No interest in Christmas/ New Year

[fedup33]

I try, I really do. But I cant stand this time of year. So isolating.

I totally hear you, and it's harder when every advert or event is aimed at gathering together. Have you considered volunteering at a soup kitchen or food bank? Wonderful communities to be found at each

Even if it's not your thing you might find comfort at church this time of year

And when it boils down to it it's not compulsory to enjoy Christmas and New Year many don't. Just pretend it's a normal winter month with lights to brighten the darkest time of the year.

Long term singleton who hates this time of year and the enforced happiness while everyone shows off what their partners got them and, with a tilted head asks "and what did you get?"

Don't do this. They're the worst places to be when you're not feeling festive because everyone feels they need to force Christmas onto everyone else.

It could ne nice for someone lonely though, there are also Christmas lunches on as well. We're all different and some might enjoy this.

I think I am unsociable as sitting in front of the TV all day on my own with good food and decent wine sounds heaven. My Dad chooses to do this every year and I am always jealous. I don't do a big Christmas, that is my idea of hell.

Joining this thread. Absolute dread of the next month. Last Christmas was the most traumatic of my life and I have zero energy for it. I've bought a tree which is standing in the garden. Feel like I'm going through the motions. No plans. Just a long month which always makes me feel even more alone and aware of my life errors and difficulties

Perfect time for a holiday OP !

And if you have no money??!!! I'm genuinely keen to find out how to go about volunteering.

If I am going about my business I can just about keep on top of wobbly MH. This month knocks me for 6 somehow. Many volunteering oppportunities are booked up well in advance so i'ts not just me who struggles!

What about volunteering at one of the charities who do a Christmas lunch? usually in churches, they might need people to serve it etc?

I opted out thirty years ago. My Christmas is contained in about five or six hours between 3pm Christmas Eve (Festival of Nine Lessons and Carols) and about 8pm (home from pub). Admittedly easy to do when single, no friends and minimal family and responsibilities.

What is it you dislike specifically?

I enjoy the days around Christmas, seeing family and eating good food. I have opted out of the idea that the whole of December has to be about Christmas. I think the too much of it everywhere, all the sickly tv adverts and all the people obsessed with the “magic” of it has killed it off. It feels a bit Disneyland to me now.

I find Christmas pretty horrible. This year, me and my dog are going away for the week. It's been nice having a thing to talk about rather than getting (kind) pity from friends. Some are even jealous!

Christmas is hard if you rely on your daily routine to manage life. Or if you have no family, when it can feel empty.
I think the issue is it is not just one day now. That is easier. It starts much earlier with family events.

Not an option, sadly.

I find a nice all inclusive in Egypt sorts this out.

My dh suffers from serious mental illness and is not easy to be around. The days of jolly, large, family Christmases are long gone. We have become quite isolated but I actually don't mind spending Christmas just the two of us, we can do/watch and eat exactly what we want. However, this year, his elderly parent is very ill and it will be a miracle if they get to Christmas. I'm helping nurse him at home. I'm absolutely dreading Christmas and it's so hard when everyone else (friends, my family) is so excited.

Phew, where to start, it brings up bad memories, the dark, the short days, a vague unquantifiable feeling of being excluded from, different from , not belonging.

I hate Christmas. My mum died Christmas Day. Yes, a long time ago (22years) but it's never been the same since. Roll on January for me.

No funds.But thanks

I feel the same, my mh takes a nose dive this time of year. I hope you manage to get through okay 💐

I’m so sorry @yumyum33 we lost my grandma on Christmas Day 27 years ago, it’s such a hard time of year ❤️