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Sleeping with 101 men in a day

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dorabora · 03/11/2024 07:35

This 23 year old has recently done this, and uploaded the content to only fans. She has received alot of hate on TikTok but the men who took part have barely been mentioned.

apple.news/Aqkq-kLDpTIOog_cxaObeIg

What do you think ?

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Lavenderandbrown · 03/11/2024 13:16

A pretty girl. Seems confident and clever in her speech. So sad she has forever altered the trajectory of her life by seeking employment in the porn industry and then staging and promoting this ridiculous sex stunt. No part of me believes she enjoys sex so much that she enjoyed that day. And her parents…wow for her dad to say he is proud of her. Can’t imagine that. And I think she very intentionally mentioned being the receiver of oral sex by the 100th man. I guess “sloppy seconds” is no longer a saying or belief.

User123456713 · 03/11/2024 13:16

Onley · 03/11/2024 12:57

It’s rage bait. I can’t believe people believe it.

She has done similar but with less men before, i doubt its all made up at all.

Until i went on my first and only holiday to Magaluf, i thought it was all made up too.

@Lavenderandbrown I know most men will shag anything presented on a plate but going down on a woman who has just had unprotected sex with 100 men? she said that most came in her, hence she wasn't sore and she had to shower, half way through...... gross....

MermaidEyes · 03/11/2024 13:28

dorabora · 03/11/2024 12:43

I am intrigued how the 1000 in a day is going to work !!

Very quickly I should imagine. In, out and on to the next one.

charlieinthehaystack · 03/11/2024 13:33

the prostitution and then porn thing has been going on for years but to me Only Fans is a step way too far. I understand its easy to join all young girls see is £ signs not the risks and morals of it all. one photo or video up loaded can be shared again and again so in the end you dont know where that has ended up could be floating round for years. go back to the 70s Linda Lovelace and the problems she detailed in her biography also check Marilyn Chambers etc

MermaidEyes · 03/11/2024 13:37

@charlieinthehaystack I read LL biography, it was quite horrific.
The thing I find most irritating is how these women refer to themselves as OnlyFans Models. You're not models love, you're porn stars. Let's be honest here.

User135644 · 03/11/2024 13:39

Dozycuntlaters · 03/11/2024 07:44

She sounds like an idiot. Telling women if their man has had a hard day then they need to put on underwear! Saying she'll never be cheated on because she's too hot and good in bed. What a prat.

Obviously the men that took part in that ridiculous event aren't great but yeah I think she's a prat and deserves a roasting over it. Shagging 101 men is a day is grim, and yes second the comment that she must be very sore lol.

Men will always have sex with anyone willing.

ShinyShona · 03/11/2024 13:39

CleverShark · 03/11/2024 11:40

She didn't do it in private though did she?

She did it as part of her public online sex business and gave interviews to mainstream media about it.

That's not people sticking their noses into other peoples business, that's her literally publicising her business for money and attention.

If she wants to do that, then that is her choice. She probably doesn't need (or frankly care) what other people think.

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 13:48

On a morning, when we have had three powerful women on the BBC political flagship show-a top political journalist-the Chancellor of the Exchequer and the Leader of the Opposition- we're reading about this shagbag who actually left Sheffield University-threw away a golden chance- to make herself a bucket of warm tripe.

Again I would argue that you rather make the lady in questions case, who has thrown up a paradoxical socio-sexual mirror maze of sorts. If women feel distressed, embarrassed and ashamed at the instrumentalisation of their sexual desires, will it not be because of social attitudes like this?

Attitudes that are informed largely in part by traditional, patriarchal, socioreligious conservative morality, the goal of such paradigms historically being to make women ultimately pleasing and controllable for marriage and 'respectability' (make an honest woman of her etc) also having children. Especially her husband's children. A woman who is sexually unfettered must necessarily therefore make herself undesirable, because she does not belong to any man, (and eschews being a woman worthy of bringing home to ones mother as a pp said) she therefore must pay the price of public shaming and is not fit for marriage, or society, or to again exist within the patriarchal framework of belonging to a man, taking his name etc without shame over her previous sexual expression. This is the undertone.

A woman's vagina is therefore not truly hers as it is fettered by public opinion and religious politics. The male penis isn't, or hasn't traditionally been similarly fettered.

So the message is, a woman cannot have both. A woman who takes her sexual power for herself, cannot still be deemed to have worth, despite her seizing her agency. But who is applying this metric of worth? And is it appropriate to attach a notion of one's worth to how they enjoy sex or how many penises they enjoy? The concept of self-worth should perhaps just be that, self determined. As long as this woman enjoys it and consents and declares not to feel any shame, why is her self-determined concept of worth diminished? Why should it be denigrated? Why is it assumed that she should feel regret and shame in later life?

You mention women in powerful roles traditionally employed by men, but I would argue that a woman using her agency to have sex outside of traditional notions of 'nice girl' womanhood is a massive symbol of women's agency and an important, if uncomfortable one. Women have had powerful positions in history, but women have never been allowed and still aren't allowed, to be sexually aberrative or sexually liberal in the same way men are without the penalty of public shame and censure in 2024. At best in our uncomfortability, we assign a victim status and reduce her agency, even when the woman in question comes from an extremely privileged reality, in which alternative choices are plentiful.

Your language is also objectifying of her, which is also interesting. Whom has now objectified whom? Is she objectified by indulging willingly in a group sex activity, or are we objectifying her by assuming a denigrative and punitive judgement of her and tying the notion of a person's worth to the amount of men they sleep with, as opposed to the amount of power and agency they take and choose to use?

To my surprise, I find myself considering this to be a powerful work of art. In the same way one finds modern art sometimes ugly and deformed but still thought provoking.

I think she achieved her aims.

User135644 · 03/11/2024 14:01

Blairsnitchproject · 03/11/2024 08:08

Jesus Christ those men are absolutely disgusting. That is another thing I have learned. Her behaviour is a sign that something is really wrong with her but the men shows there is something really ill in our culture just 🤮🤮🤮

I don’t know if anyone has ever seen the soft white underbelly on Instagram but loads of the interviewees are prostitutes. Their experiences of trauma go a long way to explain how women end up as sex workers.

There are loads of women who use sex work to cover up what trauma has done to them. Almost all have had their personality development damaged by traumatic experiences growing up and they are using sex work to cope with that or alternatively to fund addiction or other basic needs.

No well adjusted person ever has chosen sex work as a profession.

Never underestimate how desperate men are for sex.

TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 14:21

cinammonfishsticks · 03/11/2024 08:11

It is obviously fake. Like a uni lecturer would openly queue up for this 😂 she's got herself in the media and many of the 'men' she takes pictures with are actually adult stars too. She's drumming up attention for her only fans and porn career. Also her 'mum' isn't actually her mum

I hope you’re right

TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 14:27

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 13:48

On a morning, when we have had three powerful women on the BBC political flagship show-a top political journalist-the Chancellor of the Exchequer and the Leader of the Opposition- we're reading about this shagbag who actually left Sheffield University-threw away a golden chance- to make herself a bucket of warm tripe.

Again I would argue that you rather make the lady in questions case, who has thrown up a paradoxical socio-sexual mirror maze of sorts. If women feel distressed, embarrassed and ashamed at the instrumentalisation of their sexual desires, will it not be because of social attitudes like this?

Attitudes that are informed largely in part by traditional, patriarchal, socioreligious conservative morality, the goal of such paradigms historically being to make women ultimately pleasing and controllable for marriage and 'respectability' (make an honest woman of her etc) also having children. Especially her husband's children. A woman who is sexually unfettered must necessarily therefore make herself undesirable, because she does not belong to any man, (and eschews being a woman worthy of bringing home to ones mother as a pp said) she therefore must pay the price of public shaming and is not fit for marriage, or society, or to again exist within the patriarchal framework of belonging to a man, taking his name etc without shame over her previous sexual expression. This is the undertone.

A woman's vagina is therefore not truly hers as it is fettered by public opinion and religious politics. The male penis isn't, or hasn't traditionally been similarly fettered.

So the message is, a woman cannot have both. A woman who takes her sexual power for herself, cannot still be deemed to have worth, despite her seizing her agency. But who is applying this metric of worth? And is it appropriate to attach a notion of one's worth to how they enjoy sex or how many penises they enjoy? The concept of self-worth should perhaps just be that, self determined. As long as this woman enjoys it and consents and declares not to feel any shame, why is her self-determined concept of worth diminished? Why should it be denigrated? Why is it assumed that she should feel regret and shame in later life?

You mention women in powerful roles traditionally employed by men, but I would argue that a woman using her agency to have sex outside of traditional notions of 'nice girl' womanhood is a massive symbol of women's agency and an important, if uncomfortable one. Women have had powerful positions in history, but women have never been allowed and still aren't allowed, to be sexually aberrative or sexually liberal in the same way men are without the penalty of public shame and censure in 2024. At best in our uncomfortability, we assign a victim status and reduce her agency, even when the woman in question comes from an extremely privileged reality, in which alternative choices are plentiful.

Your language is also objectifying of her, which is also interesting. Whom has now objectified whom? Is she objectified by indulging willingly in a group sex activity, or are we objectifying her by assuming a denigrative and punitive judgement of her and tying the notion of a person's worth to the amount of men they sleep with, as opposed to the amount of power and agency they take and choose to use?

To my surprise, I find myself considering this to be a powerful work of art. In the same way one finds modern art sometimes ugly and deformed but still thought provoking.

I think she achieved her aims.

Oh shut up. Nothing empowering or feminist about monetising your body by titillating perverted men.

Would you say the same about a 15 year old child, participating in child abuse “pornography” to herself, who writes a lovely essay about how she’s empowered??

This woman needs help, which is what any well adjusted person would say about that child too.

People like you are one of the biggest threats to the safety of vulnerable people abused in the sex “work” industry.

NoisyDenimShaker · 03/11/2024 14:29

Cathod · 03/11/2024 12:56

My thoughts exactly.

Don't blame the women - blame the men who create the demand.

NoisyDenimShaker · 03/11/2024 14:35

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 03/11/2024 12:49

Pity she didn't Google Annabel Chong before hand

I've never heard of her, so I just Googled...that poor young woman. What happened to her obviously derailed her life and traumatised her. It sounds like she was having a very nice and productive life before that. I'm glad she has left the porn industry behind and is now making a new life for herself. It sounds like she's very intellectually gifted, so I hope she's able to earn lots of money in software engineering instead of porn.

you4me · 03/11/2024 14:36

The reason why promiscuity is frowned upon in women has its roots in paternity. Men wanted to be sure in their minds that the children they were raising were their own . Before the pill . That's why promiscuity in women is still frowned upon . It's unfair , but true .

you4me · 03/11/2024 14:41

ImDuranDuran · 03/11/2024 08:07

Not the issue here I know, and I'm probably a total prude but the thought of sex in a room full with, I'm guessing, at least 4 other people and a queue outside the door is my idea of hell Grin How do these men do it?? How can they even get an erection in these circumstances? It's so grim.

Virgins or very sexually inexperienced, maybe can't get a girlfriend.

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 14:42

TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 14:27

Oh shut up. Nothing empowering or feminist about monetising your body by titillating perverted men.

Would you say the same about a 15 year old child, participating in child abuse “pornography” to herself, who writes a lovely essay about how she’s empowered??

This woman needs help, which is what any well adjusted person would say about that child too.

People like you are one of the biggest threats to the safety of vulnerable people abused in the sex “work” industry.

Edited

Oh calm down. If you cannot address my argument which is what it was, not necessarily my private thoughts, intelligently, then just don't engage. Your an adult. Not a child who has a melt down when confronted with challenging ideas. Engage with me intelligently or don't bother. Honestly MN sometimes.

I really want to engage with someone on this subject and happy to have my ideas challenged. Get upset elsewhere.

AyrshireTryer · 03/11/2024 14:44

We shall have fog by tea-time.

Laptoppie · 03/11/2024 14:45

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 13:48

On a morning, when we have had three powerful women on the BBC political flagship show-a top political journalist-the Chancellor of the Exchequer and the Leader of the Opposition- we're reading about this shagbag who actually left Sheffield University-threw away a golden chance- to make herself a bucket of warm tripe.

Again I would argue that you rather make the lady in questions case, who has thrown up a paradoxical socio-sexual mirror maze of sorts. If women feel distressed, embarrassed and ashamed at the instrumentalisation of their sexual desires, will it not be because of social attitudes like this?

Attitudes that are informed largely in part by traditional, patriarchal, socioreligious conservative morality, the goal of such paradigms historically being to make women ultimately pleasing and controllable for marriage and 'respectability' (make an honest woman of her etc) also having children. Especially her husband's children. A woman who is sexually unfettered must necessarily therefore make herself undesirable, because she does not belong to any man, (and eschews being a woman worthy of bringing home to ones mother as a pp said) she therefore must pay the price of public shaming and is not fit for marriage, or society, or to again exist within the patriarchal framework of belonging to a man, taking his name etc without shame over her previous sexual expression. This is the undertone.

A woman's vagina is therefore not truly hers as it is fettered by public opinion and religious politics. The male penis isn't, or hasn't traditionally been similarly fettered.

So the message is, a woman cannot have both. A woman who takes her sexual power for herself, cannot still be deemed to have worth, despite her seizing her agency. But who is applying this metric of worth? And is it appropriate to attach a notion of one's worth to how they enjoy sex or how many penises they enjoy? The concept of self-worth should perhaps just be that, self determined. As long as this woman enjoys it and consents and declares not to feel any shame, why is her self-determined concept of worth diminished? Why should it be denigrated? Why is it assumed that she should feel regret and shame in later life?

You mention women in powerful roles traditionally employed by men, but I would argue that a woman using her agency to have sex outside of traditional notions of 'nice girl' womanhood is a massive symbol of women's agency and an important, if uncomfortable one. Women have had powerful positions in history, but women have never been allowed and still aren't allowed, to be sexually aberrative or sexually liberal in the same way men are without the penalty of public shame and censure in 2024. At best in our uncomfortability, we assign a victim status and reduce her agency, even when the woman in question comes from an extremely privileged reality, in which alternative choices are plentiful.

Your language is also objectifying of her, which is also interesting. Whom has now objectified whom? Is she objectified by indulging willingly in a group sex activity, or are we objectifying her by assuming a denigrative and punitive judgement of her and tying the notion of a person's worth to the amount of men they sleep with, as opposed to the amount of power and agency they take and choose to use?

To my surprise, I find myself considering this to be a powerful work of art. In the same way one finds modern art sometimes ugly and deformed but still thought provoking.

I think she achieved her aims.

She wanted to make money and gain some Internet clout (which also helps her make even more money).

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 14:54

Laptoppie · 03/11/2024 14:45

She wanted to make money and gain some Internet clout (which also helps her make even more money).

Her words:

For those who say Lily is doing it purely for the money, the OnlyFans star says: ‘People can think what they want, that’s totally fine. I earned a stable income from OnlyFans before – I didn’t need to sleep with 101 random men, I did that out of enjoyment.’

I have no idea how much she makes from OF

roaringmouse · 03/11/2024 14:56

@TheMamaLife

First, telling another person to shut up, because you disagree, is just juvenile.

Second, why are the men perverted? Many men, and women, enjoy sex. You are entitled to make a moral judgement about whether you find the men in this particular situation perverted, but that's all that it is.

Third, why are you interpolating a hypothetical into what @DysonSphere has written, which is considered and interesting, to suggest she would in some way compare this to child abuse, and somehow condone it? Hysterical and illogical response.

Disturbia81 · 03/11/2024 15:01

@roaringmouse Yes I can tell you think it's okay... it isn't.
We are humans, not animals. There are so many animalistic behaviours we are above. If we were all ruled by them society would go to chaos.
Stuff like this reveals the dregs of society.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 03/11/2024 15:10

@dorabora So she gave them 14 minutes and 25 seconds each?? utter rubbish! dont believe a word of this!

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 15:18

@DysonSphere

I disagree because - no, I don’t think (in reverse) - a man who sleeps with 101 women in a day is admired or respected by society today. Perhaps 10 years ago, Russell Brand was considered a stud, but in 2024 that behaviour would be considered harmful.

I don’t think it’s a case of empowerment at all.

STD’s are harmful. Emotions around relationships can cause great emotional distress.

The vast majority of families would not want their loved ones (male or female) to behave in this way because of potential harm caused.

User135644 · 03/11/2024 15:24

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 15:18

@DysonSphere

I disagree because - no, I don’t think (in reverse) - a man who sleeps with 101 women in a day is admired or respected by society today. Perhaps 10 years ago, Russell Brand was considered a stud, but in 2024 that behaviour would be considered harmful.

I don’t think it’s a case of empowerment at all.

STD’s are harmful. Emotions around relationships can cause great emotional distress.

The vast majority of families would not want their loved ones (male or female) to behave in this way because of potential harm caused.

It's only the men at the top who can attract a lot of women who'd want them. Any halfway attractive woman could get hundreds or thousands of matches on OLD from men wanting to sleep with them. Only the top few men would.

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 15:26

I also think surgical enhancement, string bikinis, large amounts of make up etc etc are playing to a male ideal. Men generally (although there are exceptions) are not posing in uncomfortable clothing, or putting themselves through surgical procedures, spending a fortune on make up etc : so how is it ‘empowering” to do all these things - and who are women - truly doing it for?? For the 1000’s of men following on Instagram or for their own personal empowerment?