

In reality extroverts enjoy the company of other people more.

It does depend on the friends I think. I have a few lovely friends and family who I love to go out to eat/drink/holiday with. There are a couple others that I'm really not bothered about, we've drifted a bit over the years and I think we should not bother really. I do get a sense of dread with those.

For those who do not like going out at night - do you find it hard to retain friendships ? Asking because one of my friends loves a loud messy night out but I absolutely dread it these days. I dread going when she suggests. I don't mind a one-off messy/loud one for a birthday, hen etc. I regularly meet a very good friend in a local pub. it's good cheap food (you get what you pay for, type of thing), it's quiet and we are home by 10pm. It works for both of us. I also meet another group of good friends for dinner in the eve. We have a table all night, it's not loud, it's comfy and we are usually home 10.30pm ish. Again, works for all of us.

I love meeting my friend(s) every few weeks or so for the quieter nights, as we are all on the same page with what we want for a night out, other than that I love to either go to friends houses or them to us or on I'm on the sofa with DH in PJs by 8pm.

No as we get older (am 61) many people also do not go out in the evenings. It really isn't unusual. I just meet friends daytimes.

I avoid crowds like the plague after many years commuting in London. I live a more tranquil life these days.

Same. Sometimes don’t mind being out, but I hate the organisation of planning to go out, and travelling to get there etc.

I’m happy just to be in.

I'm doing lunch and a matinee performance at the theatre soon. I'll be going home in daylight.