How on earth can I exchange this gift?

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Ex BF bought a gift online to be delivered to my home but we broke up before the gift arrived

The size is wrong - way too big and baggy - it is the worst colour on me and I don’t like the stylr

I would like to go to a store and exchange for a different size / colour same item - or - something else entirely different

But I do not have the receipt or proof of purchase and we are not talking to each other

(backstory - he had a bit too much to drink and confessed to cheating which led to a break up which led to him blocking me everywhere - pretty sure he will not give me proof of purchase especially since it will appear I don’t like the gift)

I don’t have ebay, etsy or anything like that and the value is 300 so it is not something easy to sell even though it is brand new with tags, in the box etc

Will I make a fool of myself if I go to the store and try to exchange without proof of purchase?

Which store?

What is it and where is it from?

You could see if they would exchange or give credit but even with proof of purchase they are not obliged to.

If I were you I’d forward it onto him so he can get his money back
Call me stupid if you want but I wouldn’t want to keep a gift of that value from someone I was no longer with.

Just send it back to him or give it away.

Just tell them the truth, or it was a present. They will have a record of selling it, unless he knicked it if course!! Thy should let you swap it or give you store credit. They don't have to mind, but most places will if you ask nicely

There should be a delivery note in the packaging, surely you could use that?
If not, sell it on Vinted, it's easy.

I'd just sell it on EBay/vinted

Check the shop/company's website to save potential embarrassment. But to save looking grabby send it back to ex or give to charity

Morally you should give it back to him.

Email/Call the company and ask.

Send it back and he’ll get a refund. Why are you wanting to keep it if he’s an ex?

I think in this scenario I would, if at all possible, give the gift back to him. You don't like it and he is your ex. He will be able to get a refund which seems only fair. To be honest it's a bit grabby otherwise.

You've broken up, just send it back. Why do you want a gift from him?

So you are not with him, but are still going to accept a £300 gift? I agree with others saying that the morally right thing to do is to return it to him. He paid for it so it's not like you are going to be out of pocket.

I'd just sell it on Vinted.

He bought it for her as a gift while they were still together - if he didn't want to miss out on £300 maybe he shouldn't have cheated!

Keeping the gift keeps the link.

I'd give it back to him. It doesn't feel right imo to keep a gift that arrives after you've broken up.

You don't like it and it seems unlikely the store would exchange it or give you a refund given you have no proof of purchase. Honestly I'd just return it.

Either give it back to him, or give it away to a charity shop (they’ll be delighted and sell online to maximise profits) or sell it yourself on eBay or Vinted. (You can’t say you ‘don’t have’ eBay - it’s open to everyone!)

I wouldn't feel morally obliged to give it back to him since he cheated on you. Try returning it to the place it was purchased first and if not, sell it.

Why is it being suggested that morally OP should give the gift back… her ex didn’t have any morals when he cheated on her!!

and two wrongs do not a right make

It’s free to set up accounts on eBay/Vinted and to sell on there too. Crack on.