Why do people exit whatsapp groups?

[Teenie22]

Genuinely interested in why people do this? Unless it’s for a specific event that you’re not going to, or unless there’s conflict in a group, I don’t really understand it. When you set up a group for people who regularly chat and interact and get on, why would you exit the group?

Because you aren’t involved in the groups purpose; or rather don’t want to be. Most adults are part of a huge number of groups, it pays to be selective unless you particularly enjoy reading whatsapp threads.

I was in a choir and got added to the WhatsApp group which it seems was used, essentially, like an extension of Facebook for all the choir members to show off pictures of them in Benidorm / their new grandson / their son getting married etc etc etc and 50 odd messages of happy birthday every time someone had a birthday, or messages of support if someone had so much as a sniffle. It was absolutely infuriating. In between the choir terms the choir leader said "I'm going to shut down the group over the break as we all need a rest" and so many of the members were up in arms saying "Some of our members require this group for social contact" and were really upset at the suggestion it should be closed even temporarily.

I soon left the WhatsApp group, and then the choir sadly altogether, because it was just so much social media bullshit and I couldn't be arsed with it all anymore.

They always become a place for women to outdo each other or show off. Whatsapp groups are insufferable.

Reading this thread reminds me of why I deleted WhatsApp altogether.

I set up a chat on it for a group of crafters working on a project. We got the project done, and no one posted in the group anymore. About 4 months later, I deleted the group. I got given hell by a couple of people for "kicking" them from the group. Not a soul was posting in it!

Then add to that all the grief you get for turning off read notifications (MN is full of threads complaining about people turning it off), I just deleted the app.
If someone wants me, they can text, or send me a PM over FB (but I don't have that on my phone either). I hate the expectation to be available 24/7.

My art group has a WhatsApp group. Its legitimate purpose is for the teacher to message us with details of the next lesson. But ever since it was set up it has been riddled with one person in particular posting her fabulous art work week upon week and asking the teacher what more she can do to improve it. She must be aware that we can all see it. It seems such false modesty because her art work is so amazing that it psss me off to the extent that I feel like leaving the group.

When tidying up my whatsapp, I’ll leave groups that haven’t been active for a while. I also leave when i’m not attending or an event has passed. Works groups I tend to mute for a week when they are getting on my nerves.

All my groups are so varied though, I love the friends and family ones, not so much ones I've ended up in that are big groups but how people can say they hate them all is a bit ridiculous

Because of climate change?

Eg the average WhatsApp group chat uses 2.35kg of CO 2 a week

See, I don't understand the logic if this.
Don't use an app because of climate change... the alternative is to send a letter which uses how much CO2?

As you can see it’s because a lot of people don’t really understand their phones / apps. It’s so easy to silence chat notifications if you can be bothered to learn how.

Wasn’t judging if that’s what you mean, just interested to know due to a personal situation!

Perfectly understandable!

I recently exited / deleted some old groups because I once thought every conversation meant setting up a new group (duh) and realised they were still there using up my google memory. Mostly happy with the ones that are left (family / friend groups mainly). Work ones irritate so I regularly mute those. One is mainly just happy birthdays to colleagues. I go between feeling I should be nice (so send birthday wishes) to resenting the intrusion (and muting / ignoring).

Yeah, and you can also leave the group?

Thanks - I probably didn’t quite ask the right question but this thread has given me enormous insight!

It’s a pretty dull issue really but I’m on a very small family thread. Used rarely and very purposefully to arrange meeting up usually, eg Christmas, sharing important family news (briefly). It’s used maybe 3-4 times a year but we’re all pretty close. One family member has deleted herself from the group so I’ve just had to create another group to share an important message so we can discuss. Was just interested in why you would do this when the original group and posting it isn’t really likely to be annoying!

None of mine are thankfully, I think the issue is more the women you end up in these groups with.

Because I don't want to be in a WhatsApp group. I find group chatting on an app an infuriating waste of time, so unless it's specifically to organise something, I leave.

Much rather go down the pub or out for a meal with the same people instead.

@twentysevendresses Still here - hellish and long day at work - thoroughly appreciating all the insight this is giving me. I’m going to stop adding people to groups now without asking first and I’m going to leave a ton of groups I’m on myself 🤣🤣🤣

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Pub meal works if everyone is on the same continent.

Our family groups are spread over several countries / time zones round the world.

@Givemethreerings What?? Really? How can that happen? Time online and electricity to recharge batteries? Never thought of this!

Yep, I've got people like that, I WhatsApp them individually. Prefer a call but happy to do messaging. It's specifically the group aspect what does my nut in. One to one I can just reply when it's convenient, in a group I feel like I'm being rude by ignoring when everyone else is chatting.

I think it's the servers required but I'm guessing. Hopefully someone who knows what they're talking about will come on and explain more.

For a friends hen do which was going to be virtual I woke up to 200 messages from the maid of honour. Life’s too short. I left the group

I was in a old school 'friends' group. Quite nice catching up then it just became bitchy and the like. I didn't have time for it then, and I certainly don't have time for it now I'm nearing 50.