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Assisted Dying Bill tomorrow.

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TooBigForMyBoots · 28/11/2024 20:21

I really hope this goes ahead.

I'm from a family who die from cancer. It's a genetic thing. Over the years I've watched numerous loved ones die from this cruel and ravaging disease. It has taken a massive toll on us. From PTSD to immense guilt, complicated grief and fear of the future.

Not all of my family would have accessed Assisted Dying, but I know some did want it and requested it in the weeks / days leading to their death. They should have had the option of shortening their suffering. Having witnessed what they went through, I want that option for myself.

I want it for my mother. For the past 20 years she has told me when she wants out and how I will have to help her achieve it. I don't want to. She apologises for putting it on me. She shouldn't have to.

No one will be saved if this Bill is stopped, but fear and suffering will be reduced.

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Radamanth · 29/11/2024 13:33

HRTQueen · 29/11/2024 13:28

Many people do

But this comes with risks of their death not being peaceful and the impact of their family

Yes.

Absolutely.

Rather that than state sanctioned drugs eh?

CandyMaker · 29/11/2024 13:34

Zone2NorthLondon · 28/11/2024 20:33

I believe people who are capacitous should be able to make health decisions about planned and managed death
For disclose I work in NHS and have (unfortunately) seen individuals in pain and distress as a result of chronic illness and pain.My opinion is we should offer planned treatment to manage a chronic condition and end life
Obviously need checks and balance, assess capacity , and address any potential safeguarding queries

First comment is from someone who already wants the bill extended to include those living with chronic conditions. The bill is for those in the last 6 months of life. But disabled people like me say it will be quickly extended to include others.
As Liz Carr says, many disabled people are still fighting for a right to life.
Many able bodied people think disabled people's lives are not worth living, including some who work in the NHS.

CandyMaker · 29/11/2024 13:36

And assisted dying will not remove pain. Some people will still die in pain. It ends their life sooner, that is all.

1457bloom · 29/11/2024 13:36

Littlemissgobby · 29/11/2024 13:28

So I have watched this debate today and understandably, the fact is, she said that this bill specifically says terminal illness so therefore no slippery slope, I am sick of people talking about slippery slope as an argument against. I listened to the stories and it made me cry try vomiting shit for 5 hours one guy did no palative care can stop that

I have been watching this too. People don't realise that even the best palliative can't stop you having an horrific, agonising death. That is the state sanctioned status quo.

1457bloom · 29/11/2024 13:38

CandyMaker · 29/11/2024 13:36

And assisted dying will not remove pain. Some people will still die in pain. It ends their life sooner, that is all.

Well, it will give people the choice of dying in pain or dying peacefully. You will no longer be forced to die in pain by the state.

NotOneOfTheInCrowd · 29/11/2024 13:44

Littlemissgobby · 29/11/2024 13:28

So I have watched this debate today and understandably, the fact is, she said that this bill specifically says terminal illness so therefore no slippery slope, I am sick of people talking about slippery slope as an argument against. I listened to the stories and it made me cry try vomiting shit for 5 hours one guy did no palative care can stop that

Except that it absolutely is a slippery slope. You are naive if you think it isn’t.

Right now people say “you wouldn’t put an animal through that, so why a cancer patient.”

If this becomes legal people will say “you wouldn’t put a cancer patient through that, so why someone who is old/disabled/has some other kind of condition.”
There are people on these threads who think that this will extend to dementia patients for instance and it won’t. Except that if it becomes legal people will campaign for the next acceptance level, and the next, and the next.

We already have people on these threads saying that this will just be the beginning, and hopefully when their time comes the law will have changed…. Etc.

The reality is that the majority of people are for this bill because the majority want to be able to euthanise the sick, the elderly, the disabled, the mentally ill. Already we’ve had people say things like “but why shouldn’t I be able to end my life if I’m mentally ill”, or “If I became disabled in an accident, I wouldn’t want to live.”

In an ideal world it would be your body your choice. Except it wouldn’t be. There’s already an element of the bill where someone can sign for someone else. So the cracks are already there.

Littlemissgobby · 29/11/2024 13:45

Well hemlock and foxglove very poisonous seeds just looked it up seems the win to me if they don’t pass it I now know a way out

CandyMaker · 29/11/2024 13:49

1457bloom · 29/11/2024 13:38

Well, it will give people the choice of dying in pain or dying peacefully. You will no longer be forced to die in pain by the state.

You are wrong. We know from assisted dying elsewhere some still die in pain. They simply die early.

1457bloom · 29/11/2024 13:52

@CandyMaker if you opt for assisted dying you will relieve yourself of pain, that is the point. You are wrong.

Thatsthebottomline · 29/11/2024 13:54

I think the Bill is a slippery slope that doesn’t have enough safeguards to protect life. I am quite pro life anyway and believe that it is not upto the state to decide who lives and who dies.

So it’ll be a no.

CandyMaker · 29/11/2024 14:07

1457bloom · 29/11/2024 13:52

@CandyMaker if you opt for assisted dying you will relieve yourself of pain, that is the point. You are wrong.

This concerns me. So many supporters who do not understand what they support.
If you are in pain, you can still die a painful death. Assisted dying kills you that is all.

Kendodd · 29/11/2024 14:09

AccountCreateUsername · 29/11/2024 12:49

Bit disingenuous. I’m that isn’t a choice we need to make or are even discussing here.

The fact remains that Gosport happened. Mid staffs. Blanket DNARs in care homes revealed by the CQC (obviously unlawful and immoral). There is NO WAY our health service is ready for this.

With regard DNAR in (elderly) care homes, surely that would almost always be the default anyway? Resuscitation is brutal and you need to be quite robust for it, even in young people ribs are often broken. So let's say by a small chance it's successful, and the person survived. You now have an extremely frail elderly person, in very poor health, now bed bound with all their ribs broken living for a few extra weeks.
I certainly wouldn't want that outcome for myself.

CandyMaker · 29/11/2024 14:11

"The reality is that the majority of people are for this bill because the majority want to be able to euthanise the sick, the elderly, the disabled, the mentally ill. Already we’ve had people say things like “but why shouldn’t I be able to end my life if I’m mentally ill”, or “If I became disabled in an accident, I wouldn’t want to live.”

I agree with this comment above. The very first comment on this thread is from someone who works in the NHS who says chronically ill people in pain or distress should be eligible for assisted suicide as it is no life.

AutumnLeaves1990 · 29/11/2024 14:13

It's looking like it'll go ahead,going by recent polls 😔

Frith2013 · 29/11/2024 14:14

It certainly brings to the fore that religion has no place in politics.

Kendodd · 29/11/2024 14:15

I wonder if one extra safeguard might be to introduce some sort of legal contract people who don't want assisted dying can sign saying they never want this for themselves under any circumstances?
It's completely unnecessary imo but might take some worry away it they could sign some sort of 'not for me' register.
I don't think it would placate people because I think they want to stop others, who desperately want it, using this to ease their own passing. It might be something though.

WinterCrow · 29/11/2024 14:17

I'm watching live. Voting result expected in 10 mins.

AccountCreateUsername · 29/11/2024 14:17

CandyMaker · 29/11/2024 13:34

First comment is from someone who already wants the bill extended to include those living with chronic conditions. The bill is for those in the last 6 months of life. But disabled people like me say it will be quickly extended to include others.
As Liz Carr says, many disabled people are still fighting for a right to life.
Many able bodied people think disabled people's lives are not worth living, including some who work in the NHS.

👏🏼

WinterCrow · 29/11/2024 14:19

WinterCrow · 29/11/2024 14:17

I'm watching live. Voting result expected in 10 mins.

Or sooner, by the looks of it ...

WinterCrow · 29/11/2024 14:21

I'm glad if this debate has brought a sharper focus to MPs about palliative care and quality of life care for people with disabilities. No, they are not good enough.

Edited to make sense ...

AccountCreateUsername · 29/11/2024 14:21

Kendodd · 29/11/2024 14:15

I wonder if one extra safeguard might be to introduce some sort of legal contract people who don't want assisted dying can sign saying they never want this for themselves under any circumstances?
It's completely unnecessary imo but might take some worry away it they could sign some sort of 'not for me' register.
I don't think it would placate people because I think they want to stop others, who desperately want it, using this to ease their own passing. It might be something though.

Opting out isn’t a strong enough safeguard.

Look at Canada for slippery slopes!

WinterCrow · 29/11/2024 14:23

AccountCreateUsername · 29/11/2024 14:21

Opting out isn’t a strong enough safeguard.

Look at Canada for slippery slopes!

Let's do it differently then, like our Parliament has done with self-ID?

WinterCrow · 29/11/2024 14:24

Through to second reading. Majority 55.

Kendodd · 29/11/2024 14:24

I wonder if there are any numbers in the UK for people with terminal illness who have killed themselves? I had a quick look but couldn't see a breakdown.

CandyMaker · 29/11/2024 14:24

@Kendodd the DNR in care homes during covid included blanket DNR in homes for people with learning disabilities.

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