Anyone else awake?

[Anonymous2003]

Been lying awake for probably over an hour and a half worried sick about someone close to me, and angry about how their behaviour is affecting my family... Don't know why I'm posting this, think I just want to feel less totally alone 😞

I'm so sorry. Do you want to talk about it?
I can't imagine x

I'm awake too.

Sometimes it's best to just get up and make a hot drink and read for a bit if you can't sleep.

@AuntieMarys I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your son♥️

@UniqueOP as much as there's a lot on my mind I'm still really sleepy and can't bring myself to turn on the light haha

But that means they can change quickly for the better, too.

Hoping you've managed to find something to watch and settle your worries, if only a little.

I'm thinking of rewatching the 3 series of Gavin & Stacey, ready for the final.

I can live in hope but you can demolish a building much quicker than you can build it back up from the ground again

I am so sorry for those of you with major worries keeping you awake. I have been there myself and it's awful.

Easy tv, something mindless, can help distract your mind, as can an app like Calm or Headspace.

But yes, awful things happen, we have real problems, and coping with them when tired is even more exhausting.

@AuntieMarys, I have no words. Thinking of you.

Oh, that is awful! I am so sorry. Sending hugs xxx

You've probably already thought of this, but the bereavement charity CRUSE is very good.

It will be the highlight of my Christmas Day! It's such a comforting show and I always put it on when I want something nice to watch. It feels like a warm hug

@UniqueOP thank you - you're so right, and I will be ok, but nothing is happening this side of Christmas.

You know what I did when I lost my job? Straightened my back and got a better one. You can do the same! Of course things look bleak now, it's the middle of the night. Hot drink and chocolate biscuit for you. Do it now. Come back when you've got them. I'm going to do the same.

Edit: Sorry, got you mixed up with Avalancheofcheese.

Directions still stand though. Hot drink and choccy biccy!

I appreciate what you're trying to do but I find your comment a bit insensitive. I can't reverse years of alcoholism in my mother and fix what she's done to me emotionally over the years. So no, I can't magic things better.

@UniqueOP think that was meant for me cause I lost my job.

I am definitely seeing it as the kick up the bum to go for the big girl jobs I know I can do!

But I feel I am letting down my little girl this year at Christmas and worrying sick about bills etc.

Anyway I'll be fine. @Anonymous2003 I hope you are okay and that at the very least you know you're not alone here awake and worried.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and if you don't - fuck it, it's just another day.

@UniqueOP are you okay? Any reason you're awake? X

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Sorry, I got you mixed up with the poster who also began with A but had lost her job.

The only thing to do when you're worried sick in the night is hot drink and something sweet.

I don't have alcoholism in the family but I do have abuse, and I know what it's like to lie awake worrying yourself sick at night, from nursing both parents through horrible fatal cancers. That's how I know how much a hot drink and something sweet is the only thing to do, because your mind can go round like a whirligig but it won't change things or find a solution. Relaxation and distraction is the way to go. There's some lovely music on the radio this time of night.

I'm British but I live abroad. It's 1 am here and I really should go to bed. Thanks for asking xxx

@Anonymous2003 sorry I think that was my fault talking about my shit.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through x

Oh of course, it's very worrying until you can get another job. Is there someone in your life who can lend you money to tide you over?

If you do your CV and send it out to a few jobs, even if they're not perfect ones, it will give you a sense of control and make you feel as if you're doing something. And you might feel better just taking any job to have some money coming in until you can get something that's more in line with what you want.

@AvalancheOfCheese hey, every single person in the universe makes mistakes, there isn’t a single one of us who hasn’t, both big and small. We are humans, not infallible pre programmed robots. We are ALLOWED to make mistakes. Ask yourself, will this still matter in five years? If the answer is no, then it doesn’t really matter. If the answer is yes, then look to forgive yourself knowing that we have ALL been there. Please give yourself some grace ❤️

I am often awake through the night. Chronic pain, grief, guilt, regret, anxiety weigh very heavily on me.
I realise I can't do anything about any of it. Night time always makes things worse. You aren't alone.

Thank you @Username19832756 and @UniqueOP really appreciate it.

I feel bad though because @Anonymous2003 started the thread and I feel I've somewhat taken over it. Sorry x

HOT DRINK AND SOMETHING SWEET, EVERYONE!

Childfree woman here, barking orders at you knackered mums! Cos I'm your mum tonight!

I don't want to hear another peep out of any of you until you've all got hot drinks and something sweet! Do I make myself clear? 😂

Agree with G&S OP.

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother's struggles. I can't imagine how that has affected you. I was thinking of addiction recently and how many emotions loved ones may feel.
Has she always struggled or did it worsen over time?