Things I don't understand about modern life

[niadainud]

1. What "speaking to" means. I know it is a stage in the dating process, but have no idea as to its specific implications.

2. The point of "link in bio" - why can't you just put the bloody link where I can see it without having to hunt for it?

3. Gender-woo nonsense. When will the madness end?

4. Why it seems to be socially acceptable to use your phone to play videos or make calls without headphones, especially on on the bus. STFU!

5. Talking of buses, why they can so rarely take you from point A to point B without terminating prematurely, stopping to "regulate the service" or stopping to change driver. I'm sure it never used to be this bad.

Well not in some scenarios. Such as in formal law and tax law, the word "gifted" is specifically used in legislation and has specific meaning. A lawyer or tax adviser would use the word "gifted" in their formal work rather than the word "given" or "gave".

I've got a parent who consistently carries a Year 1 child!

My four year old isn't in main school yet but if she wanted picking up for a bit I would. They're little and I love them.
In many countries they would still be in preschool until they're 6 years old and yes the teachers absolutely do pick them up and cuddle and carry them if they want it.

I don't live in the UK, and kids start school at 5 here. I live near 2 primary schools and am often walking past at the end of the school day and have never seen a kid being carried out of school. I would also be shocked if I saw it happening.

No, it’s really not.

It’s not anything to do with being a modern day thing people do. They’re tiny kids who have probably been overstimulated all day and want to be close to their parents. It’s more shocking not to tbh

How about "curated", as in "a curated ear", which I think basically means multiple earrings in one ear. I've had mutiple earrings for about 40 years, but there wasn't a name for it for around 35 of those!

How lucky for that child to have a caring parent :)

Ha! Is there really enough acreage in the average ear to be "curated"?

In many countries - say, Germany - 5 year olds walk to school and back by themselves. That might seem extreme to us but the vast majority of 5 year olds don’t need carrying in and out of school. I never saw a single child carried when mine were reception age in a large primary school 11/13 years ago. But then children with nappies, dummies and no ability to use cutlery weren’t such a thing then either.

Why young people dress head to toe in black

Technical language, fine, @taxguru!

The people I hear using it are not lawyers. It's being used as a synonym.

That's not modern life, young people have been dressing in black for the last 40 years!

@greengreyblue Yep, they managed all day. They've probably had enough, they're little. Being snooty because small children see their mum/dad and want some comfort by being cuddled/carried out of school is really very strange.

They learn to be independent eventually, they don't need to be whizzed through it. As far as I'm aware none of the students at my secondary school are carried in and out by a parent.

There's a lot to be said for softening the edges of things. Maybe the next generation/s will be more open to that...

Where do teachers pick up children? Absolutely not in England!

Re: Gender-woo nonsense. When will the madness end?
It ends when you all stand up against it and refuse to go along with "identifying as", pronouns etc.

Not being snooty. The chn that get carried tend to be the same ones that can’t put their own coat on etc. occasional carrying because of illness or upset is one thing but regularly carrying them isn’t good for helping the child develop.

When did 'thinking out loud' become 'talking out loud'? I hear this a lot and it makes no sense!

My grandson's town is full of roadworks. The bus that takes him to school was always late because it struggled to get in and out of the train station on the route. Bus company's answer is to miss out the station so they now run more reliably but no longer take people to the station to catch the train to take them in to London......they could have run twice as many in the rush hour and half as many during the day....?

I must have been a right Witch. Not only did i not routinely carry my reception aged DC (may have made an exception of they were genuinely ill or upset) but I made them carry their own school bags too. And i didn't meet them at the gate laden with snacks. They waited until we got home!

Agree.

A child asking to be carried isn’t only asking because they’re too lazy to walk. They could well want to reconnect after a very long day or feel upset to be leaving their parent at the start of the day. Honestly surprised people are ‘shocked’ by this.

Speaking to means chatting but not exclusive yet.

Mine are mid 30s now but when my youngest was starting school there were 2 in her class, one child was collected from school in a pushchair, up to year 2, another the parents got to school early to park directly outside the gates to collect him, both lived within 1500m of school (a few doors from each other). One babied as the youngest of 4, the other a child who was little prince of the family, told mummy what do do.

Link in bio is because they want you following and viewing/liking other content that they created. Views are literal revenue when print media is in decline.

Link in bio is also often the phrase used to 'declare' that the posted link is an affiliate link.
Which means they make money off clicks and can track what you buy if you click that link. It's in the bio because its the only place they can post clickable links.

@Leafstamp mine were in reception just shy of 15 years ago. If she wanted carrying, I carried her.

She was perfectly independent when she needed to be. But it's ok to want to be comforted when you're still only 4/5.