What was your final straw that made you end a friendship?

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Two memorable for me.

One friend complete user, money, lifts, dropped you as soon as she got a boyfriend. We fell out and I reached out to her as I was feeling depressed (as was she): she invited me to hers later in the week, to then say she was ill and posted on social media she was out clubbing.

Other one was this year. Horrible weekend away where she sulked like a teenager (no idea why). Tried to meet up with her a couple of times after and got snubbed, She then started messaging saying she missed me but again snubbed my suggestion of meeting up. I gave up. She’s messaged since and I’ve just ignored.

@Redwindow Absolutely. I’ve also got one of these. Revels in any misfortune of others. In constant competition with me. Can come to my home and see something nice but not comment then go home and copy it exactly. Sniping and hurtful digs. I could be here all day

A friend who rang me in the day my Dad died with complications of Covid and said "He suffocated to death then " I just cut the call and blocked her .

You soon find out who your friends are when you need them. I had a "friend" I'd met at work. I'd left but we still stayed friends. I was newly married and she'd recently met and moved in with someone, I'd had both her and her new partner all day to my wedding. One Saturday night, she invited us round for a takeaway and a video (this was many years ago) and to stay over, even though we offered money she refused (she was notoriously tight with money) and said, instead, we could do it again in a couple of weeks but at ours next time and we could pay, which we were more than happy to do. During the evening we discussed their upcoming wedding which we'd been invited to. A couple of weeks later, a few days before they were due to stay at ours, my darling dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He was only young and we were all devastated. I worked for my dad and lived just a few doors away from him, so hardly left his side after the devastating news, trying to help him deal with things, whilst my own heart was breaking. I phoned my "friend" and told her we'd have to postpone their visit that weekend. She was extremely frosty with me and I never heard from her again. I was later told by mutual friends that I "owed her a takeaway and a video" and that I was now uninvited from her wedding. I didn't even get a card from her when my dad died soon after and she'd known him very well, he'd given her many lifts home after nights out etc

Being critical of me to the point that I dreaded seeing her, although she could be nice. Then I found out she was bitching about me to people I'd known for years, and bitching about them to me too. Then a new person moved in nearby and she bitched to them about me the first time she met them. The new person didn't know who I was then, but we soon became friends and she realised 'Jane' had been saying ridiculous things about me. Then Jane lied to my face about something and I realised how little she valued me.
After Jane came back from hols and I realised I'd had two weeks of peace and lack of anxiety I told her I wanted the bitching and gossiping to stop. She said "Fine. But tell me what X said about me .." So I told her I didn't want to continue being friends, wished her well and walked away.
That was a couple of years ago. Recently I heard she'd died and I felt terribly guilty for being horrible to her, cutting her off like that!

She was very argumentative and got worse after having her DD. I’m talking controversial topics. Then during Covid she got very nasty towards me. The final straw was when she defended Putin

She had a lot of crazy views and was an anti vaxxer which I struggled with but tried to see past it because I was convinced she was lovely. Final straw was when she admitted she doesn't brush the kids' teeth 'just water on the brush' as flouride is toxic apparently. That to me is child neglect so I 100% draw the line there.

Oh and she purchased a baby from a poor Ukrainian surrogate, don't even get me started on that.

When I realised she was selfish, and only bothered when her life wasn't going well. She even openly admitted I was like her "therapist." I would have her over, she never had me back. I was pregnant bringing her cake and tea while at mine. I found it rude for her to answer a call from her disrespectful womanising bf (who nobody liked) and speak to him, smirking, and laughing "yes I'm having cake." She then sat on the phone while I sat eating my cake, and waiting for her to come off the call.
I messaged her throughout the whole of her pregnancy, and she even said I was the only one that bothered to check in with her. She used my house as a soft play for her dd, before she started nursery, brought her over sick twice, with no regard to her passing it on, esp to my second dc who was a baby at the time. She left all her daughters used tissues on my floor, didn't bother to pick them up, I had a toddler and baby, and was running around. She was lazy, and sat the whole time on her bum.
Funnily enough as soon as her dd started school she wasn't as bothered, and I wouldn't hear from her, because she didn't need to occupy her dd.
Then I became unwell with a chronic condition, and months went by and she couldn't message once to so much as ask how I was. i would measage her every year on her birthday, she wpudp forget mine. Her own family would call her selfish, and I now understand why.

The thing that really sealed the deal though, was what she messaged after my parent died after seeing my WhatsApp picture, baring in mind we hadn't had contact in over a year. She knew he had died only days before and asked "why, what happened, had he been unwell?" At this point I ghosted.

Suspect I already know the answer to this, but I'm really hoping that the DH didn't go along with this?

Very close friend who I supported through a messy marriage break up but once she got into a new relationship (who I suspect was actually an affair partner) she became unavailable unless the new partner was away.
Final straw was when my Mum died (she knew my Mum) and I got a text from her and nothing else, no visit, flowers, card nothing. She lives 5 minutes away and only works PT, vague acquaintances cared more

Isn't that her husbands fault though? Why blame her?

Long time friend was using me an excuse when seeing a guy she was having an affair with. I wasn't aware of this until I bumped into her husband on Paddington Station and he started going on about the mount of time me and his wife spend together !. I told him I hadn't seen her in weeks.

I got a call from her later that day. She started shouting and screaming at me, calling me all sorts of names. A few weeks later she demanded I give her £2k for a deposit on a flat rental, " as I was totally responsible for the break up of her marriage ". When I declined her kind offer she threatened to come round, " and punch my lights out ". .

I haven't heard from her since.

I thought this

Someone has ended a friendship with me, yes. Did I deserve it? You decide.

Friend was a lone parent I'd met when our dc were newborns, and we'd got on really well for about 10 years, and our dc really liked each other too. We used to meet up a lot. I did sometimes feel that she found my home a convenient place to leave her dc while she went off and did something else, but still, single parent and all that, and I didn't mind helping her out from time to time. She moved house more than once, and I was always round there helping her pack, move, and then clean the new place and unpack all her stuff again. On the third occasion of moving, when I dropped in for a quick coffee a week or two after she'd moved in, she said she was going to have a barbecue in her new garden, and would we like to come? Oh yes please, that would be lovely. She then suggested that DH and I turned up several hours before everyone else, and by the way could we bring our lawnmower and a load of gardening tools with us because she didn't have any. Turned out she was only inviting us so we could spruce the place up before everyone else arrived. Oh and would I help out with the cooking as well. The penny finally dropped that she always seemed to contact me when there was something I could do for her, so on this last occasion I said sorry, what a shame, we are busy that day.

That was about 10 years ago, and I've never heard from her since. I tried contacting via FB a couple of times, and sent birthday and Christmas cards for several years, but nothing. I think she found a new useful friend, and she didn't need me any more.

This happened to a friend of mine. She was utterly blindsided and devastated by her husband's actions, which she had known nothing about (they divorced very quickly). She lost friends over it, and some people said really nasty things about her despite an extensive investigation finding her completely clean.

Unless there is more of a back story, you are blaming her for someone else's repugnant actions?

She ghosted me out of the blue for the best part of a year. When my child started up at the same school, she continued avoiding me but then out of the blue said a friendly 'hi' and seemed to want to resume like nothing had happened.

Her ghosting really affected my mental health at the time and it's still painful now so I figured I didn't want to go through the cycle again and I avoid her.

She was always having issues with people - friends, colleagues, family etc so it shouldn't have been surprising that I'd be in the bin at some point too. I also think she wanted friendships entirely on her terms. It's a no return for me. I still think the whole thing was completely shitty.

A very good friend couldn't be happy for me when I had my baby. She had a child of her own, and several losses. I had also had a long and very difficult path to parenthood, and appreciate that it is hard to congratulate someone when they have something you desperately want, but I couldn't get past the fact she resented my baby when she had a child of her own. I think she disapproved of IVF too. She posted a lot on Facebook about how much she loved sending people surprise gifts, always receiving comments from happy recipients. Yet she couldn't send a card or even a text for my baby. I stepped away and felt better.

I can see we were in different places and she was struggling at the time, but the once strong friendship never recovered.

When I was asked to be a bridesmaid and then she ran me down in the GROUP WhatsApp to all the other bridesmaids!! Like I can literally read what you are writing about me!!
Im not sure if she forgot I was in the group as all the other bridesmaids were very active with messages but I had basically just said I would wear whatever she chose and just tell me the time and place you need me (I was working abroad and wasn’t on my phone 24/7 like the others) but one day I checked the chat and she had called me stuck up, selfish and loads of other things that I was honestly shocked by. Like why ask me to be a bridesmaid if you thought I was that shit as a friend???
I left the chat and didn’t bother with her again.

An emotional vampire who managed to turn me telling her about my engagement into a rant about some else. This however came after complaining she never saw me but then standing me up everytime we made arrangements.

Because I was fed up of his shit time keeping. Also the way he spoke about his "girlfriend" in front of me. He never had anything nice to say about her. Dread to think how he talked about me and his other friends.

Sorry about your dm.💐 It's shit isn't it? When df died I really saw who my friends were. It was definitely the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I had been for too soft with her for too long, and she took advantage.

She shagged the husband of my (then) business partner. And bragged about.

Didn't answer a couple of messages I sent.

She messaged me 18 months later - I ignored.

Things started to go downhill when he had a dinner party and invited loads of people, but not me and DH. Next day he sent an email asking if we wanted to join him and his family for 'left overs'. Uh, you're okay, we have plans.

Unfortunately I have a few of these :

Best friend - suddenly stopped talking to me for no reason. I found out by looking at my husbands phone (20 years married), that they were shagging (Yes, I ditched them both).

Friend of 10 years - raging alcoholic, accused me of sleeping with her very overweight and ugly DH, just because I agreed with him that she shouldn't be caring for their child when she was so drunk. That was the last straw!

Friend of about a year - on a night out, a man she fancied slipped his business card into my pocket (I had no clue), so she physically attacked me, punched me in the chest and then started stalking me.

These are the three I ditched.

Sadly, my other 3 close friends have all let me down. When I left the cheating husband, not one of my friends called me to see what was going on. Not ONE call from anyone. Of those 3 friends, I have a favourite. She's extremely wealthy, yet my birthday and Christmas presents are always recycled shite or freebies she's had with a beauty product. It's all very obvious.

I do have other friends, one's I made when I moved to a new town a decade ago, but I'll never fully trust someone again. I was so invested in my friendships when I was in my 20's and 30's. Age 55 me is much wiser and more cautious. It's a shame really. But when the chips are down, most people are such a disappointment.

A lifelong friend, we are actually related, families holidayed together and we got on so well and were always in contact and going out together.
She married and divorced her first husband for a man with plenty of money who seemed to like indulging her. She changed completely. From being someone quite frugal (definitely not mean, just careful) it was all designer bags, Chanel suits, expensive jewellery. She sneered at my plain gold wedding ring because hers has diamonds in it. All she talks about is what her husband is buying for her.
We still went out but she started to cancel for the slightest excuse and I realised she thought I wasn't good enough for her.
The last straw was her inviting DH, me and DC round as we were going to a function in her town, only to cancel us 3 days before because she wanted to go out with friends of her husband instead. After that I just stopped texting, phoning and inviting her.
Some people are just not worth the effort.