How long do you think it will be before people notice?

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I've started a weight loss plan and don't plan on telling people apart from DH who is doing it with me.

My starting weight is 20st 13lb (horrific I know) and I've currently lost 17lb so weigh 19st 10lb.

Even I can barely tell so far! But I'm just interested to wonder how long it will be before anyone says anything/ notices. I think it might be when I get to 17 maybe even 16 stone.

Please no fat shaming, I've heard it all before.

If you've lost weight like this before, how long was it before people noticed?

Congratulations OP, I have lost the same weight as you and just today reached your starting weight so I get it.

Having been on this roundabout for years I've found that it's generally about 3-4 stone before people start noticing - or saying that they've noticed. In my parents case this is exactly the same point so I'm not sure people are as restrained as others think they are.

I'm 5-10 so I think that probably makes a difference too as it comes off all over

You won't know when people notice either probably, lots are worried about saying the wrong thing so even if they do see it won't say anything. Some will I expect, but just focus on you rather than the response of others.

People usually notice a difference, but nay say something like ‘ you look well’ rather than ‘you’ve list weight’.

I’ve lost four stone. Was amazed how long it took people to notice. First 2 stone no one seemed to say anything but after 3 I have had so many comments.

Congratulations OP! That’s an awesome loss. I’ve lost just over 4 stone this year and people have definitely not been backward about commenting…but tbh, I don’t mind as I’m super proud of myself.
The people you see regularly may not say anything at first, as they may not notice a gradual weight loss. However, those who you haven’t seen for a month or so definitely will.
I found people commented more when I started wearing my old (thinner) clothes. As a PP said, they just fit better and I’m now keen to show off my new figure. Any new clothes I buy are in a different style to my old, larger clothes too - sequin mini for Christmas, I’m looking at you!
You will definitely look different as you will be healthier and probably a lot happier too. A happy person ‘glows’!

No it isn't.

I weighed just under 13 and I’m now 9 and a half. I did it slowly over the course of a year and people have only just started to comment!

Impossible to say but well done.

I once went from 18 1/2 stone to 10 St (all now back on) fairly rapidly. The bulk of the comments to me were from about 4st loss onwards. By 7st pretty much every person I spoke to said something about my weight loss.

Just thought I'd add - I'm big now again and have been before. In relation to your quote, noone has ever passed comment about my high weight to me. That's so rude.

This. My friend lost loads of weight and I noticed after about six weeks. Didn't bring it up for ages though, and only because it kind of came up in conversation naturally.

Yeah, there will be a gap between how many people notice and how many people comment.

DH changed his diet significantly and started exercising regularly, and has lost a huge amount of weight, but a relatively small number of people have commented.

congratulations op on the weight loss so far. My DH lost 3 stone in a year and I didn’t really notice much difference apart from when he got new clothes or I seen him in photos! Everyone was commenting by around 1st weigh loss though as it became noticeable in his face. Well done on your success so far!

I was heavier than you and it was a hun I’d lost about 10% of my weight it started to be noticeable.

I think a lot of people nowadays don’t mention it, so be prepared for that

its often not noticeable particularly if you see someone regular. One day I noticed my colleague looked different & asked if she had lost weight. She had lost 3 stone but I hadn’t noticed before.

Well done !

People who see you a lot will probably not notice for some time, as the change is gradual. I think that if they do notice, many won't want to comment anyway, since someone's weight is quite personal.

Nobody said anything to me at all, until one person who hadn't seen me for about 6 months just blurted it out.

I think it's very variable and depends on your face etc. I started at 19st 4 and have lost exactly 3 stone not had a single comment. DH started at 21st 12 and has lost just over 2 stone everywhere we go he gets the wow you've lost loads of weight comments.

I'm genuinely surprised you all have so many people in your lives who wouldn't comment!

My mum and dad would in a lovely way, they'd be proud.

My mother in law would because she comments on everyone's weight, even my teenagers when they were going through puberty! She's a bit obsessed with her own weight and is always on a diet.

My friends who I've known for 20+ years, some of them would, again in a complimentary way. I only see them 4-6 times a year though.

And work colleagues might not straight away but they are lovely so would say something if the topic came up.

I've been shouted at by a white van man 'fat slag'.

I've had a guy shout road rage at me calling me a 'fucking fat bitch'.

I've had a school mum ask if I was pregnant and when I said no she said 'Alright, don't go getting all offended, it's just difficult to tell'.

People may not bring it up unless you do, as there's been a shift. If it's not acceptable to mention when people gain weight it's not acceptable to compliment weight loss either, as it could be due to illness, grief, stress.

Amazing progress, be proud of yourself.

I recently lost 4 stone using the weight loss jab so it came off quite quickly, it still took a couple of stone before I had the first comment then I started getting lots of comments after 3 stone.

(I started at 17 stone)

I think a lot of it though was the time of year, I began last winter so saw less people and was wearing my jumpers and big coat then by March I would be wearing a gilet or thinner coat or t-shirt and cardigan which all show off the weight loss more.

I started at 18st and it probably took 3st for people to notice 'oh you've lost some weight?' type stuff

And 5 stone to start saying I look good etc
I'm now 10st 3 and people are starting to tell me to stop 🙄

I never comment on people's weight. It's rude and they don't always take it well.

I have no idea, sorry.
It's a good thing, anyway 👍

Just... How do people lose two stone?
Not being funny.

i cant guarantee they will
well done for the weight loss

Really well done!! 👏

Many people won't notice - too interested in themselves ...

Others will but won't comment - understanding that weight is an emotional issue. Or they're miffed you're achieving it and they aren't.

And others will and will comment.

In the end it's how you feel and appear and are that count.

Susan Calman has also lost a lot of weight. I caught a programme she was in last night and it was really noticeable . She looks so much better. She’s lost two and a half stones I think.