Would you have a child in this situ?

[Notmycircusnotmyotter]

Asking for a friend...

You and husband have brilliant relationship. You have two kids from previous relationship, he has 3. They're here 50/50; he's a wonderful father and husband. All kids are happy.

Would you have one together?

No

No

No

No, I don't think I would. Feels like there's are enough children already.

No, that's enough children already

No, like the other posters, I wouldn't either, things are just too complicated already!

No. 5 kids would be more than enough to support. Takes a lot of money to support theough uni and apprenticeships - not to mention time and effort.

Nope.

No, plenty of children already. Also think of impact on older children who will feel they are being replaced by kids who get to live with you 24/7 while they have to go elsewhere half the time. Not a fair dynamic.

If married, in good health, very stable financial situation, 42 or younger and have property big enough for 6-8 children (risk of multiples) Yes i'd consider it

No. I don't think you'll listen though!

No I wouldn't.

Definitely need more info.

Your ages, DC ages, employment situation, house size as starters.

Are both sets of kids 50/50 or just DHs?

No.
I think having a child together sends the message that the new child would be somehow better or more than the five existing children. At present it’s a good balance.

No

That would be my idea of a nightmare, but for others it might sound like a good idea, so rather impossible to say!

I don't think that I would. There are enough children already imo, and adding another one, could turn it all upside down. I don' t think that it is worth the risk, if things are working well, as things stand.

Both employed. Good incomes. Own multiple properties.

Ages: 46 (him) and 38.

No multiples in either family lines.

Reason would be because a) what if and b) she had an awful time with disinterested ex and would really like to experience a pregnancy / small children with someone and supports who loves you and wants it equally. Selfish reason but honest.

Hers are FT with.

No way

No

38 might not be too old for a woman to have a new child, but 46 is too old in my opinion. Nearly 60 when the child is just going into secondary school.

Is there a specific need to do so? Surely both parents have got enough responsibility. Then with the blended family, adding another baby to it won't make things better. They'll probably be more complicated and stressful. The financial, emotional, physical burden. I'd not bother personally.

You're right, it is selfish.

But it's also stupid because she'll have no idea what he was like when his ex was pregnant, or how he really was when his kids were newborns.

And then what happens if she decides her child with him should have a full sibling.

Baby number 7 on the way...

Five kids already between you? No, I wouldn't. That's a lot of people to support financially, emotionally and practically already. Aren't you busy enough? I'd be grateful for those you have and focus on them.