Stalker sending my money via bank, any way to block payments?

[Lucybee0x]

Hi,

So I have a family member (my father) I am completely estranged from. He’s extremely toxic, abusive, just generally an awful person. He’s tried to stalk me numerous times and tried to find out my address, has tried to find out my partners personal details to find this. Has tried to make harassment social service calls to say I’m “mentally ill” (purely to try and find my address). He’s very vindictive and upset I don’t want a relationship.

He’s a domestic absuser, abused my mum then various ex’s after her, but of course puts on a fake nice act to the outside world so everyone thinks he’s a great guy.

Anyway I have him blocked on everything, he still wants a relationship with me (purely for power and control) and has started to send me random deposits of money. (£100, £50)

It makes me physically sick this abusive person has found a way to access me when I’ve blocked me on everything (email, phone, WhatsApp etc etc). And in a way where he can manipulate people to seem like a “good person” and I know he’s going around telling his family he’s such a good person, sending me money etc

He must have gotten my bank details from my Grandma (his mum), because I gave them to her years ago and she acts as a flying monkey for him.

I just want to find a way to reject these payments, is that even possible? I tried messaging my bank but didn’t get very far.

Oh do fuck off you patronising twat.

@TaljIsCheap TLDR: mansplaining something something bank account

It’s easy to change bank accounts these days. I know it’s a hassle but it’s the best way all round , as you don’t know if he is going to start signing you up to things with your bank details now he has them. I’d be worried keeping the same account.

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OP I would seriously consider reporting this officially to the police. There is an risk of escalation - he clearly hasn't given up trying to contact you and is getting increasingly creative in trying.

Either open a new account (it’s quite easy and stress free nowadays and the new bank does all the work).

or give the money to a charity that you know will piss him off. I’d guess that women’s aid might really get his goat.

Sorry if that sounds flip op. It sounds horrendous.

The thing is that you can't block a bank account because he could just put cash into your bank that way. Closing the account is unfortunately the only way to do it.

my ex use to send me money for the kids which i didn’t want, i called the bank and they said they could not stop the payments, i didn’t want to close my account so i just sent it back every time. it soon put a stop to it.

If you decide to change, move to First Direct. They are really helpful and you can get through and speak to a person easily.

This.

If you switch banks these can be changed automatically.