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Kemi badenoch now against autistic children

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Hunnymonster1 · 14/10/2024 13:30

What is wrong with her? Just read that the children commision is saying average wait like to get diagnosed as autistic is 4 years.
So kemi banging on about how parents are pushing gor diagnosis because they see how much extra money etc autistic children get at school is wrong.
The fact is I woukd think judging by lbc many kids are not getting the support that they need.
So js this about her saying the conservatives need to save tax by not helping people or children with autism and mental health issues.
Bare in mind she said similar about maternity pay last week makes me think she's like Liz truss wants to cut alot of stuff
How the hell can anyone support this?
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/kemi-badenoch-autism-tory-leadership-buckland-b2628845.html

Kemi Badenoch faces backlash for ‘stigmatising’ autism

Tory leadership hopeful faces another row after endorsing report that suggested people with the condition get ‘economic advantages and protections’

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/kemi-badenoch-autism-tory-leadership-buckland-b2628845.html

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 14/10/2024 19:46

Bluefields96 · 14/10/2024 14:00

She is talking to the Tory Party - MPs and the wider membership in the country. She is not addressing the general public.

Among her target audience there will be many who think that diagnoses of autism ( and other special needs anxiety, ADHD etc) have become too common and that some parents and schools are keen to label children because it
a. gets them more money/time in exams
b. excuses inadequate parenting.

I imagine that message will go down well with many in the party.

This. People with autistic children aren't voting Tory.

Notonthestairs · 14/10/2024 19:57

CowboyJoanna · 14/10/2024 19:44

I do see where she's coming from.
Does feel like nowadays, some parents (not all, and for you real SN parents Im not talking about you before you lose your hair) do push for a diagnosis for their child to have autism/adhd/whatever to deflect responsibility for being a soft parent when theyve raised their children to be little shits. Or trying to diagnose their children with autism because theyre shy or an introvert or dont like loud noises.

And its very harmful to the parents with children that DO actually have special needs and it delays help for them.

You don't get transport for school - or a place at an SN school - on the basis of the parents deciding their kids has ASD.

Notonthestairs · 14/10/2024 19:57

"This. People with autistic children aren't voting Tory."

That doesn't mean this nonsense shouldn't be challenged.

TigerRag · 14/10/2024 20:01

CowboyJoanna · 14/10/2024 19:44

I do see where she's coming from.
Does feel like nowadays, some parents (not all, and for you real SN parents Im not talking about you before you lose your hair) do push for a diagnosis for their child to have autism/adhd/whatever to deflect responsibility for being a soft parent when theyve raised their children to be little shits. Or trying to diagnose their children with autism because theyre shy or an introvert or dont like loud noises.

And its very harmful to the parents with children that DO actually have special needs and it delays help for them.

Er, you don't get a diagnosis of Autism because you're shy or don't like loud noise.

I don't like loud noise. It has nothing to do with my Autism and is a separate diagnosis.

CowboyJoanna · 14/10/2024 20:01

Notonthestairs · 14/10/2024 19:57

You don't get transport for school - or a place at an SN school - on the basis of the parents deciding their kids has ASD.

See the bit in bold

Notonthestairs · 14/10/2024 20:02

Oh I'm sorry, I thought you'd read the pamphlet.

Tomorrowisyesterday · 14/10/2024 20:03

CowboyJoanna · 14/10/2024 19:44

I do see where she's coming from.
Does feel like nowadays, some parents (not all, and for you real SN parents Im not talking about you before you lose your hair) do push for a diagnosis for their child to have autism/adhd/whatever to deflect responsibility for being a soft parent when theyve raised their children to be little shits. Or trying to diagnose their children with autism because theyre shy or an introvert or dont like loud noises.

And its very harmful to the parents with children that DO actually have special needs and it delays help for them.

Do you have the magic powers to know which parents are which?

pointythings · 14/10/2024 20:10

Do you have the magic powers to know which parents are which?

No, but worry not - Saint Kemi does and she will lead this country to Tory Glory.

Notonthestairs · 14/10/2024 20:14

If you'd read the pamphlet you'd know that they are attacking transport to schools. Transport that isn't given out because someone's mum says her kid is a little bit spectrumy.

It also suggests autistic kids get an economic benefit - better equipment! - on the basis of their diagnosis.

It ignores the fact that school offer adaptations based on need and that generally involves multiple professionals.

It's a manifesto to withdraw support for disabled kids (amongst others).

SquirrelSoShiny · 14/10/2024 22:21

pointythings · 14/10/2024 19:41

That's very rose tinted of you. Sure, some people showed extreme resilience ( = having to work 10 times as hard to achieve the same thing as someone NT) and made lives for themselves. But what about the ones who couldn't, but who if they had had support from an early age could have achieved the same? What about the ones who would have succeeded without the struggle and the burnout if only they'd had support? Just because you were 'extremely resilient' and 'made a life for yourself', without support that does not mean that those who needed that support shouldn't get it. Again, levelling the playing field, equity for everyone. Kemi is basically saying that she does not want equality of opportunity.

And how is having some adaptations at work 'getting a free pass at life'?

Your position is basically 'well I did it, so everyone else should be able to do it too'. Life isn't like that.

I don't really agree with your interpretation but that's okay.

I think like every pendulum ever it swings too far from one extreme to the other and takes time to settle in the middle. It's gone from zero support to a generation believing they are exempt from trying to make a life for themselves and expecting society to be one long accommodation. It will settle in the middle. Anything else is unsustainable and plays into the hands of those who want to defund decent education and social care.

noblegiraffe · 14/10/2024 22:24

It's gone from zero support to a generation believing they are exempt from trying to make a life for themselves and expecting society to be one long accommodation

Good grief. The struggle that kids with SEN and their parents often have with school to get any accommodations. This is pretty offensive.

Notonthestairs · 14/10/2024 22:29

This pamphlet is nothing more than an attempt to remove what little support disabled kids currently receive.

Nobody is offered transport or equipment without establishing a need. Councils aren't throwing money at disabled children - quite the reverse.

So this encourages cost cutting at the expense of the long term future of the disabled.

Their proposals would limit educational access.

So it's financially illiterate too.

Reugny · 15/10/2024 05:49

noblegiraffe · 14/10/2024 22:24

It's gone from zero support to a generation believing they are exempt from trying to make a life for themselves and expecting society to be one long accommodation

Good grief. The struggle that kids with SEN and their parents often have with school to get any accommodations. This is pretty offensive.

Least it keeps the prisons overflowing.

Tories like her aren't the sharpest and don't realise there are other long terms detrimental effects including to her own well-being.

DuncinToffee · 15/10/2024 08:29

Children's Commissioner

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cy435yk4vj4o

Dame Rachel de Souza's report into the issue said the system has failed to keep up with rising demand, leaving families "in the lurch" and expected to cope by themselves while they wait.

Parents are having to "jump through multiple hoops" to get support, while their children can end up in crisis and robbed of their potential, she said.

The report calls for urgent change to a needs-led, not a diagnosis-led, system of support - something the government insists it is tackling head-on.

A boy holds up a colourful, heart-shaped puzzle in front of his face

Families 'left in lurch' on child autism diagnoses, report warns

Support services are failing to meet high demand, says the Children's Commissioner for England.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cy435yk4vj4o

Notonthestairs · 15/10/2024 08:34

"The report calls for urgent change to a needs-led, not a diagnosis-led, system of support - something the government insists it is tackling head-on."

that is how the system is supposed to work - eg the school evidence the educational need and where appropriate are given additional funds or access to key support.
What happened in our experience is that children are effectively competing for that small amount of support.
In our case there was a two year wait for an appropriate school. The primary school did their best to meet need but it did feel like lost years.

Who knew it was all to my child's economic advantage!

frozendaisy · 15/10/2024 09:06

Right now the Torys don't even have the MP numbers for an effective opposition.

So does it really matter what any of them think?

It's more important what Labour do and I think Labour are more likely to attempt to fix the education system to try and provide a decent one for all than other parties, but it will rake time, SEN assessments and support are all staff heavy you can't magic trained people out if thin air.

Coruscations · 15/10/2024 09:18

ContactNightmare · 14/10/2024 17:47

She is not a cognitive giant.

She is more like Liz Truss than people give her credit for. There is no vast cunning intellect behind these reductive statements. She is as simple as she appears.

That is the source of her appeal. There is no crack mind behind what she says

Lemme guess, it was one of the trans obsessives who described her that way.

The reality is that she was generally regarded as one of the least competent ministers of the last government, and let's face it, she had quite a few competitors for that title.

ContactNightmare · 15/10/2024 09:18

You have to admire Badenoch; it takes a lot to work up a culture war angle on special needs children, who usually receive nominal sympathy if not actual help. Really unpleasant

Coruscations · 15/10/2024 09:22

Bignanna · 14/10/2024 19:02

That could apply to any party!

No, it really couldn't.

Coruscations · 15/10/2024 09:29

CowboyJoanna · 14/10/2024 19:44

I do see where she's coming from.
Does feel like nowadays, some parents (not all, and for you real SN parents Im not talking about you before you lose your hair) do push for a diagnosis for their child to have autism/adhd/whatever to deflect responsibility for being a soft parent when theyve raised their children to be little shits. Or trying to diagnose their children with autism because theyre shy or an introvert or dont like loud noises.

And its very harmful to the parents with children that DO actually have special needs and it delays help for them.

I think this is a bit of a myth, to be honest. It's not at all easy to get an autism diagnosis and waiting lists currently are in the region of four years. I suspect you are conflating this perception with the simple fact that we have more awareness of the signs of autism nowadays, and also more awareness of the fact that children with autism tend to mask, resulting in more diagnoses of genuinely autistic people.

Coruscations · 15/10/2024 09:37

I'm struggling to think what extra equipment she thinks autistic children get that's such a privilege for them. I've come up with sensory equipment for those with sensory needs, but unless they are so severely affected as to be in specialist schoosl that tends not to amount to much more than fidget toys, theraputty and wobble cushions. To get anything more complex like specialist hanging equipment, communication aids or access to separate spaces when overwhelmed in class they would have to have quite severe co-morbid conditions. That sort of stuff is not there as a treat, it's just basic stuff to help them cope and access education.

I'm sure children with ASD would happily give up their fidget toys in return for not having sensory problems.

Perzival · 15/10/2024 09:48

My ds in mainstream had a laptop with specific software, an iPad with aac software, dark den, special chair and various other equipment. Also ta trained in various things and budgets for inde ot and salt. Co morbids: sensory needs and hypermobility. He has severe autism, not diagnosed with learning disability and has been assessed by a very recognised and respected inde Ed psych/ children's Psychologist. Equipment and budgets given without tribunal and detailed I section f (have started appeal subsequently for high school placement which was won without getting to tribunal). He also had standard fidgets etc.

noblegiraffe · 15/10/2024 09:51

It sounds like he has an EHCP though, which is rare.

Perzival · 15/10/2024 10:00

I don't think ehcp's are that rare now. The threshold is pretty low for assessment. If a child has a dx there is a strong argument that what was significant enough to get a dx should meet the legal threshold for assessment.

If a child is on a waiting list there is the argument that how can sen be fully assessed when a significant assessment is outstanding therefore needs assessment is required.

Both require parents who are able and have energy to persue. if a child has significant needs parents are usually too tired and there is the possibility they too may have their own needs.

Difficulties arise where the child/ yp is impacted enough to warrant a needs assessment and should be having needs met at school through universal provision. I think it's these kids and the adults they grow into which is fueling the discussion. Able to access with some/ minimal accomodations and not always visible or obviously disabled. Throw in those who advocate that they aren't disabled and autism isn't a disability and you generate bad feeling.

Perzival · 15/10/2024 10:01

Should read not impacted enough to warrant a needs assessment.