Who's "your person"?

[BigJanette]

I've been ill so have been comfort watching the earlier series of Grey's Anatomy.

“You're my person” is a line from the TV show Grey's Anatomy that describes the close relationship between Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang. The phrase conveys the idea that someone is there for you, no matter what, and that you understand each other without needing to explain yourself.

My person (outwith of family) is a friend I've known for 23 years and counting.
We're both very silly but we "get" each other.
She called me at 6.30am last week to ask which colour carpet should she go for?
I, still more asleep than awake, said "What???! When do you need to decide by?"
She said "Ermm... this morning".
I know, it's a definite "you had to be there" moment but it just illustrates the fact she felt absolutely fine with calling at that time about something so inconsequential 😄

Do you have a person?

My DH. We've been together since our teens and are absolutely best friends. I can count the amount of times we have argued on one hand. Now the kids are older, we have so much more time together and we have the best times. He really is my everything.

How are you not able to stop doing it if you are very aware you are doing it?

it is possible to stop

Literally no one.
For 15 years I thought my husband was my person, but it turns out actually he is a monster and I am just a fool

My best friend. We've been friends since we were three years old (we're 35 this year) and she is the person I trust most in the world. She always has my back, absolutely gets me, is 100% on my side and is probably the best person I know (apart from my ds).

I absolutely adore her. I'm very very lucky to have such an amazing human as my person.

My best friend from university days. We have kept in touch, with snail mail before mobile phones, and our friendship has lasted 25 years. We live in different countries now, so rarely get a chance to meet up in person but we message each other regularly. She has been with me, albeit at a distance, all of my adult life. I am so grateful for her wisdom, humour and friendship.

My husband

Been with since 18 , now 66

He kept me safe when I had a mental breakdown

Same here.

Sorry for the loss of your person and to others on the thread. I'm grateful for what we had, and life goes on...but obviously I'm drawn to this thread and it's a scar that I live with rather than is healed and gone.

My sister. She is amazing and we have a close bond.
I had a best friend and she passed in 2019. She would have been my other person.

So sorry It’s so hard when our special ones pass away.

Lovely. My border collie x was also as you describe yours. When my mum died he really helped me in my grief. I love the way you write about your relationship together

So sorry that you have been betrayed

This made me cry, I am so sorry 😞

I want to say DH but it really is my sister. We are very close and godmother to my children.
I phoned my sister mid-pee whilst taking a pregnancy test, we both found out at the same time. I’m very close to my sister and very blessed to have such a good relationship with her.

I'm sorry

it’s part of being autistic. It burns me up inside if I don’t say anything.

Do you not realise that a lot of NT people feel the same when someone says something factually incorrect and the temptation to correct them is very strong ….are you really not able to stop yourself or do you just want to correct them?

Not covering yourself in glory there @Greyish2025 , might want to drop it.

My DH, my kids, my parents, my DSis. My DM and I have our ups and downs, but we are 100% there for each other. I have friends, but no one I could 100% count on - family comes first.

Thank you so much for posting this - I received my diagnosis of autism last year and it really helped me to understand why I have no friends. Plenty of acquaintences but no ‘you’re my person’ friends. Up to my diagnosis it had been a source of sadness and bewilderment. Thank you for articulating so clearly what it is like

It’s a valid question

And the answer is that she has autism. Pretty basic knowledge that someone with autism would find that more difficult than someone who is NT, in the very general sense.

It seems you answered it yourself through your own posts - you seem unable to not speak too.

I actually know a couple of autistic people who are able to control the urge as they are aware it can annoy people

And? PP isn't.

I had a best friend from school, right through until our 30s I used to say if she died I'd die too because I couldn't live without her. The only person who knows everything about me.
Sadly we've drifted apart :( I got married and had children whereas she is child free by choice and I think it caused us to have different lifestyles. We still talk by message but it's not like it's used to be and I miss her so much. She has new friends whereas I don't. It's quite sad , I try not to think too much about it.
I would say she was my person.

Nowadays, I'd say it's my husband. But in a way I would still say I was never more myself than I was with her. Q