Article about a pair of cheaters in The Guardian

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... what a pair of utter self-deceiving knobs (I mean, if this isn't actually fiction). It's OK because it happens "in a different universe" from his marriage. God.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/dec/07/this-is-how-we-do-it-my-life-with-my-lover-exists-in-a-different-universe-to-my-marriage

I should have put break up in quotation marks. In your head there is this whole big thing you're making. So treat it like a break up and go through that process of extricating yourself and ending things and saying bye to that part of your life.

This was actually quite sad to read. Imagine getting to 65/70 years of age and suddenly finding out that your marriage was a lie. Where do you go from there? The poor wife; it would probably break her if she found out

Thanks, I will try to do just that.

Nasty.

Fucking ageist.

Not really… I think a couple of 70 year olds mooning like teenagers over an extramarital affair are fair game for a bit of pisstaking, tbh.

How is that anywhere near a relationship? not met in 2 years, pair of idiots.

Put me off ice cream forever 🤢

Living in the multiverse… well… on a different planet at the very least!

Not to sound rude, but they are going to have to figure out a way to end it soon. They are entering their winter years and should know better. This “archive” is all well and good, but what a thing for his wife to find after he drops down dead on the golf course, or eventually goes into a care home. The best he can hope for is either the affair partner or the wife to go before him…. How horrid!

And for the ones in the affair, what happens if one of them dies suddenly, how will they find out? Brings being ghosted to a whole new level 😂

Jeez, isn’t the first rule of this kind of intrigue to never write anything down?

What sort of idiot puts it in a national newspaper?

There was once a thread on here where someone had recognised themself as the recipient of ‘A letter to…’ in The Guardian. Naturally their account of things was a bit different to what had appeared in the Guardian!

Oh I'd imagine it's quite the thrill seeing it in print. Especially if the poor wife reads the Guardian.

What I find despicable is that, apparently, we are all supposed to think this is OK. No thought for the wife, and no awareness that it's just a lot of excuses wrapped up in suedo hippy psychedelic claptrap.
I know it's in the Guardian, but really?

I hope she reads his part and is mortified. Enough to get some self respect even if she isn't capable of morality.

She's going on about how wonderful this connection is and essentially saying "I don't feel bad because I know his marriage can't possibly be as intense as our passion". While he's literally describing his marriage as "perfectly wonderful and fulfilling", moved 300 miles away and they've only had one planned meet up in that time that didn't even happen.

They're both arseholes, but she's stupid on top of it.

Is the marriage a lie though? He's chosen his wife at the end of the day and hasn't seen his lover for years.

Only because they haven't managed to meet up for whatever reason.

And yes the marriage is a lie because he has poured his love, energy, thought and passions into someone other than his wife, who has no clue. I can't imagine anyone finding out their partner had been upto something like this and not feeling betrayed and lied to.

Anyone else hope his wife has had something going on for years with a 20 years younger fit plumber or something!!

He’s a Happily married bloke enjoying a side of drama on his phone. She’s very very lonely and wears goth clothing and lots of jewellery.

people are funny.

I am desperately hoping the wife is banging an absolute stud muffin three times a week while Neville - sorry, Sebastian - gets his rocks off to his 90 coded a day.

This sort of emotional affair is the last refuge of absoilute shitheels. I do congratulate them on deciding The Multiverse makes it ethically sound, though. That's the most impressive piece of self justification I've seen in a long while.

Chutzpah up there with the guy who kills his parents and asks for clemency because he's an orphan.

Sounds like you're having an emotional affair. It continues because you allow it to. Grow up and move on or do the decent thing and leave the poor partner you're betraying.

Who are you to judge?

A stranger on a chat board, @Bobcatz . More specifically, one who's watched the fallout of emotional affairs and seen the damage they do to the innocent party.

Why would you share this with total strangers if you weren't expecting them to form opinions? Presumably you've been on Mumsnet before. This is an article about self-serving, emotionally duplicitous adults and you've chosen to dump your personal emotional infidelity into it.

If you want to tar yourself with that brush, people will read it and judge you.

40-60 messages a day?! Fuck that noise.

But also, his wife definitely knows.

And the archive gallery of meaningful images. Agog doesn't describe my reaction.

I've shared here because it's not possible to in real life because of people like you.

I enjoyed it a lot. Very funny.

And we just know that the reality is they're called Sue and Martin

This.

That bloke has absolutely no respect for his wife.