Who's "your person"?

[BigJanette]

I've been ill so have been comfort watching the earlier series of Grey's Anatomy.

“You're my person” is a line from the TV show Grey's Anatomy that describes the close relationship between Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang. The phrase conveys the idea that someone is there for you, no matter what, and that you understand each other without needing to explain yourself.

My person (outwith of family) is a friend I've known for 23 years and counting.
We're both very silly but we "get" each other.
She called me at 6.30am last week to ask which colour carpet should she go for?
I, still more asleep than awake, said "What???! When do you need to decide by?"
She said "Ermm... this morning".
I know, it's a definite "you had to be there" moment but it just illustrates the fact she felt absolutely fine with calling at that time about something so inconsequential 😄

Do you have a person?

Dh, ds and mum. Dad too when he was alive.

I don't think anyone would quite meet the definition of 'my person' in the way that you mean it - I'm just one of those people who always has a part of them completely closed off, really.

But my DP would be the closest! He certainly 'gets' me more than anyone else. I can say things and make jokes in front of him that I could never in a billion years say to anyone else without getting judged for them. We have a lot of the same quirks. We work at the same place and, very occasionally, we'll both be in the same meeting - afterwards it always transpires that we each knew exactly what the other was thinking the whole time.

Definitely my DH , we’ve been together a very long time . If any of you watched The Split Barcelona , when Nathan told Hannah they weren’t each others person anymore , I had tears streaming because I couldn’t image my DH not being my person and visa versa .

My dad. He raised my sisters and I on his own, doing the parts my mum was supposed to do too with so much love. Can’t imagine life without him.

Same here but I'm without mine now, hold onto him tightly. Also my DD, with whom I have a mother-daughter relationship I didn't have growing up. And a couple of female friends.

No one now. I haven't had one in 30 years, but my first boyfriend was my person. I could tell him anything and everything, and he could read me like a book. He really "got" me, like no one else every has. Once we broke up, sadly no one ever fit that role again.

My dog - a border collie x. She was my constant companion for 16 years. Calm, loyal, loving. We understood each other completely. Life became too hard for her recently and I had to let her go. I feel cut adrift and alone.

We would walk for miles and miles (when she was younger), and I would sit for a while on a certain tree stump overlooking the most amazing view, with her by my side. I buried her ashes at the tree stump last week, so I can sit there and enjoy the view with her once again.

I’d say my teenage son. I have very close friends, I adore my DH who I have been with for 26 years and I have a very close relationship with my DD, but…. my DS and I just instinctively get each other. He knows when I’m down or stressed without me having to say a word and vice versa. I don’t need to explain anything to him. We are so in tune with each other we have never argued or upset each other. I find him the easiest person to be around.

My middle daughter. She's amazing and always there for me

My best friend, of 48 years, who died last year, was my person. I miss her so much it hurts.

I have just told my (male) friend of 25 years that he is now, as it turns out, my person. Waiting to see what he says. We're very complicated.

Probably my partner in the first instance, but actually my ex husband would always be there too. We've 25 years of history, it ended because it had just run its course, no animosity on either side, and we have children.

I’m with the unconventional - my person is my ExH (amongst others), but he’s probably the first person I’d go to if I’ve got an issue and he just gets and understands me without me really having to say anything

I’ve had the same best friend since I was 12, so approaching 26 years. Outside of my relationship with my partner, she’s my person.

We’ve been through first boyfriends, first loves, various psycho ex’s, a marriage each and my divorce. We have seen the very best and the very worst of each other, and I don’t know who I’d be without her.

I know for an actual fact I could call her at any hour, of any day, and that woman would answer. We’d go to the ends of the earth for each other.

She’s honestly the only person who I take any form of lecture from, she’s my biggest cheerleader and harshest critic. She sees right through me.

If we didn’t have partners, we’d have each other!

My mum, without a doubt, she has her opinions but is always there no matter what. Dd is 12 and very much similar.

My DH and my mum and dad. I adore my DC but I think that's a different kind of relationship.

Same here on ExH... he is someone who will always get me and will do anything for me and DC and vice versa.

Makes me somewhat sad and question why we aren't together but that's another thread altogether.

I'm rewatching Greys as well

I don't have one person. I have a husband and a son and family and friends. I have people but not a specific person.

My DP he knows me inside out, loves me at my worst and my best. He supports everything I do and always tell me how much he loves me. He is also an amazing father. Ahhhh I feel bad for telling him he was breathing too loud earlier now

My dad was but I’m NC with my mum and he went NC too. I miss him and he’s getting old.
My DP, only together 3.5 years and he doesn’t speak English but he gets me - he is my person. I’m sad I found him so much later in life after 2 long term disastrous relationships. If only when I first met him 10 years ago I said something……
My baby brother, 11 years younger.

My dp. We've only been together 4 years. I feel guilty that I feel so bonded with him tbh because I was widowed and my dh was my person for many years. Dp and I are different but I am becoming incomplete without him.

Im very sorry @DoAWheelie

DH and my sister. And increasingly, now she is a fully fledged adult, DD.

My bestie is my person. We're both in our 50's and have known each other since we were 7. I literally talk to her about everything, warts and all. I trust her opinions implicitly and I love her unconditionally. I'm very lucky.

I'm so sorry @DoAWheelie. I hope you are doing ok

I want a person and I want to be a person for someone!

I have a wonderful DH, a darling Dd who I’m v close to and a couple of v good friends - but none of them is my ride or die person.

And I don’t think I am for anyone else either - which is gutting. Would love to have someone in my life who just gets me fully - and will go out of their way to do things just because I like certain things or to make me laugh or cheer me up…

I think it’s life enhancing when you just know you have someone who gets it and gets you!
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