Why is it so torturous?
It was like pure harassment. I would get multiple letters a week for no reason, several phone calls where people tell you your lying, ask stupid questions, constantly tell you you'll fail. The nicer ones talk to you like your stupid and the nastier ones talk down to you like your a liar.
And whats with the utterly over the top ridiculous questions?
I have brain damage that effect my motor co-ordination, one of the questions on the forms is literally on the specific ability to use a knife and fork for example. When then asked the far more generic question in the phone assessment of 'can I feed myself' I point out that while I can pick some solid things up (say Crisps) with my hands and get most of it in my mouth (but will make a mess) but can not use utensils like knives, forks, spoons etc... so could not or seriously struggle to eat things that need cutting or are slippery like sauce based foods or liquids like soup. Only to then be asked ridiculous follow up questions like 'does your husband physically chew food for you and then put it into your mouth?' and then when I say 'no' (because I'm not a baby bird, NO ONE has their carer spit food in their mouth ffs) they say theres nothing wrong then.
This is just one of many ridiculous extremes asked to then say well if your not THAT bad you must be fine. Prior to being with my DH I was 5 foot 7 and 6 stone and put in hospital for not being able to eat properly, yes I have gained 4 stone since being with him but I'm not magically 'cured' I simply have a carer now. One thats overstretched because hes working full time, I can't work and hes caring too with no financial help.
Despite being perminately disabled, unable to work and spending half my life at doctor/hospital appointments (which I struggle with as DH has to take me and as said he also has to work full time) I get NO help from PIP and frankly cannot mentally face attempting to apply again.
The job center accept and see my disability but despite them saying I should clearly get PIP for the last decade+ (I'm not even suitable for their work programs and they have me on long term sick note) they are two entirely separate entities and PIP just won't accept that and said the jobcenter just send 'everyone' to them.
To people that had an easy ride congrats... maybe you said a magic word or something but for millions its NOT easy. Ironically the most vulnerable are usually the ones tortured. Citizens Advice and Scope get over run with people struggling, many like me who give up because it starts to effect their MH.