Kelsey Parker (Tom Parker from the Wanted's widow) pregnant

TonyMammoth · 2025-01-26T10:17:11+00:00

What are thoughts on this? I read this morning that Kelsey is pregnant by her new boyfriend who's a tree surgeon called Will. He looks a really decent bloke from the article I saw. She was in the news for starting a relationship with a man who had been in prison for manslaughter 8 months after Tom's death and this man seems to be the total opposite, seems they have been together since some time last year. Do people think it's too quick? Tom's parents have said they're happy for them, but is that being diplomatic because of the possibility of later down the line not being able to see their grandchildren. None of anybody else's business, of course, but it seems they want it to be people's business when these stories are posted all over the internet and they state they are "going public". Interested in thoughts and if they are the same as friends with children that I have.

whathaveiforgotten · 26/01/2025 10:19

Goodness, what an unkind and needless thread to start about a pregnant widow and mum.

mandarinchocolate · 26/01/2025 10:20

It's lovely that she has found love and happiness.
As for you, OP, this was a needless and nasty post.

LlynTegid · 26/01/2025 10:21

I wish for a trouble free pregnancy and a healthy baby brought up in a loving family.

DaisyChain505 · 26/01/2025 10:22

Until you’re in that situation and dealt those terrible cards you never now how you’re going to feel or what you’ll do.

It’s a personally and individual journey and there is no “right” course to take.

I wish her a happy and healthy pregnancy and life.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 26/01/2025 10:23

I don't think it's something to start a thread on. How unpleasant.

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TonyMammoth · 26/01/2025 10:24

It isn't meant to be unkind. I'm sorry it comes over that way.

I've read comments on posts about this story elsewhere and they are unkind, so I was looking for balance. I read so many posts on MN where posters ask about moving boyfriends in and blending families and they're always told it's too soon, you'll upset the kids and things like this. This doesn't look like that, so it's clear it's not always wrong to do that.

The new partner looks a thoroughly decent guy and they all look happy.

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Whereohwhereohwhere · 26/01/2025 10:24

Seriously none of your business.

Thisisthemomentforchange · 26/01/2025 10:24

DaisyChain505 · 26/01/2025 10:22

Until you’re in that situation and dealt those terrible cards you never now how you’re going to feel or what you’ll do.

It’s a personally and individual journey and there is no “right” course to take.

I wish her a happy and healthy pregnancy and life.

I totally agree with this.

spilltheteapot · 26/01/2025 10:24

He died nearly 3 years ago. I think it’s healthier that his widow is moving on with her life. Good luck to all of them.

ThanksMrNarwhal · 26/01/2025 10:25

I think she deserves every happiness after going through hell, I hope she has a very healthy pregnancy and all the best

RachelGreensHair · 26/01/2025 10:26

I don't have any thoughts on it as it's nothing to do with. Both herself and Tom's kids have been through so much, without Internet strangers commenting.

adviceneeded1990 · 26/01/2025 10:27

TonyMammoth · 26/01/2025 10:24

It isn't meant to be unkind. I'm sorry it comes over that way.

I've read comments on posts about this story elsewhere and they are unkind, so I was looking for balance. I read so many posts on MN where posters ask about moving boyfriends in and blending families and they're always told it's too soon, you'll upset the kids and things like this. This doesn't look like that, so it's clear it's not always wrong to do that.

The new partner looks a thoroughly decent guy and they all look happy.

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I see your point here. Most MN posters encourage separated and divorced women to not blend families or have relationships until their children are grown up, or certainly not for many years. I’ve seen things like “a year is far too soon to introduce.” But if there’s been a death, arguably more traumatic than a divorce, then it’s fine to blend and have more children? I’m happy for her and wish her well but I’ve never been a “you can never move on while you have children at home” person.

jimmyateworld · 26/01/2025 10:27

TonyMammoth · 26/01/2025 10:24

It isn't meant to be unkind. I'm sorry it comes over that way.

I've read comments on posts about this story elsewhere and they are unkind, so I was looking for balance. I read so many posts on MN where posters ask about moving boyfriends in and blending families and they're always told it's too soon, you'll upset the kids and things like this. This doesn't look like that, so it's clear it's not always wrong to do that.

The new partner looks a thoroughly decent guy and they all look happy.

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I understand what you mean op. On Mumsnet women are absolutely slaughtered for moving on too fast when they have kids.

For the record they seem happy, I guess she didn't think life would turn out the way it has for her ! I'm sure Tom would be happy she is happy and wouldn't want her to spend the rest of her life alone

jimmyateworld · 26/01/2025 10:28

@adviceneeded1990 it's that Mumsnet hypocrisy again !

BarbaraHoward · 26/01/2025 10:28

Sure feels like you want people to judge OP.

I wish them every happiness - poor woman deserves a bit of joy.

ToBeOrNotToBee · 26/01/2025 10:29

What do I think?
Well truth be told I haven't given it any thought.
She and her family deserve all the happiness in the world.

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TonyMammoth · 26/01/2025 10:30

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 26/01/2025 10:23

I don't think it's something to start a thread on. How unpleasant.

Conversely, I think it's an example of where blending families can work even if it is relatively fast (in terms of length of relationship, not length of widowhood). The whole family seems delighted from seeing her posts. There will always be differences of opinion. Especially in public facing people. Simon Thomas got a lot of negativity and saying it was too soon when he remarried. So did the man who was married to Caron Keating. They've proved it was the right thing.

These children won't have many memories of their dad especially the youngest one, and they've said they keep his memory alive for them, too.

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Gazelda · 26/01/2025 10:31

Your post is well written and comes across as wanting to start a discussion.

However the tone is purely one of wanting to gossip about a young pregnant widowed mother.

I sense your judgement and it isn't pleasant.

Nicecuppatea2025 · 26/01/2025 10:31

TonyMammoth · 26/01/2025 10:30

Conversely, I think it's an example of where blending families can work even if it is relatively fast (in terms of length of relationship, not length of widowhood). The whole family seems delighted from seeing her posts. There will always be differences of opinion. Especially in public facing people. Simon Thomas got a lot of negativity and saying it was too soon when he remarried. So did the man who was married to Caron Keating. They've proved it was the right thing.

These children won't have many memories of their dad especially the youngest one, and they've said they keep his memory alive for them, too.

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I’m sorry OP I think this thread is a bit unpleasant.

andyouwillknowusbythetrailofdead · 26/01/2025 10:32

Gosh what a horrible lot of speculation. She has lost her husband cruelly young and seems to have found love with a stable and honest man. Why on Earth would anyone not approve? Is she meant to stay in widow's weeds forevermore?

heartbroken22 · 26/01/2025 10:32

No harm in starting a discussion. I've seen a lot of nasty comments about her choice under the article.

It's her life her choice. I'm happy that she's found someone. Losing a spouse isn't easy. I'd rather her be happy than depressed. Happy mum = happy kids.

whathaveiforgotten · 26/01/2025 10:32

You showed yourself up with this bit OP.

None of anybody else's business, of course, but it seems they want it to be people's business when these stories are posted all over the internet and they state they are "going public".

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TonyMammoth · 26/01/2025 10:35

Gazelda · 26/01/2025 10:31

Your post is well written and comes across as wanting to start a discussion.

However the tone is purely one of wanting to gossip about a young pregnant widowed mother.

I sense your judgement and it isn't pleasant.

Yes, the discussion I wanted to start was about advice given on MN to someone in this position. I read the news article this morning and this was the starting point. I think if Kelsey wasn't in the public eye but was Jenny from Cleethorpes who had written on MN asking for advice she'd be given the standard advice about waiting until the children had grown up. That isn't right in every case.

There must be good news stories from MN posters who have been in this same situation and their relationships have worked out.

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Eileenb13 · 26/01/2025 10:35

As a widow myself at the same Time her husband passed away. I think it's great. She's living her life and you only get one life and believe me it's too short!

I'm three years almost in March and just had to have a hysterectomy! Life's mental.

Wish her every happiness and joy!

rainythursdayontheavenue · 26/01/2025 10:37

The fact she's moving on - good for her. No one has the right to judge her.

The fact that she keeps involving the media and using Tom's name - fucking revolting. She needs to accept that she's not a celebrity herself and move on from that too. I would love to know how Tom's family feel every time his name appears in print again.