Kelsey Parker (Tom Parker from the Wanted's widow) pregnant

[TonyMammoth]

What are thoughts on this? I read this morning that Kelsey is pregnant by her new boyfriend who's a tree surgeon called Will. He looks a really decent bloke from the article I saw. She was in the news for starting a relationship with a man who had been in prison for manslaughter 8 months after Tom's death and this man seems to be the total opposite, seems they have been together since some time last year.

Do people think it's too quick? Tom's parents have said they're happy for them, but is that being diplomatic because of the possibility of later down the line not being able to see their grandchildren.

None of anybody else's business, of course, but it seems they want it to be people's business when these stories are posted all over the internet and they state they are "going public".

Interested in thoughts and if they are the same as friends with children that I have.

@TonyMammoth

The irony of your post when you literally type " none of anybody else's business of course".

You really should take your own advice.

Seriously, when stories are posted online with comments encouraged, is it nobody's business? Or is this the media sticking their oar in?

Being widowed shouldn't define anyone's life.

He died 2 years ago, after a 2 year terminal illness, during which she had to come to terms with his inevitable death. I had no idea who she was, nor he- had to look him up, but it’s no-one’s business how and when she chooses to move on.

Ooft now THATS a nasty comment. Not ops.

What's the opinions of your friends that you mention in your opening post?

Good for her.

I think if Kelsey wasn't in the public eye but was Jenny from Cleethorpes who had written on MN asking for advice she'd be given the standard advice about waiting until the children had grown up. That isn't right in every case.

Maybe, because Jenny would have written the post about her own family and asked for advice.

But aren't the person in question, you're a stranger speculating about someone else's life.

And your post wasn't neutral, parts of it were dripping in judgement.

Good for her, she is moving on. Same way sky sports presenter Simon Thomas had after his first wife died of leukaemia. 4 years later he had remarried & had a new daughter.

I actually think the press should leave her alone. It's sad what happened to Tom and what they have been through. She and her family deserve some happiness and peace. She's a young woman with the rest of her life ahead of her.

Mixed.

"Trying to replace Tom"
"Good for her and nice for the kids to have a sibling and a father figure"
"It's too soon for me"

These are friends with young kids themselves. I've got one friend who got engaged to a new man six months after her husband died, age 32, married five months after that. No kids together, but he had two from his first marriage (divorced). Still together and happy now.

@monsterfish I think Simon and his new wife are expecting another baby.

@TonyMammoth

"Seriously, when stories are posted online with comments encouraged, is it nobody's business?"

Again, with respect, you're the one who has started a thread about it so I feel it is ironic you saying it's "nobody's business"!

Why would the press be contacting her - she's not a celebrity, her late husband was. It's the fact she's making money using his name that gets my back up. Move on and let the man rest in peace.

This is the thread equivalent of the daily mail harassing people going about their normal private life.

But in those threads it’s usually a discussion instigated by one of the parties involved, so there is relevance and context, the ability to ask questions and clarify information. It’s also a two way process that benefits the person who started the thread.

Sorry to pile on, OP, but this type of thread is just completely mindless, idle speculation based on gossip and rag journalism, about people nobody knows, in a situation none of us can possibly have any insight into.

You think he ‘looks like a decent guy’. Based on what?! He probably is. He may be a raging arsehole. Either way, I’m not sure how anyone here can offer an opinion either way, or what possible benefit there is in doing so.

Nobody has a clue what goes on behind closed doors in the marriages of the people they see every day, let alone people they’ve never met.

They will absolutely be contacting her, you'd be surprised how many people you don't think would be doorstepped or asked for comment etc actually are.

She'll be contacted by the press and it will be reported on regardless. I understand her taking control of the narrative and making a statement / post herself.

OP Are you a journalist trying to get a quote to create a story about ‘is it too soon?’
If so, shame on you.

That's true. Kirstie Allsopp got married recently and tried to keep it private but paparazzi still rocked up. It's a good read to see how she took control of that.

@Hermyknee I am not a journalist. However, "too soon" meaning what? Too soon after losing Tom? It's been three years, that's not "soon". Too soon after meeting a new man? That's up to the individual.

Remember we all deal with things differently and where a loved one has an illness and their passing is expected we do begin to process the information. I can't imagine what she went through and I'm pleased if she can find happiness, length of time is irrelevant because as I say, we are all different

I don't think it's anyone's business to judge on someone else's life. Unfortunately, life isn't black and white, there's lots of grey areas. I'm sure Tom would have wanted his wife to find happiness again in her life. She's still young, and I don't think it's realistic to expect her to grieve forever and put her life on hold. Losing someone in death to divorcing is completely different. She will love Tom forever, but equally she will love her new partner, it will just be a different love. As for a baby, if it's right for them, then that's all that matters.

She is probably one of us who cannot be single for a length of time - and that's fine - often they find someone who is the same and have a great ongoing relationship. Not sure why she's in the press at all. Hopefully can have a quiet and enjoyable family life.

How 'quick' is too quick?

How long has she got to be on her own?

When is a suitable time to meet someone new?

Should she let a good one go because she hasn't worn widow's weeds for long enough?

Frankly it's no-one's business, your post is horrible and anyone who thinks she shouldn't be happy can just fuck off

Your friends aren't very nice either

And no-one knows till it happens to them, what they'd do

My husband died almost three years ago, I loved him beyond words and it's a long, hard, fucking lonely journey. She is moving forward with life and I wish her every happiness in her new relationship, seeing people judge you like that must be so painful. The world and his wife seems to have an opinion on your life when you find yourself widowed.

Nobody's beeswax but theirs. What a weird thread, some people need to get a life