Comments to threads that make you go FFS

[Doctorwhew]

Op: I’m starting a new role where the dress code is business smart. I’ve only ever worn jeans and T-shirts in previous jobs. Help please
Comment: I’ve always wfh so only wear loungewear

Op: John Doe has died, that’s so sad.
Comment: I’ve never heard of John Doe

Op: Lunch ideas please. I’m unable to eat bread or legumes.
Many many comments: I have beans on toast. Lentil soup is my go to. I love pita & hummus. Just make a sandwich.

On and on and on 😩

The last one! Probably says a lot about my but mumsnet as made me realise I’m not as good of a person as I thought! Lol.

OP - Tesco just delivered my shop and there’s a box of chocolates I didn’t order in there. AIBU to keep them?

R1 - YABVU people like you are the reason our food bills are going to

R2 - Yes YABU that’s theft

Me - Keep them! 🤭

OP - Should I go to A&E (even though I'm well enough to post on MN)

Everyone- Yes definitely A&E NOW

Never anyone - Unless you are actually dying right now, just call NHS24....

TBF a good number of those threads do describe ADHD traits quite strongly and then say something like "but they can't possibly be neurodivergent, they're really chatty and good at eye contact" .

'I wouldn't stand for that' 'I'd lay down the law' 'I'd be gone' etc etc. eg

OP: I have a moderate problem with...

DH = LTB immediately
Work = Resign without notice
My house = Move
The weather = Emigrate.

And then make out you're an absolute mug if you have any hesitancy

OP “I’ve been told I can’t have children & im really really struggling with the fact that I’ll never have a family of my own. I just don’t know how I’m going to cope, having a baby is all I’ve wanted. I’m so sad, I don’t know what to do”

”why dont you just adopt ? There’s loads of children who need homes”

So meanwhile you will irritate every other user who is on the thread?

Cancel the cheque!

Final one!

People who take other people calling in sick personally

OP - My mum just died and I’ve just had an operation and my husbands just left me. I can’t cope AIBU to call in sick for a week?

Reply 1 - Take some time off work but don’t expect your job when you go back.

Reply 2 - OP please think about your colleagues. My DHs colleague took a week off and by DH had to do all his work it was so unfair.

Reply 3 - I run a small business and we struggle to keep going because of people like you calling in sick

I get annoyed when this happens:

OP: What is your favourite obscure band/artist that no one else has heard of?

Replies:

• Madonna
• Wham
• The Beatles

(see also - film, book, actor, TV programme etc.)

On Style & Beauty:

OP: I'm going to an opening at a trendy East London gallery. It's a friend of friend who is an up and coming young artist and there will be lots of models and celebs there. Is my prom dress from 2007 still fashionable? Or should I go shopping?

Reply: Who cares what's fashionable, OP? Just wear what you love.

Reply: Women are such victims of the patriarchy. No man would care about this.

Reply: Fashion is a racket, designed to part women from their money. Tie a belt around an old blanket. You'll be fine.

Reply: Can you wear Docs with the prom dress, OP? Heels are out.

Reply: Thank God! NOT TODAY BUNIONS!

Reply: I hate trainers.

Reply: You can always see fillers, OP. Don't get fillers!!

Reply: If you can still fit in your prom dress, would you mind sharing your daily food plan, OP?

OP: DH won't help with the kids and I feel like I'm drowning. If I ask him to do anything he gets defensive and goes out golfing and he says that's the way he was brought up. He's always been this way and we fight about it almost daily.

'you need to sit him down at the table and have a calm discussion with him where you split the tasks 50/50'.

Problem solved!

Anything and everything that is answered with 'they must have ADHD, or Autism, or be ND'.

The type of horribly damaged poster that haunts Relationships and has projected their own experience onto hundreds of husbands and mothers over decades with relentless certainty that unpleasant but normal (and potentially fixable) mess is always incurable toxicity and requires NC after reading one 200 word OP.

And yes, I’ve name changed.

A long, distressing, heartfelt post and some ghoul just posts a

.

to bookmark their place.

"Didn't someone else post the same topic a few weeks ago?" - posted in a snarky way. If you think they're a troll, just report.

Yes, and the relentless ones who call LTB, not realising (perhaps worryingly in full knowledge) that some OPs are very vulnerable and desperate for advice with little or no-one to talk to IRL. These posters are quote dangerous I think.

OP - Me and my husband are as skint as skint can be, we cannot even afford the oxygen that we are breathing. He is working all the hours that god can send and is delivering pizzas at night to enable us to pay the gas & electric but I am tired from the weight of looking after the kids and the house and although he is very tired I'm tired too.

Response - OP, he's a lazy bastard and you should pack a bag and go and stay in a luxury hotel for the night alone at a cost of 350 quid that you don't have and let your husband look after the kids on the back of the deliveroo bike he's using for the pizza delivering. That'll show him.

There was one quite recently. Posting in real time that she was in a very violent abusive relationship and needed help in the moment lots of really supportive messages and clear advice. Then…”OP you have been on MN for 2 hours now and you still haven’t left him as you have been told. There’s no point helping you”. Just aggressive and needlessly vicious.

Also the replies to something very innocuous about a child’s behaviour “they sound like they have xyz ND condition like my DS”. Then proceed to discuss their situation that has no similarities whatsoever with the ops child’s behaviour.

Go on then - name your band, film, book, actor and TV programme?

OP: I'm really struggling to meet a partner..online dating is hard work ..any good advice or alternatives or how to meet someone in real life?

Poster: oh gosh I'm sooo lucky to be married to my wonderful husband who treats me like a queen.. even if he died I couldn't even contemplate dating again..

Yeh..helpful thanks

I get a bit cross when an OP is clearly quite poor and posters suggest solutions which are very expensive. There was one who had been treated quite badly by her family (and had been in care) but was just about getting by. A bunch of posters said that she should get intensive therapy. I am sure this could be a good thing but, if it isn’t available on the NHS, who will fund it?

There’s also a weird perception of age on here. There are posters who claim that anyone over 60 is extremely elderly.

I’ve been on MN for eleventy years and I’m appalled by how mean everyone is nowadays. In my day we all wished each other happy birthday and goodnight every evening, and sent hampers to every poster on AIBU. Nowadays everyone is really honest and just tells me to toughen the fuck up when I post about my sensitivities.

I'll take a Fortnum and Mason one, ta.

I remember when I first started coming here, years ago, there was a woman in the Relationships section who'd always give very lengthy advice and other posters would say, "Better not answer this one, as X will be coming along soon." I couldn't tell whether they were in awe of her or terrified of her. Probably both.

Or just F, instead of using the watch feature.

I’d tag her but I don’t know if she’s the type to fly off the handle or not. 😂