So embarrassed, can’t stop cringing 🙈 period related

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I know no one can say anything to help, but I just need to get this out as obviously can’t tell anyone!

boyfriend/DP of 18 months was over at lunchtime, due to kids etc we meet up at lunchtime when we’re both wfh and have sex.
There’s a lot more to the relationship than that but we both really enjoy that part! We’re in our 40s. First proper relationship for us both after long marriages.

Basically my period started and I didn’t realise until afterwards 🙈 🙈

there were marks on my (freshly changed, WHITE) bedding.

He’d fingered me a lot and…. Gone down on me 🙈 🙈
he said he didn’t notice

we don’t normally sleep together when I’m on my period, talked about it early on and he’s not really up for that. Nor am I when I have it fully but when it’s very light at the beginning or the end don’t mind intercourse, but he prefers it to be totally gone, fair enough no worries.

It was so embarrassing when I realised. He was nice about it of course but I could tell he was slightly horrified, immediately washed his hands thoroughly and he doesn’t usually.

I know it’s just one of those things but I can’t believe I didn’t realise ☹️, didn’t have the usual signs and only had my last one 3 weeks ago and a couple of days so it’s slightly early.

can’t stop cringing about it ☹️

Honestly, worse things have happened. But I would get the cringe too. I know it shouldn't be so.

Honestly, you've no reason to be embarrassed. You have a human body and it does normal human things. He doesn't seem like he was worried anyway and I'd have no time for a man who was disgusted by periods.

I give DH a courtesy warning if my period is in town or imminently expected, but having sex while on is normal (and fun and great for cramps) and the sheets should come good again if you wash them properly. A cold salty soak is a good start.

Bless you! Who'd be a teen 🥴. All the awful things we worried about. That story lives rent free in my head and I'm 55 now 🙈