How/when do we stop Christmas traditions for adult DCs?

[tulippa]

DD is 20 next month, in her first year at uni, and is back for the Christmas break. We have continued with a stocking and the usual spending budget on presents as we have throughout her childhood. We also carried on with the advent house we fill each day with small chocolates which were saved up for her when she came back last week. And we're continuing with other things we've always done like films, the way we decorate the tree etc.
I was wondering yesterday how long we carry this on for? Will it be weird if we stop next year for her and carry things on for DS (16)? If we stop for both, that's not fair on DS who will miss out four years of stocking presents etc. I don't want to be wrapping stocking presents for her when she's 30.
Has anyone else encountered this and, if so, how did you manage it?

I will carry on until they don’t come home for Christmas morning. I love Christmas!

Btw if you push off to live overseas I don't do a stocking as customs are annoying, you get your gifts from the 21st century Santa Claus ... Amazon.de no customs duties!

I'm 51. My lovely mum still does e, a fabulous stocking as i do her.

I don't think that there has to be an age limit for stockings but if the traditions of Christmas are becoming too much it's ok to wind down. Christmas can be a lot for mums and it's ok to consider your own needs at this time of year.

I maintain tradition for people who live in our home. For those that dont, I only maintain the traditions when they are actually visiting. And stockings I stopped for both when they were about 13 and 15 - but carried on with presents under the tree on Christmas day.

So your Advent house for example - Id carry that on for the child that lives with you but wouldnt for the one thats moved out. But when the older one is at home Id probably have advent house bits for the days she was visiting. Maybe....... if she was bothered. If she isnt fussed then I wouldnt.

I am one of three, all in our 30s, for the last 15 years or so we have each purchased 3 stocking fillers for our parents. My dad, now nearly 70 did not have a stroking growing up, I can still remember there absolute joy when they came down on Christmas morning and they too had a stocking... real Christmas magic! My mum still gives stocking bits to my husband and also gets bits for my kids if she thinks they will like them.

My DC is 19 in his second year of Uni. This year we filled a Santa Sack with all his presents (no wrapping) and gave him a few hundred pounds money transfer into his bank. All in probably had around £600.00 worth of gifts and money from us and another £200 (money no gifts) from GP’s. He is happy and we asked him if he wanted us to wrap his presents and he said no it is fine not to.

No more wrapping for me!

My DS is more focused on the food available and the free laundry and ironing service at the moment!

We're staying for a late Christmas at an AirB&B with our 23 and 27. The only difference is that they sleep late so I did their stockings at 7 this morning!

We are in a bit of a transition phase. Dds 22 and 24. (One away at uni, other home whilst training) The advent calendar has a choc from a tub, or chocolate coin in each day now... rather than mixing it up with a forfeit or a treat.
Next year it may be just for us as half the chocs were there til the 20th anyhow. Still do stocking, loads of practical bits alongside chocolate, percy pigs and tin cocktail... make up remover etc. Presents are more of the cash variety, otherwise they are schlepping across country by train with a load of "stuff".