Worried about dc growing up to fit in all the Christmas experiences

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Worried about dc growing up to fit in all the Christmas experiences. There’s only a certain amount of time you have, to take them to places like Lapland, Disneyland, Christmas lodges and holidays, days out. Does anyone else feel like this?

Nope. It really doesn't matter.

Erm nope.

No, not at all, that's not what Christmas is about for us

No,

I can't say I really felt like that no

Sure we've been on days out but never been to Disney or Lapland or Christmas lodges and had 2 holidays in her 11 years of life, one abroad.

I don't really bad about it or spend my time worrying about it.

I don't think those things are things we have to do

Absolutely not. You don’t “need” to do any of those things. Disneyland? Fucking hell 🤣 Christmas is expensive enough!

They will get experience fatigue if you ram all of these things in. It will lose it's magic.

DS has never been interested in Disneyland.
I went to Lapland when I was 21 and it was amazing. A child won't appreciate most of it to be honest, things like saunas and rolling in the snow, riding ski bikes etc.
Santa's grotto at the local garden centre is perfectly wonderful when you're a small child. Don't overthink it.

I would have hated doing that at Christmas as a kid. I wanted family and cousins and nice food and presents and games. And a good snowy walk ideally. That's all.

The magic is you spending time with them and doing stuff. Making mince pies etc not these fancy headline activities. Mine are older and they remember getting the tree and decorating it and having Christmas eve dinner with granny. They never mention visits to father Christmas etc. Its all marketing/social pressure dont fall for it.

No, my children are grown up, we never did any of that. Mind you I don’t even know what a Christmas Lodge is.

No.

Children tend to want the predictable rituals of their family Christmas.

No, none of these are essential, it’s just social media that makes you think so. Best memories will be playing in the snow, making a gingerbread house, spending time with family, eating too much chocolate. There was none of this over the top stuff when we were young and I hold so many cherished memories of Christmas.

All of these experiences have been invented and are heavily marketed to make you feel like this. It's not wrong to want to do nice things with your kids, but most of the pressure you are feeling right now has been manufactured by businesses in a cynical pursuit of profit.

It's worth accepting now that you can't do everything. Nor should you try.

Not worried, no. You don’t have to do any of these things.

We took them to Disneyland Paris at primary age. It was a real let down. They never mention it now. Not even in the top 10 of places we remember that we visited as a family while they were children.

Not
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Never been to Santa Grotto, Lapland when a teen for winter snow in Feb and not for Santa

Was away once during Christmas and it felt like Christmas never happened.

We have our own little traditions but they evolve around being at home.

Never done Lapland or Christmas lodge or any of those expensive light shows, or the awful sounding winter wonderland thing in London. There's no need for any of it!

We concentrated on more low key things like the crib service at church, Christmas fete at school, local ice rink, panto at the theatre. Lots of Christmas crafting at home, baking etc..

I don't think it matters. My fondest memories of Christmas are the school Christmas fair and putting the decorations up. We did a Christmas train ride once but I only remember it from my parents talking about it.

All the experiences I mean in the run up to Christmas so you still be at home for Christmas. The lodge I mean is like centre parcs, bluestone type holidays.

What's a Christmas lodge?

DD never went to Lapland, Disney land or a specific holiday lodge.

She's a well rounded adult. Apart from never getting a horsey on a stick (hobby horse) I don't think she feels like she's missing out.
Do what you have time for, that you can afford and most importantly that you would enjoy with your DC!

You are being dragged into a consumer mindset. There is not only a short time for precious experiences. They are for the adults more than their dc.

Disney and lapland can be very expensive for not much fun especiallywith very young dc. Your dc will appreciate Disney at older ages too. Universal is brilliant teen upwards really.

Forest lodges (I think I know what you mean, centreparcs or similar?) are just selling a dream of winter cosiness and providing overpriced lame activities to fill the lodges during the off season. I've never done it but I can imagine getting out of the house and time away from home without cleaning or shopping ir usual activities and getting takeaway or eating out is nice but it's not going to be as good as going in the summer.

Of course not. Are you joking OP or is this a reverse?