No interest in Christmas/ New Year

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I try, I really do. But I cant stand this time of year. So isolating.

Lots of comments ringing true with me too. I hate having to pretend everything is ok with my lazy twat of a husband in front of the family. It just feels like an extra bunch of work for me to do because every single present/item of food gets bought and prepped by me. When the kids open theirs he often says...ooh who got you that? They say..you did. Each time they say say that, I'm silently adding the 'you lazy twat' on the end of it.

Counting the days until it's all over

My mil went on holiday last year for the week before Christmas and flew home on 25/12. Much cheaper.

There’s just DH, me and t dog here for Christmas and I have decided that I’m not busting a gut and spending money just for the sake of it any more.
I fancy steak and chips for Christmas dinner, DH can have whatever he likes and that will be the sum total of effort I make this year. No decorating, false gaiety or having to pretend all is joy and light. I never get any Christmas presents for me, nor birthday ones either (a few days before Christmas).
I can’t wait for Christmas and the New Year to be over.

I don't want anybody to be unhappy but it seems a few of us share the same views.

I don't celebrate 25th because that is the Christian date.

We mark the winter solstice on the 21st when the longest night and the shortest day marks the return of the sun.

We don't do a tree because I refuse to kill a tree. We snip a few holly branches and place them around. We have spiced drinks and a little feast. Father Christmas for us is the Holly King, all dressed in green and the person who pulls a sleigh of (female) reindeer is Elen of the Ways. A British goddess who used to herd native reindeer and lead the way in winter. Her gifts are warmth, wisdom food, and light.

All things in balance ✨️

https://www.thedonkeysanctuary.org.uk/visit-us/sidmouth

This is also open on Christmas Day! But not the cafe/gift shop, so hopefully no bloody carol singers etc. Just lots of very calm donkeys, doing their thing.

The walks down to the sea are beautiful too.

Honestly, OP, you are very much not alone. I love midnight mass, but am always very glad when the whole Christmas shebang is over.

This is likely to be my first year without DD as she'll go to her dad's on Xmas day. I'm going all out on Christmas eve but do feel a pang of sadness inside me too. It's hard.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4968604-aibu-to-think-this-is-such-good-advice-from-the-wonderful-marian-keyes-about-christmas

LOVE those Marian Keyes videos! I always rewatch them at this time of year, as a little booster inoculation against the Christmas and New Year madness 😁

This

Hate Hogmanay and all that tartan shite.
It just gives arseholes an excuse to be bigger arseholes with a drink in them.
And yes I'm from Scotland.

I have the info on the Keswick get togethers. If you want more info please PM me, Thanks.

Contemplates 7 hour drive to Devon!

Christmas is bearable but I've no interest in big get togethers. Growing up it was always just the four of us and nowadays only me and OH as it's too much of a faff for family to travel and we don't have room to host.

Hate NY with a passion. I've now started going to bed before the bells but then can't sleep for neighbours letting off fireworks that sound like mortar bombs.

Oh that's fantastic! I lived in Sidmouth for a year. I never made it to the donkey sanctuary but that's my new plan for this Xmas.

Here's a pic from 2020 - Father Christmases kayaking around the bay, anyone?

Go! East Devon's just beautiful, and relatively unknown.

Just watched and made notes! Absolutely loved it and made me smile.

"Expectations are simply disappointments under construction" - so true!

Definitely worth a watch when you have a spare 14 mins. Thanks for sharing @Orangesandlemons77