Why do people exit whatsapp groups?

[Teenie22]

Genuinely interested in why people do this? Unless it’s for a specific event that you’re not going to, or unless there’s conflict in a group, I don’t really understand it. When you set up a group for people who regularly chat and interact and get on, why would you exit the group?

I do know how to use my phone. Notifications are on silent, I do mute and archive them. But seeing the ‘unread’ having a number upsets my OCD. I prefer to just leave.

there are a couple of groups I can’t wait to leave, like class chats. Not long to go.

Yes, I can’t say I’ve ever noticed who’s left any group I’m in, apart from once experiencing minor relief when a vocal anti-vaxxer tin hat parent left the class WhatsApp in a huff because someone pointed out that Covid vaccines probably weren’t an Illuminati-sponsored attempt at mind- control.

Oo did you know you can change your settings so they can't add you? I can be invited, but then I choose whether or not to join. Much better.

So now OP I don't leave the groups as I don't join them in the first place. For example this weekend DC have been invited to a birthday party. We received a digital flyer with all the party details on. Then three days later a WhatsApp group about the party appeared. No explanation or anything, just 'join my WhatsApp group'...but I have the date, time, location, dress code and gift list already. What more can there be?? I'm good thanks.

When I realise I don't actually like the people in the group and find memes and cat photos tedious.

Because between school / PTA / extended family / own school friends / uni friends / local mum friends / neighbour friends I’m usually in about twenty active ones. I archive / mute ones that I’m not active but might need - and exit and delete anything which is no longer relevant or useful. It’s a filing management issue more than anything else. I’m a bit overwhelmed by trying to be a present human to my friends + family - I get overwhelmed + my WhatsApp clogged up if I don’t leave groups and people continue to send memes / mundane updates - especially if I don’t know some of the people in the group.

I'm in one with two gfs. We all watch Strictly together and comment on the dances. We then meet at my work on a Sunday and have a chat too.

I sometimes exit one that were for a specific event eg 'Harry's 11th birthday party', though inoften dont bother as they usually go quiet after the event anyway.

This week I have been exoting the 5! Work whatsapp Groups I am on as tomorrow is my last day after a 5y stint! Has been giving me great joy i have to say :)

Why wouldn't you leave if it no longer serves it's purpose or you don't enjoy it? What am I missing?

I've done this. There's a class WhatsApp and I've previously set up a new one if I'm inviting class to a birthday party. It's so I don't have to wade through numerous 'has anyone got Johnny's water bottle' and a bunch of 'I've checked abc's bag and it's not there' replies to see who is coming or not.

Sometimes you can’t leave. Like my family one. I can’t leave that. Or ones that do have some use. Like a local club one. The admin posts the same bit of information repeatedly. But there is new information weekly. I just receive it 85 times.

Because they are so bloody boring and self serving 🤷‍♀️

I mute my children's class whatsapp groups as there's always someone on there asking something stupid. It goes off a lot in the evening too, always the same 1 or 2 people. I left a group I was added on from a training course as no one bothered to go on it and it was just a dead chat with people going on every 6 months or so to check in with others, then nothing after that.

Agreed.

I feel there is a market for a WhatsApp settings workshop.

No need. Everyone clearly knows how to use the app and is very capable of locating the exit group button.

I can't stand constant pings, even if you can mute it. It's one of the reasons Ill only use Facebook messenger and even that's irritating. All groups are muted.

I would prefer to be asked before someone includes me in any WhatsApp group?
Perhaps others feel the same and simply remove themselves.

You can set it so that you only get an invite to join a group and you have to approve it, so people can’t add you without your approval :)

@Happygirl79 and many others...just gonna leave this here for you in case helpful :)

There's also an option to 'lock' chats now. So you can't see them unless you enter a pin code. Totally hidden. Useful if you're like me and way too easily distracted by the few chats I'm still in :P

What do you mean by pings even if muted?

You can go into Settings and turn off any kind of noise. You can also turn off anything appearing on your home screen. If you do this you wouldn’t know you had a message unless you open WhatsApp.

I would prefer to be asked before someone includes me in any WhatsApp group?
Perhaps others feel the same

Thanks everyone for the advice regarding 'settings '

I've moved from London to Somerset recently. I have subsequently left a work WhatsApp group (I no longer need to know if someone is running late, and am not available now to cover a shift at short notice) a street one (I can no longer recommend a plumber), a local dog owner group (I'm genuinely sorry your dog ran off from the park but unless it's come down the M3 or caught a train from Waterloo I'm not going to see it) and a gym one (good to know there's space in the aqua class but I'm not going to make a 6 hour round trip to go).

Looks like the OP has left the chat 😂

My reasons are because firstly I wasn't even asked if I wanted to be in a group, I was just added which is part of WhatsApp that annoys me

I find groups are set up for one thing and then they turn in to something else and there's usually some moron who has to post stupidly late at night

I remember a woman on her a few years back laughing delightedly about how her nephew kept leaving their family WhatsApp group and she added him back in every time. I thought this was hilarious. Everyone on here pointed out that she was being a twat and that he probably hates her 😆