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Signed off yet work are contacting me

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 15:35

I’m signed off. Work are emailing me about things that I said I would hand over before the end of my employment. Meaning in my time. Manager has emailed and text me. I’m actually seeing it as borderline harassing me now.

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Spirallingdownwards · 17/12/2024 15:38

Reply; I am currently signed off sick. I will be able to respond when I am well again.

Are you actually leaving though? And have been signed off for the whole of the notice period. If so it may be an idea when you feel up to it to do an email covering anything they can't work out for themselves.

CowGirl19 · 17/12/2024 15:39

When you say end of my employment Does that mean you have also resigned or been laid off - as well as currently being off sick?
If you're never going back to work I guess it's reasonable for the manager to want information for a hand over.
Also - If you're never going back you can surely just ignore the calls as you're leaving anyway?

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 15:44

Spirallingdownwards · 17/12/2024 15:38

Reply; I am currently signed off sick. I will be able to respond when I am well again.

Are you actually leaving though? And have been signed off for the whole of the notice period. If so it may be an idea when you feel up to it to do an email covering anything they can't work out for themselves.

Signed off and leaving. I’ve already said I’d be in contact in due course but it’s hounding me over things that can wait. Their urgency isn’t mine right now. It’s literally why I’m in the position of being signed off.

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 15:45

CowGirl19 · 17/12/2024 15:39

When you say end of my employment Does that mean you have also resigned or been laid off - as well as currently being off sick?
If you're never going back to work I guess it's reasonable for the manager to want information for a hand over.
Also - If you're never going back you can surely just ignore the calls as you're leaving anyway?

Signed off and leaving. His urgency isn’t mine. I said I’d be in contact in due course. Now suddenly they need everything. 2 emails and a text in one day?? Totally not ok

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HPandthelastwish · 17/12/2024 15:45

Then just deal with what they need to know. You need to pass on information about your classes and if you have any exercise books and text books still get someone either yourself or representative to take them back in. If you have any personal items in your classroom or locker to get them and hand bag keys.

CowGirl19 · 17/12/2024 15:50

@HPandthelastwish I'm not sure i can see where you've worked out the Op is a teacher? What did I miss??

@ThePerkyCoralPoet Do you have a HR Dept you can go to to explain you are being harassed? If you do want to still hand over these details when you are ready then you could reply to the manager to say when you are likely to send over the handover - then block them until you are ready to speak with them.

HPandthelastwish · 17/12/2024 15:58

@CowGirl19 because I was on a previous thread of the OPs when she had rung the wrong absence line and therefore school didn't know she wasn't going to be in causing chaos, and she had decided then that she wouldn't be back.

Fulmarinepetrel · 17/12/2024 16:00

People are disorganised and sometimes a bit crazy. I actually took retirement and some manager left a voicemail on my mobile the following Monday morning saying, "The staff meeting is about to start and YOU ARE NOT HERE."

EmmaMaria · 17/12/2024 16:04

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 15:45

Signed off and leaving. His urgency isn’t mine. I said I’d be in contact in due course. Now suddenly they need everything. 2 emails and a text in one day?? Totally not ok

Seriously, just do it. You are leaving, it's the end of term / near the end of term, and the school need to get things sorted. You are being deliberately evasive, and it just isn't worth the aggro... And no - t isn't harassment.

(and yes I recall the two previous threads too)

CowGirl19 · 17/12/2024 16:06

Ok Thanks @HPandthelastwish I hadn't seen another thread.

Makes I guess more sense why manager would be chasing for a handover in that situation - but regardless if an employee is off sick they shouldn't be harassed.

EmmaMaria · 17/12/2024 16:07

Fulmarinepetrel · 17/12/2024 16:00

People are disorganised and sometimes a bit crazy. I actually took retirement and some manager left a voicemail on my mobile the following Monday morning saying, "The staff meeting is about to start and YOU ARE NOT HERE."

Edited

My manager texted me asking if I would chair a meeting for him as he couldn't get there - I had not only just retired by he knew for a fact that I was in South America because the text included a photo of the sunset over the beach we were staying at!

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 16:17

EmmaMaria · 17/12/2024 16:04

Seriously, just do it. You are leaving, it's the end of term / near the end of term, and the school need to get things sorted. You are being deliberately evasive, and it just isn't worth the aggro... And no - t isn't harassment.

(and yes I recall the two previous threads too)

Technically I have a brief handover with everything. Just be patient while someone’s off sick. I’m not being evasive. I’m coping with the last shreds of sanity left after they took it from me. I just don’t need multiple messages on this. Just wait. I said they’d have full handover soon.

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 16:21

CowGirl19 · 17/12/2024 16:06

Ok Thanks @HPandthelastwish I hadn't seen another thread.

Makes I guess more sense why manager would be chasing for a handover in that situation - but regardless if an employee is off sick they shouldn't be harassed.

So I have given brief handover. The stuff they want really isn’t urgent at all. I know it’s not. I got a text on Thursday and Friday about it. Then also had 2 texts about the schools Christmas dinner that I obv wasn’t there for. Which I paid for it involved gift giving. I paid so no text messages we needed. It’s just been constant. The place broke me now wont leave me alone

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EuclidianGeometryFan · 17/12/2024 16:21

Do you have a separate phone and laptop for work? If so just don't open it or turn it on.
If they are contacting you on your personal phone number and email then that is totally unacceptable. You will just have to put up with it though, as it is not worth changing your personal contact details or taking any formal action about their bad behaviour in this regard.

Jabtastic · 17/12/2024 16:25

I'm sorry you had a bad experience in your school but if you're leaving and have school books / keys / marks etc I can understand why they want them before Christmas? Can you just hand everything over to a friend or family member to hand in at reception?

MoreDangerousThanAWomanScorned · 17/12/2024 16:25

HPandthelastwish · 17/12/2024 15:58

@CowGirl19 because I was on a previous thread of the OPs when she had rung the wrong absence line and therefore school didn't know she wasn't going to be in causing chaos, and she had decided then that she wouldn't be back.

Edited

I think this does change things, because -rightly or wrongly - teachers are normally expected to do a handover by setting work etc even when they're unwell. They are presumably panicking that if the OP doesn't provide this info before the end of term they'll never get it

HPandthelastwish · 17/12/2024 16:31

Well the school dinner related ones just sound like automated ones sent out from the office to all staff. That's not an individual hounding you and is quite different to what you first said.

Your threads make you sounds awfully difficult and hard work.

Doyouthinktheyknow · 17/12/2024 16:33

I think they are being unreasonable but they are probably antsy because you haven’t given any timeframe for offering a handover. It might help and get them to back off if you give them a date you will give a handover.

I resigned and then unexpectedly took 6 weeks off after my dbro died. Work panicked a little that I wouldn’t be back to handover but settled once they knew I would be back.

Since I left for a completely different job because it broke me, I’ve still been emailed and asked to do things relating to my old job🙄

I am polite but firm in reminding them again that I’ve left!

I am a firm believer in not burning bridges and trying to be accommodating within reason.

EmmaMaria · 17/12/2024 16:36

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 16:21

So I have given brief handover. The stuff they want really isn’t urgent at all. I know it’s not. I got a text on Thursday and Friday about it. Then also had 2 texts about the schools Christmas dinner that I obv wasn’t there for. Which I paid for it involved gift giving. I paid so no text messages we needed. It’s just been constant. The place broke me now wont leave me alone

So basically they sent two a couple of texts reasonably asking you for things that they needed. That is not harassment.

Seperately they were not to know that you wern't attending a Christmas dinner that you had paid for - as you know (because you have a whole thread about it) being signed off sick doesn't necessarily mean that you can't do social things. How were they to know that you weren't coming? That also isn't harassment.

Neither of those things are "constant". I'm sorry if you are feeling bad but they don't seem to be being unreasonable at all, and surely it is in your best interests to draw a line under this by returning all they need then you don't have to do or think about anything again?

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 16:38

It’s not that. They’re contact me regarding WORK. Work stuff that I said I would give handover for!!

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 16:39

HPandthelastwish · 17/12/2024 16:31

Well the school dinner related ones just sound like automated ones sent out from the office to all staff. That's not an individual hounding you and is quite different to what you first said.

Your threads make you sounds awfully difficult and hard work.

It’s informal hounding on my mobile. Via text.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 17/12/2024 16:41

When are you handing it over though? Doesn’t term end this week?

FrannyScraps · 17/12/2024 16:48

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 16:38

It’s not that. They’re contact me regarding WORK. Work stuff that I said I would give handover for!!

Presumably it's the end of term now, time is if the essence I guess.

HPandthelastwish · 17/12/2024 16:49

But when? School finishes this week.

They need to plan for next term and pass information over to whoever is taking over from you, making sure books are in the right place if groups are changing.

For you to say "when it suits" is massively unreasonable in teaching and you know it. Just spend an hour now - the hour or so you've spent on MN and write everything up in an email and send it.

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 17/12/2024 16:51

HPandthelastwish · 17/12/2024 16:49

But when? School finishes this week.

They need to plan for next term and pass information over to whoever is taking over from you, making sure books are in the right place if groups are changing.

For you to say "when it suits" is massively unreasonable in teaching and you know it. Just spend an hour now - the hour or so you've spent on MN and write everything up in an email and send it.

Ok so. To clarify. I’ve sent in all the lessons till the end of term. For all my groups. The only thing remaining is small niggly bits that another member of staff on the team could support with.

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