Sandy Toksvig's prescription for a happy relationship...

[CurlewKate]

"Use the buddy system. When you're scuba diving, you are responsible for your buddy's welfare and your buddy is responsible for yours."

I like that.

Surely we should be responsible for our own welfare, first and foremost?

Plus, ST tends to speak a load of tosh anyway. Ya know, like claiming that men can be women.

Not someone I would rate relationship advice from….

I'd rather follow the airlines advice. Secure your own mask before helping others

Love Sandy. Didn't take long for the anti trans lot to derail another thread.

I agree with her.
DH looks after me. I look after him.
I’m not a big advocate of self-care/ putting your own welfare first.
Too many relationships end because of selfishness on one side or the other.

Is she noted for her fidelity within relationships?

It's not 'anti-trans' to understand that men can't be women and vice versa. You know, basic biological fact.

Anyway, yes, she talks shite.

This is great in a healthy relationship not so much where the balance is off.

While nice in theory it's a terrible idea for many relationships. Women will inevitably put more effort on than men in too many couples- that's already the pattern we have.

But this thread is NOT about your tedious obsession with trans people. And yet it gets shoehorned into every single subject on here.

Agree! Just had it on a thread asking for a recommendation for tights!

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I think that is the funniest and most tentative link to 'the subject' I have ever heard.

As far as I know she has been happily married since 2007.

As it happens, I have disagreements with her on trans issues. However I think she is right on many other things. Including this.

Was it don’t buy snag by any chance 😂😂😂

Yup! It's so boring.

I didn’t bring it up.

Absolutely. Taking care of each other is what it's all about.

I agree with her. Me and dh look after each other and our marriage is very strong as a result. We each know someone always has our back, even when things get really difficult.

@TheyCantBurnUsAll "While nice in theory it's a terrible idea for many relationships. Women will inevitably put more effort on than men in too many couples- that's already the pattern we have"

I agree. It's a terrible idea if both people don't buy into it. A fantastic idea if they do.

She’s known to be prickly in the entertainment world and not very friendly.

So maybe that’s why she can devote so much time to her other half’s well being- because she couldn’t give two hoots about others.

She was difficult to work with on the Bake Off, she even acknowledged this herself

Do you know her then?

I think this is a good point.

As a parent, we naturally put our children's welfare first. Yet it's harder to do that in a romantic relationship even though it's an expression of love.

Of course it only works if they are meeting you in return.

I said ‘she is known’, I didn’t say ‘I know her to be’

Thats quite simple to understand

She thinks that men can be women so I don't take her seriously on anything else.