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Bianca at the Grammys

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OrangeCarrot · 03/02/2025 11:15

I know Kanye is unhinged and it would take a special person to be with him but I can’t get over her (lack of) outfit at the Grammys.

I know the whole point for it is to be outrageous. I just hope it was her own idea…

for anyone that hasn’t seen it: https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/bianca-censori-kanye-west-grammys_n_679ffcbbe4b0702fa93fdfb1

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Yawningisinfectious · 03/02/2025 12:05

What I don't understand is they have performed similar stunts in various countries. Apparently breaking the law of these countries. And offending so many people. Why haven't they been prosecuted?
It's such one law for the rich,famous and powerful, another law for the rest of us that it's totally obscene.

Purif · 03/02/2025 12:08

Two attention seekers trying to stay relevant. Some of the “outfits” she wore or designed pre Kanye, are basically the exact same, see through barely there fabric

Lobelia123 · 03/02/2025 12:17

I think this is their kink that they are forcing on an unwilling public in the name of freedom of speech and artistic expression .... she gets off on humiliation and degradation / submission and he gets off on displaying his dominance and control. Its offensive and intrusive and makes me feel horrible, like being forced to watch someone elses sex life or foreplay

verityveritas · 03/02/2025 12:20

From reading the article she could be imprisoned for this latest immodest behaviour. I can't help thinking being imprisoned and away from him, might actually help her. I'm not convinced she has much agency over herself.

Sunnywalker · 03/02/2025 12:24

It’s hardly disgusting, it’s just a human body and very attractive one at that!

It’s just weird.

Agree with the poster saying she wants to present herself as human art. I don’t think she is being forced I think this has very much been curated.

People seem to want to “shock” now and name it feminism…… just like Bonnie Blue and Lilly Phillips.

TallulahBetty · 03/02/2025 12:28

Last I read, she'd left him? I can't make up my mind if she is being coerced or is a willing participant.

SpidersAreShitheads · 03/02/2025 12:33

Lobelia123 · 03/02/2025 12:17

I think this is their kink that they are forcing on an unwilling public in the name of freedom of speech and artistic expression .... she gets off on humiliation and degradation / submission and he gets off on displaying his dominance and control. Its offensive and intrusive and makes me feel horrible, like being forced to watch someone elses sex life or foreplay

^^I agree with this.

I've been thinking a lot about coercive control recently and how it can look, primarily because of the situation with Neil Gaiman and his revolting behaviour.

I agree with PP that even the most intelligent women can end up getting sucked in, unable to stand up for themselves against the most depraved behaviour. And it can look a lot like consent at first glance, so it's confusing to view from the outside and easy to misunderstand. But it's not true consent, freely given. The coercion is key.

The only thing I'd say with Bianca is that I think this is her kink too. I'm not convinced it's coercion. I've seen her when she's been out with her mum and sister wearing extremely revealing clothing that doesn't look comfortable in the slightest. I've also seen her wearing just regular skimpy/tight clothing when with them too so she would seem to have the choice? Also, pre-Kanye she had a history of wearing revealing/tight clothing although admittedly not to this extent. I think the whole facial expression is part of the performance.

I'm not convinced this is completely all on Kanye, much as I'm reluctant to cut him any slack. I think it's a combined kink that she enjoys too. Ultimately we can't be sure but I think the balance of evidence suggests that's the case.

Pair of fucking idiots. Shows that money can't buy class.

mummabubs · 03/02/2025 12:43

I don't have anything positive to say about Kanye, but also feel this was her responsibility to choose whether to do this or not. (Without knowing the ins and outs of their relationship it also wouldn't surprise me at all if he's a controlling knobhead).

Someone else has said this likely isn't going to be classed as indecent exposure due to it being in a private building, but I just can't shake that if a man had gone and stood there naked with his penis out there'd be absolute uproar. I'm sure there will be children who've seen her 'fashion choice' which was entirely and needlessly inappropriate. And to be honest as a grown woman I didn't appreciate it either. Just smacks of absolute attention seeking, which is sad.

wipeywipe · 03/02/2025 12:45

Why does she have to be a victim? There are idiots and attention seekers in both sexes.

mummabubs · 03/02/2025 12:45

FictionalCharacter · 03/02/2025 11:24

Sadly that doesn’t make a person resistant to abuse and coercive control. As we see from the constant flow of “Aibu to be unhappy about my partner’s appalling behaviour” threads on MN from intelligent, capable women.

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100% agree with this.

ilparadodosdoltos · 03/02/2025 12:51

Whether it’s coercive control or whether they’re equal partners, I have no idea. But separately from that, what pisses me off is that she’s getting all this attention for showing her fanny on a night that’s supposed to be celebrating all these women (and men) who have been working making music. Whatever one thinks of Beyoncé, Taylor, Sabrina, these women have been working hard and then a bare fanny turns up and takes all the attention away from them. Such a dick move (ironically).

wipeywipe · 03/02/2025 12:54

That's the point though isn't, everyone is talking about them.

Flux1 · 03/02/2025 12:55

All fur coar and no knickers....tacky

HornyHornersPinger · 03/02/2025 12:58

I think she's totally into it too. At first I felt bad for her thinking he was probably coercing her but it's been going on too long now. Her family and friends have had plenty of time to intervene since we 1st saw her arse out, plenty of opportunity to 'rescue' her if that's what she wanted...
Nah, she's getting a kick out of it too, not just him.

Whatnowthenfordone · 03/02/2025 12:59

He abused Kim K so I think it’s likely he’s doing the same to Bianca. In plain sight. She didn’t look comfortable keeping tugging at the hem.

StMarie4me · 03/02/2025 13:00

Also see Chrissy Tegan. Might as well be naked.

I despair.

StMarie4me · 03/02/2025 13:00

FictionalCharacter · 03/02/2025 11:19

Without doubt this is coercive control. A woman wearing something outrageous would normally look pleased with herself, and defiant. She never does, she always looks uncomfortable and frightened.

You reckon?

I think she is 100% complicit in this.

Whatnowthenfordone · 03/02/2025 13:01

HornyHornersPinger · 03/02/2025 12:58

I think she's totally into it too. At first I felt bad for her thinking he was probably coercing her but it's been going on too long now. Her family and friends have had plenty of time to intervene since we 1st saw her arse out, plenty of opportunity to 'rescue' her if that's what she wanted...
Nah, she's getting a kick out of it too, not just him.

It is not easy to escape abuse.

wipeywipe · 03/02/2025 13:05

He abused Kim K

Did he? she's not stopped the near naked photos, I think KW is just using the Kardashian playbook

Whatnowthenfordone · 03/02/2025 13:12

wipeywipe · 03/02/2025 13:05

He abused Kim K

Did he? she's not stopped the near naked photos, I think KW is just using the Kardashian playbook

When Kim finally left Kanye, he threatened her new boyfriend, Pete, and released a video of Pete being kidnapped, buried and decapitated. He made numerous threats, left them terrified, and told them if he didn’t have Kim no one would. This was on an international stage to one of the world’s richest and most powerful women.

He is an abuser.

ShowHouse · 03/02/2025 13:16

He's using her to keep himself in the lime light, so why don't they switch roles and let him wear nothing. It's obscene

wipeywipe · 03/02/2025 13:19

I'm not sure why he sees the dc. If I thought B & Ks relationship was abusive I wouldn't allow my dc around it. I mean I wouldn't allow my dc around this in the first place due to the outfit choices & surgery but I don't think Kim sees it as a problem.

CagneyNYPD1 · 03/02/2025 13:20

ilparadodosdoltos · 03/02/2025 12:51

Whether it’s coercive control or whether they’re equal partners, I have no idea. But separately from that, what pisses me off is that she’s getting all this attention for showing her fanny on a night that’s supposed to be celebrating all these women (and men) who have been working making music. Whatever one thinks of Beyoncé, Taylor, Sabrina, these women have been working hard and then a bare fanny turns up and takes all the attention away from them. Such a dick move (ironically).

This.

justasking111 · 03/02/2025 13:23

Woman wearing prostitutes outfits again. Media block it all out. Apart from people present at that moment who's seeing her naked.

wipeywipe · 03/02/2025 13:25

If they really wanted to shock she should have rejected the surgery & rocked up with a belly roll or two! 😆