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Sleeping with 101 men in a day

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dorabora · 03/11/2024 07:35

This 23 year old has recently done this, and uploaded the content to only fans. She has received alot of hate on TikTok but the men who took part have barely been mentioned.

apple.news/Aqkq-kLDpTIOog_cxaObeIg

What do you think ?

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DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 16:00

User135644 · 03/11/2024 15:24

It's only the men at the top who can attract a lot of women who'd want them. Any halfway attractive woman could get hundreds or thousands of matches on OLD from men wanting to sleep with them. Only the top few men would.

This is true to a degree. But they pay the penalty of slut shame.

By contrast powerful influential men can bed hundreds of women and see an actual increase in their desirability.

Also even an average man can sleep with a lot of women and have a lot of children and not face anywhere near the stigma and shame of a single mum, say, with 3 children from three different fathers for e.g.

silveranderson · 03/11/2024 16:26

Her vagina must be like a wizards sleeve after all that.

Well that's as ridiculous a statement as it is incorrect, and exactly the kind of thing I would expect someone on UK Punting to say. FYI - the vagina is a muscular tube, it expands and contracts as needed. Like any muscle, the more it is used, the tighter and stronger it is.

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 16:31

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 15:18

@DysonSphere

I disagree because - no, I don’t think (in reverse) - a man who sleeps with 101 women in a day is admired or respected by society today. Perhaps 10 years ago, Russell Brand was considered a stud, but in 2024 that behaviour would be considered harmful.

I don’t think it’s a case of empowerment at all.

STD’s are harmful. Emotions around relationships can cause great emotional distress.

The vast majority of families would not want their loved ones (male or female) to behave in this way because of potential harm caused.

I disagree because - no, I don’t think (in reverse) - a man who sleeps with 101 women in a day is admired or respected by society today.

I think you're right that there has started to be a shift perhaps, in thinking with regards to the perception of men who sleep around with the current generation, but I think in terms of social penalties, a man in such a position still wouldn't be subject to the sexual judgement that a woman in the same position would be. Nor would he think himself diminished by his previous sexual experiences, which means he would be far less likely to experience a mental schism and see himself as used, or damaged goods, or exploited. His relationship prospects would also be far less likely to be affected. His mental health would likely stay intact.

And the difference in how a man and a woman would both filter these previous sexually liberal experiences come down to the fact that a woman's worth (as you can see from the thread) is still tied to that of the male sexual desire. She has no agency in the face of this desire, even if she is manipulating it, or exerting power over it. She can only be a victim at best.

Essentially women are judged via the penis. Both if they can still attract the penis, and paradoxically, whether they've experienced a lot of penis.

Which ties in with your second post about women wearing makeup etc. Again it because the notion of women's self-worth is intrinsically tied to the male desire. Women have worth if they are desirable to other men. There is currently another thread running discussing all the things women are putting themselves through in order to remain looking as young as possible. Why? Because women being found to be funny, intelligent, interesting, kind, generous or warm, doesn't ultimately matter. What matters most is how desirable she is to men and how many men she's had and many she can still get. That defines her worth.

This woman has a personality but people have called her a slut. You mention harm, but perhaps it is prevailing ideas and notions around female sexual initiative that help engender this harm, and a lack of safety.

Extending this argument on women's worth being tied to the male penis, or male desire, perhaps this is why older women seem to have no value, unless (going by the Grandparenting threads) they are volunteering to look after their son-in-law's offspring, thereby facilitating the penis by proxy.

(I am pushing ideas here! But it makes a sort of sense)

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 16:32

@DysonSphere

Which men - in 2024, do we see as hugely desirable because they have bedded lots of women?

I don’t think that’s true - or if it once was, I think society is shifting away from that.

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 16:40

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 16:32

@DysonSphere

Which men - in 2024, do we see as hugely desirable because they have bedded lots of women?

I don’t think that’s true - or if it once was, I think society is shifting away from that.

I guess I'm thinking of male stars and singers including perhaps footballers, etc where their sexual exploits are lionised in the press and groups of women follow them eagerly hoping to get bedded, and it really doesn't affect their marriageability at all.

MaidOfAle · 03/11/2024 16:46

IDontHateRainbows · 03/11/2024 10:44

There's probably a fetish for that.

It's a variation of cuckoldry fetishism, to want to ingest other men's semen from a woman's post-coital vulva.

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 16:53

@DysonSphere

But when we read about ‘exploits’, I don’t think we really admire the behaviour? Male or female? We don’t think : great, I’ll encourage the male/female members of my family to do the same.

We see it as bad behaviour.

User135644 · 03/11/2024 17:04

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 16:00

This is true to a degree. But they pay the penalty of slut shame.

By contrast powerful influential men can bed hundreds of women and see an actual increase in their desirability.

Also even an average man can sleep with a lot of women and have a lot of children and not face anywhere near the stigma and shame of a single mum, say, with 3 children from three different fathers for e.g.

It's not a fair outcome but it's about how obtainable it is for both. Most women can get men eager to have sex with them, just because they're a woman. Men have to show worth and status to be sexually desired. That's why men who get a lot of sex increases their status. It reverses for women.

CalicoPusscat · 03/11/2024 17:15

I wouldn't like it at all if one of my female friends did it, put it that way

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 17:17

I think we’ve probably had thousands of years of ingrained gender/sexual stereotypes to overcome : before pill/reliable contraception in the 60’s. Perhaps men were controlling women’s behaviour to ensure their genes are the genes of their offspring.
Historically, women never had this doubt. They know when they gave birth it was their child.

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 17:30

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 16:53

@DysonSphere

But when we read about ‘exploits’, I don’t think we really admire the behaviour? Male or female? We don’t think : great, I’ll encourage the male/female members of my family to do the same.

We see it as bad behaviour.

I'm not entirely convinced we do see it on a whole societally...yet...as bad behaviour.

We may not directly encourage male members of our families to go out and accrue sexual experiences (although indirectly I don't know) but culturally we accept it on the part of men much more readily as it fits within the patriarchally contrived paradigm.

I don't see the widespread criticism towards men societally that indulge in sexually risky or deviant behaviour that you refer to. There is for e.g. a lot of conversation about 'body counts' which is a judgemental rubric being applied almost exclusively to women, not men, although I do agree that opinions are shifting perhaps in some respects especially with the younger Gen Z/Alpha.

Again what male star that has a story printed about him in a hotel room with several women for e.g. really has his status diminished as a result and is described with derogatory sexually shaming slurs and expected to suffer remorse? I can't think of any.

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 17:36

User135644 · 03/11/2024 17:04

It's not a fair outcome but it's about how obtainable it is for both. Most women can get men eager to have sex with them, just because they're a woman. Men have to show worth and status to be sexually desired. That's why men who get a lot of sex increases their status. It reverses for women.

Ok that's really interesting.

So supply and demand?

What's easily to obtain has less value and what's more difficult to obtain has more?

QuintessentialDragon · 03/11/2024 17:38

What do I think?

I think she's a brainless slut and so are all the men involved - brainless sluts.

Don't care if it's not a 'correct' opinion.

I'd think the same if it would be a person I know (male or female) and/or a family member. And I'd be ashamed of them.

I have no issues with sleeping around, one night stands, having fun, shagging people after parties or on a first date - did it myself. But this is not it.

Disturbia81 · 03/11/2024 17:50

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 16:32

@DysonSphere

Which men - in 2024, do we see as hugely desirable because they have bedded lots of women?

I don’t think that’s true - or if it once was, I think society is shifting away from that.

Yeah I don't know anyone who thinks anything positive about players.

User123456713 · 03/11/2024 17:56

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 14:54

Her words:

For those who say Lily is doing it purely for the money, the OnlyFans star says: ‘People can think what they want, that’s totally fine. I earned a stable income from OnlyFans before – I didn’t need to sleep with 101 random men, I did that out of enjoyment.’

I have no idea how much she makes from OF

If she enjoyed the experience and i assume the men did too, there is an argument that says its none of our business.

I did have a google and she has done this before and unless she is a very talented actor, seems to enjoy it.

I hope she stops or at least takes more care of herself, some STIs now do not respond to antibiotics.

User135644 · 03/11/2024 17:57

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 17:36

Ok that's really interesting.

So supply and demand?

What's easily to obtain has less value and what's more difficult to obtain has more?

Pretty much. I don't think character wise it boosts men who sleep around but men who are successful with women will attract other women as a result. It increases their status. It works the reverse for women with men.

KendraTheVampyrSlayer · 03/11/2024 18:02

Wasn't this done by a woman about 20ish years ago? I'm sure it was on channel 4. She slept with 100 men in a day. Basically lay on a platform and the men queued up to shag her. By the end she was upset and crying. The whole thing was filmed. I always wondered what happened to her.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 03/11/2024 18:13

NoisyDenimShaker · 03/11/2024 14:35

I've never heard of her, so I just Googled...that poor young woman. What happened to her obviously derailed her life and traumatised her. It sounds like she was having a very nice and productive life before that. I'm glad she has left the porn industry behind and is now making a new life for herself. It sounds like she's very intellectually gifted, so I hope she's able to earn lots of money in software engineering instead of porn.

There is a documentary about her and this time in her life, it is heartbreaking to watch.

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 03/11/2024 18:46

Everyone calling the women involved in these stunts derogatory names needs to have a good long think. They are pimped, prostituted women working in the extremely exploitative pornography industry.

They might claim they love it. They might claim OnlyFans puts them in control. Rubbish. It’s extremely damaging for the women involved, and it’s damaging for ALL women, living in a society where this is provided as a service for men who are told women love it.

The men queuing up are utterly horrific. If it was my partner, I’d leave. If it was my son, I’d disown him.

LindorDoubleChoc · 03/11/2024 19:05

Why are we shying away from saying that women mainly have control over their own lives and their own choices in the first world?

Of course there are women who are exploited and coerced, and women tend to resort to prostitution rather than crime to fund drug habits etc - but there's not much to suggest that the woman who is the subject of this thread and set up her Only Fans account (and all the other similar women) have been forced to do it?

As I said earlier, I feel sorry for her and I hope she somehow gets through this phase in her life - but she is definitely selling other women out in her behaviour. We don't exist in a bubble as a pp said so pertinently.

As for the men? Well it's obvious that they are repulsive. It really doesn't need saying by every single respondent on the thread.

Kitte321 · 03/11/2024 19:58

User123456713 · 03/11/2024 08:41

Yet society sees no problem at all with male celebs who sleep with 100s of women, look at Rod Stewart, among many others, fawned over.

No one says he has MH issues or is disgusting, even with 8 kids and 5 different mothers.

This woman may or may not have MH issues, she might also just like sex and the money it brings.

But we always blame the woman.

And this is perfect demonstration of why things are so wrong. Nobody can say it like it is, we have to instead refer to someone else who behaves appallingly in a massive race to the bottom.

This behaviour is disgusting. It’s toxic and hugely damaging to attitudes towards women. There is no liberation here, just sleaze. We need to call it out - strongly and vocally. Both against the woman and the men involved.

I have no problem screaming from the rooftops that shagging 101 random strangers and posting it all over social media is bloody shameful behaviour that reflects incredibly badly. Behaviour she will struggle to ever rid herself of.

TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 20:12

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 14:42

Oh calm down. If you cannot address my argument which is what it was, not necessarily my private thoughts, intelligently, then just don't engage. Your an adult. Not a child who has a melt down when confronted with challenging ideas. Engage with me intelligently or don't bother. Honestly MN sometimes.

I really want to engage with someone on this subject and happy to have my ideas challenged. Get upset elsewhere.

Looks like you’re having a meltdown 😂

Just because you don’t like how I engaged, doesn’t mean I didn’t engage. It’s not an intelligent conversation if you decide that my comment was not valid.

You’ve made some generalisations about me (personal attack) when I’ve asked you to engage in a thought experiment designed to open your narrow mind.

I don’t think you want to really engage in a conversation on this subject, you just want an echo chamber. You go get upset elsewhere.

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 20:20

TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 20:12

Looks like you’re having a meltdown 😂

Just because you don’t like how I engaged, doesn’t mean I didn’t engage. It’s not an intelligent conversation if you decide that my comment was not valid.

You’ve made some generalisations about me (personal attack) when I’ve asked you to engage in a thought experiment designed to open your narrow mind.

I don’t think you want to really engage in a conversation on this subject, you just want an echo chamber. You go get upset elsewhere.

You were the only person telling people to shut up because you don't like their opinions.

Sorry you can't row back from that. 'Personal attack'. Siiiggghhh. And yours was what? Polite enquiry? It's like a triggered instagram teen.

Goodnight.

TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 20:46

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 20:20

You were the only person telling people to shut up because you don't like their opinions.

Sorry you can't row back from that. 'Personal attack'. Siiiggghhh. And yours was what? Polite enquiry? It's like a triggered instagram teen.

Goodnight.

I said “oh shut up” because that old line, of “sex work is empowering”, is borrrrriiiinnnnnnggg. It’s not about liking or not liking.. it’s boring and over used with poor logic.. it’s a misogynists preferred version of feminism.

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 20:46

@DysonSphere

I can think of quite a few examples. The recent Epstein, Weinstein, Russell Brand behaviour has been called out. P.Diddy. Sexual misconduct is being called out. If high profile man was bragging that he’d slept with 101 women in a day : we would not be applauding him, society would not be applauding him.

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