Genuinely curious on your views on swearing around kids?

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A few questions just out of curiosity-

1- do you swear in front of your kids regularly? I don’t mean when you maybe trip and say shit
2- if your younger kids swore (say ages under 10) how do you react?
3- if you were out in company (an example would be say a family bbq in the summer) and someone was excessively swearing with kids in earshot would you ask them to watch their language?

Swear a bit in front of kids. Not sure if it's a lot, I'm Irish, I think we do swear more over here. Under 10 I tried to cut it back a bit, over 10 I figured they were old enough to understand context, e.g. don't swear at school. I would be unlikely to correct someone, some of my friends swear a lot. People swear at work here, it's not a very big deal. In my experience anyway.

1 - No. Of course it does slip out but we do not swear a lot away from our kids anyway. So the occasional shit 💩

2 - It depends. My eldest (8) I can speak to and explain what the word means and alternative words she should use. My youngest, I tend to give it no attention as he wouldn’t comprehend what I was talking about and he forgets about it. It is funny to hear though

3 - It depends on the relationship with the person/the setting. My Mum for example, I would. My kids birthday party, yes. A colleagues bbq where kids are welcome to come along, no I wouldn’t.

As dd, 5.5, is pre verbal i still swear

I consider it a perk of being a sen parent

Never at her! But just when I'm driving or when I've dropped something

If she swore I'd be unhappy so I've really got to stop

Where i am, people look down on single mums so I can't be the mum who's kid swears as well 🙈

I'd be uncomfortable if someone else swore around my child

Try not to. Children 4 and 1. Husband sometimes says fuck when he stubs his toe and 4 yo has started copying. I hate it. It really bothers me

I swear a lot.
I have told my kids that it’s not appropriate for kids to swear .
that there are situations where I would never swear- in front of my in laws and other elders, in work, to teachers etc,
and mostly swearing is a way of adding emphasis, but mostly it’s show a lack of vocabulary and is rude.
they have tested out some swear words with me, but never in public. And mostly with appropriate context.
my kids are 6 and 10.

i probably shouldn’t swear, but I have pretty poor self discipline and can’t keep to new habits.

I hate swearing, have never heard either of my parents swear (both in their 70s). I absolutely abhorr parents swearing at or in front of their dc.

1. Didnt swear in front of them until they were, I dunno, 16, 18 ish. Now, when I do, they find it equally awkward and hilarious cos it still sounds alien to them.
2. They didn’t (well, I’m sure they did but not in my ear shot). If they had in my hearing I would have gone bloody mental at them.
3. Yes. And I have done. Just a ‘oooh, careful Uncle Shitbag the kids are over there. Don’t want them calling you a useless wanker do we?’ Kind of thing.

1. Not prolifically but not just tripping over, usually when driving or watching the news.
2. Yes, I do lots of things that I tell my kids not to do until they are older.
3. No. Not my kids, nothing to do with me.

Also a SEN mum, and this attitude is really odd. Just because she is non verbal this isn't a 'perk', the language she hears (assuming she isn't deaf) is really important.

I used to swear in front of my kids when they were small.
I think there are things adults can do that kids shouldn’t. They didn’t swear, they are grown and they don’t really swear now.

I don't swear in front of the kids (1 and 5) and DH tries not to but does slip up a few times. I don't think there's any need to swear infront of children at home.
5yo has swore a couple of times, mainly repeating what she heard at nursery or what grandad said (swears like a trooper) but I just didn't make a big deal of it and told her they aren't very nice words and we don't use them, and that we don't repeat what we hear grandad say 😂
I wouldn't ask anyone to watch their language if we were out

I don’t swear in front of children.
They always had a consequence if they swore.
And yes I asked people to watch their language.

I do mean your own kids

Dc are 10 and 7. We often say bloody in front of the dc, its barely a swearword but they get to giggle about it. Times when we have accidentally properly swore in front of them,like someone nearly driving into my car on a roundabout, we admit that yes, we swore and they are not words we should use.

I know dc know swearwords and will use them with friends our rules our they don't say them and we will be very angry if we found out they had sworn at someone.

We do ask people not to swear excessively in front of them.

Same here. I've never sworn in my life, neither has my mum.

I was going to say this. SEN mum here. Took a long time for DS to speak but it didn't mean he couldn't hear.

OP I swear occasionally in front of my son. He gives me the side eye if I do, usually whilst I'm jumping around after having stubbed my toe!

New Year’s resolution is to cut out swearing completely- myself and dh curse too much and I heard ds use one of the ‘worse’ curse words (c word and said in a horrible way) and was just soul destroying to hear it as he’s generally a lovely guy (I’d never use it and haven’t heard dh say it but doesn’t matter). I hate the defence of curse words, they’re generally only there to hammer home something negative and create a horrible atmosphere. As a retail worker the cursing customers have generally tended to be the trouble makers

We didn't when they were small unless we were super angry but now they're older we have other things we worry about more and it's gotten pretty relaxed. My daughter (12) calls us out on it. They certainly knew the difference between home words and school words like many other things that are different inside our own home.

It wouldn't occur to me to correct another adult in this way. Swearing 'at' my kids - yes. Saying racist crap in front of them (thanks father in law!) - yes. Random language... meh

We try really hard not to as we don't want them swearing as I don't think kids should swear especially the younger two. The teen swears a bit but not at us or really in front of us and not in front of her younger siblings and nothing worse than shit. I just feel it makes an unpleasant atmosphere in the house if we or them were swearing at each other etc.

Your 5yo picked up a swear word from nursery?!

No swearing in our house from anyone, and on the extremely rare occasion I hear it from DD or her friends I remind them and they always apologise. I also wouldn't swear in front of my parents or in public.

I do on occasion swear at work but purely to put those around me at ease as I am the only woman there and they changed their behaviour when I first started and were walking on egg shells a bit.

At the public event it would depend on the relationship, but if someone I knew, I wouldn't have an issue addressing the swearing if excessive and to do so in a jokey way. If it carried on or was someone we didn't know I'd redirect DD elsewhere. Later explain grown up words that aren't for children's use.

As DD started High School we discussed use of language with her friends, the difference between swearing when just with her peers or if out in an environment with children or other people where they should watch what they say.

I have allowed media with explicit language though, with an expectation that it isn't repeated

Mine did. From the staff.

Never. I hate it. I feel really sorry for the children with parents who swear.

Yes, from the other children not the staff. It is not uncommon.

@HPandthelastwish Yes, from the other children not the staff. It is not uncommon.

It really is uncommon. I'm guessing it depends on where you live.