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Sleeping with 101 men in a day

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dorabora · 03/11/2024 07:35

This 23 year old has recently done this, and uploaded the content to only fans. She has received alot of hate on TikTok but the men who took part have barely been mentioned.

apple.news/Aqkq-kLDpTIOog_cxaObeIg

What do you think ?

OP posts:
TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 20:57

DysonSphere · 03/11/2024 20:20

You were the only person telling people to shut up because you don't like their opinions.

Sorry you can't row back from that. 'Personal attack'. Siiiggghhh. And yours was what? Polite enquiry? It's like a triggered instagram teen.

Goodnight.

One of her “gentlemen visitors”, having arrived with his family, said her wanted to “destroy her”… You think this is the pinnacle of empowerment that a woman should aspire to? A pervert coming along to take what he wants before insulting and demeaning her?

You still haven’t engaged in my thought experiment at all about the 15 year old. Sorry, MN is not your echo chamber.

CalicoPusscat · 03/11/2024 21:02

Destroy her?? 😮

TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 21:15

roaringmouse · 03/11/2024 14:56

@TheMamaLife

First, telling another person to shut up, because you disagree, is just juvenile.

Second, why are the men perverted? Many men, and women, enjoy sex. You are entitled to make a moral judgement about whether you find the men in this particular situation perverted, but that's all that it is.

Third, why are you interpolating a hypothetical into what @DysonSphere has written, which is considered and interesting, to suggest she would in some way compare this to child abuse, and somehow condone it? Hysterical and illogical response.

Edited

Why am I bringing up a hypothetical? Because, as many others have said, this woman appears to have MH problems at worst or is not well adjust at best. Which is the same for the 15 year old in the hypothetical. You don’t all of a sudden become immune to trauma when you’re 18 and officially an adult.

What @DysonSphere said isn’t all that thought provoking and interesting.. it’s a lame and lazy analysis of society and sets the feminist cause back. How have we gone from demanding respect to titillating perverts and calling that empowering??

TheMamaLife · 03/11/2024 21:16

CalicoPusscat · 03/11/2024 21:02

Destroy her?? 😮

Yeah, sooo empowering … NOT…. 🙄

MaidOfAle · 04/11/2024 00:13

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 17:17

I think we’ve probably had thousands of years of ingrained gender/sexual stereotypes to overcome : before pill/reliable contraception in the 60’s. Perhaps men were controlling women’s behaviour to ensure their genes are the genes of their offspring.
Historically, women never had this doubt. They know when they gave birth it was their child.

Perhaps men were controlling women’s behaviour to ensure their genes are the genes of their offspring.

There's no "perhaps", it's a certainty.

charlieinthehaystack · 04/11/2024 09:48

A while back I read an interview with one of these so called stars of the porn films. she said sometimes after filming the girl has to be taken to casualty; girls who do the anal oral and vaginal sex often have injuries tears and objects stuck inside them. often after the filming they need a few days in bed unable to walk due to the rough treatment of them. STDs and tears equivalent to birth injuries plus bowel damage are quite normal

AutumnLeaves1990 · 04/11/2024 09:58

Grim 😒Her AND the so called men 🤢🙄

MermaidEyes · 04/11/2024 10:05

I very much doubt she "enjoyed" the experience. Maybe she felt some kind of empowerment/ego boost at all these men being so attracted to her cough that they had to "have" her. But there's no way she enjoyed lying there for 14 hours straight while men came in and out, shoved it in, jizzed everywhere (including in her eyes) and left. She said the next day she was sore and aching all over. And I bet you any money she did not orgasm.
Watch any interview with a porn star and they will tell you how much they enjoy it, love sex, love the men. Watch any interview after they leave the industry, and it's a very different story. There's a reason suicide is so high among ex porn actresses.

dorabora · 04/11/2024 10:42

charlieinthehaystack · 04/11/2024 09:48

A while back I read an interview with one of these so called stars of the porn films. she said sometimes after filming the girl has to be taken to casualty; girls who do the anal oral and vaginal sex often have injuries tears and objects stuck inside them. often after the filming they need a few days in bed unable to walk due to the rough treatment of them. STDs and tears equivalent to birth injuries plus bowel damage are quite normal

Jesus, why the fuck would anyone sign up for that ?? This hardcore porn is revolting, surely no woman enjoys that ?!

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MermaidEyes · 04/11/2024 10:56

Jesus, why the fuck would anyone sign up for that ?? This hardcore porn is revolting, surely no woman enjoys that ?!

This exactly. How can they?!
That's why I have mixed feelings about adult film stars. As someone upthread said, you have to feel sorry for anyone who somehow chooses this industry to work in, they must have some serious issues. But also they're a big part of the problem of feeding into this agenda that all women love rough sex and being treated like a piece of meat purely for male enjoyment and entertainment.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/11/2024 10:58

Anyone who does that, male or female, is clearly in need of help with their mental health.

hanali · 04/11/2024 11:16

Wow. Society is going downhill fast on so many spectrums 😞

Lovelysummerdays · 04/11/2024 11:18

MermaidEyes · 04/11/2024 10:56

Jesus, why the fuck would anyone sign up for that ?? This hardcore porn is revolting, surely no woman enjoys that ?!

This exactly. How can they?!
That's why I have mixed feelings about adult film stars. As someone upthread said, you have to feel sorry for anyone who somehow chooses this industry to work in, they must have some serious issues. But also they're a big part of the problem of feeding into this agenda that all women love rough sex and being treated like a piece of meat purely for male enjoyment and entertainment.

The nature of porn has changed so much . Porn used to be two people having sex, a plumber or a delivery guy would turn up and then they’d have sex ( often in German ). Now there’s 6 guys waiting in a warehouse and a woman turns up and they throw her around and have really aggressive sex. I’m sure I read about a teenager in Australia who’d suffered life changing injuries (needed a colostomy bag) after copying out porn where there was double anal.

OrangeGreens · 04/11/2024 11:22

I 100% do not believe she physically enjoyed it. In the sense of getting sexual pleasure from it. She just didn’t. It literally is not possible. She may have enjoyed it on some other level, perhaps.

I don’t understand the hate for her. I know she has made a lot of money off things like this, but no emotionally well woman would do what she did for any amount of money (unless they were absolutely desperate and in the gutter, which she is not). I feel deeply sorry for her.

The contempt we see directed towards women like her is the contempt with which “fallen women” have always been treated. The standard for what constitutes a fallen woman has changed, though.

User19876536484 · 04/11/2024 11:24

I doubt she got much sleep.

OrangeGreens · 04/11/2024 11:24

MermaidEyes · 04/11/2024 10:05

I very much doubt she "enjoyed" the experience. Maybe she felt some kind of empowerment/ego boost at all these men being so attracted to her cough that they had to "have" her. But there's no way she enjoyed lying there for 14 hours straight while men came in and out, shoved it in, jizzed everywhere (including in her eyes) and left. She said the next day she was sore and aching all over. And I bet you any money she did not orgasm.
Watch any interview with a porn star and they will tell you how much they enjoy it, love sex, love the men. Watch any interview after they leave the industry, and it's a very different story. There's a reason suicide is so high among ex porn actresses.

This

Sarah2891 · 04/11/2024 11:26

Revolting and disturbing. She must be a very damaged person to want to do that. And the men that line up for it? Gross.

OliviaRodrighost · 04/11/2024 11:29

The “pornography” industry should be renamed the rape industry. It’s totally fucked up and always has been but it’s just worse now.

If anyone is interested in the history of it, I really recommend the drama The Deuce starring Maggie Gyllenhaal. Utterly harrowing but a brilliant series. It’s set in 1970s/80s New York.

DysonSphere · 04/11/2024 12:07

Trobealone · 03/11/2024 20:46

@DysonSphere

I can think of quite a few examples. The recent Epstein, Weinstein, Russell Brand behaviour has been called out. P.Diddy. Sexual misconduct is being called out. If high profile man was bragging that he’d slept with 101 women in a day : we would not be applauding him, society would not be applauding him.

But in these cases they have been called out primarily because they have been involved in sexual assault, sex trafficking, rape accusations or using their status as success gatekeepers to blackmail women into sleeping with them aka coercive rape and sleeping with underage girls. Society frowns on that aspect whilst affirming their sexual exploits all the way till that point. These men are not called sluts, hoes or have derogatory language aimed at them regarding their private parts.

So they have not primarily been called out because they enjoy a lot of responsibility-free sex with a lot of women or for objectifying a lot of women. It is assumed by society that a successful man can/will have a lot of sex. How casually do people speak about 'groupies' hanging around after concerts and in hotels willing to give sex to popstars, footballers? It assumed they will take it. No public shame accompanies this idea.

An smaller example of this might be Nick Cannon. This man can go on radio shows talking openly about his very intentional behaviour creating multiple single parent families with different women. The women are fine with the arrangement. I don't know how many children he has now and I think it's at least 5 or 6 different women? I do see criticism of him, but the very fact that he can talk openly about it, women have signed up to it, and many people joke about it, all whilst he still maintains a successful career, shows there is a two tier set of moral codes being applied to men who express their sexuality in a way that is deemed anti-social vs women. I can't think of any female celebrity who would be given such a similarly easy ride for similar behaviour (it's of course difficult for a single to recreate the same scenario as NC and he's a flawed example)

Women cannot express themselves in a way that is sexually aberrative without suffering shame. The outcomes are different as a PP @User135644 said, perhaps because society perceives women as sexual gatekeepers and places the responsibility on them for 'allowing' men to sleep with them and if she sleeps with a lot of men, she is giving sex easily and making herself 'easy.' The successful men you highlighted have/had 'earned' sex by earning status, and it is not until the sense of entitlement that often comes alongside that attitude results in a woman/women being hurt that it finally receives widespread or consensus disapproval.

DysonSphere · 04/11/2024 12:19

@TheMamaLife You still haven’t engaged in my thought experiment at all about the 15 year old. Sorry, MN is not your echo chamber.

You told me to shut up, whilst asking me to engage. Which one is it? It's a bit confusing and I only want to please😂

I'm in a minority on this thread and I'm only playing with ideas and refining my own in the process. I daresay the vast majority agree with you, so I have no idea where you're hearing echos from.

Lets not pretend if I had told you to shut up you'd be engaging with my questions. You wouldn't. And quite rightly so.

Onley · 04/11/2024 12:35

Please can someone explain how we know this whole thing isn’t one massive wind up?

Riapia · 04/11/2024 13:23

Give her some credit. No man could have sex with 101 women in a day.
😉😁😁.

Anonymousess · 04/11/2024 13:40

Onley · 04/11/2024 12:35

Please can someone explain how we know this whole thing isn’t one massive wind up?

Because she filmed it and posted footage online

User19876536484 · 04/11/2024 13:50

Riapia · 04/11/2024 13:23

Give her some credit. No man could have sex with 101 women in a day.
😉😁😁.

He probably could if he didn’t orgasm. Did she?

Trobealone · 04/11/2024 14:59

@DysonSphere

i agree that they have been called out as their behaviour was unlawful, but I don’t think - otherwise their exploits would have been affirmed. Perhaps 10 years ago, but not in 2024.

I do think there has been a significant shift in the last decade as a result of #metoo. The Irish rugby players who were not convicted of rape, but had their WhatsApp messages exposed. They lost their jobs, and were heavily, heavily criticised.

I fully agree that misogynistic terms to describe the woman’s behaviour are wrong.
I fully disagree that her choices are empowering to women.

Because I believe the motive is to attract male followers and to present herself in a way that pleases men.

Compare to say : Samantha from Sex in the City : who had a high sex drive, but I don’t think you’d see that character on male orientated social media, making money from men, wearing very little to please men, and then videoing herself performing sex acts for those men.

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