40 & can’t be bothered with sex, help!

[Cloud44]

The last few months my sex drive has really dipped. In a long term relationship, no problems, but I just don’t seem to want sex! I would prioritise an early night and sleep instead which I know is silly at 40. Is it just me? How can I change things?!

HRT! I went on at 39 and it sorted me out.

I’m on the combined pill though and don’t really want to come off it yet.

Has anyone else found this in their 40s?

I have the opposite problem alas. You might yet get it, meno is a roller coaster!

I'm 42 and have lost my drive, also have bad insomnia and anxiety so wouldn't surprise me if I'm peri-meno

You could look into testosterone

Agree with this, am also peri and have the opposite issue, I feel like a teenager again. Definitely worth getting your hormone levels checked OP and in the meantime just do whatever works for you, sometimes we all have to hibernate a bit in different areas of our life - it's fine to press pause for a bit while you recalibrate.

The what??

OP good idea to have levels checked