Ever met someone you later learned had done something really bad? **Content warning: thread contains mentions of child abuse**

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Just asking because a few months ago someone I worked with suddenly stopped coming to work... then we found out he had been found guilty of possessing child porn 😬
He hadn't been working with us for long so didn't know him that well but he just seemed like a nice, slightly boring middle aged man! I know you can't ever tell by looking at someone but it just made me think anyone I know could be doing anything behind closed doors.....

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Porn. It’s not child porn. It’s child abuse that’s been filmed. Porn suggests some kind of consent which a child cannot give .

My childhood best friend’s father AND brother were convicted of having child abuse photos. I had a lot of sleepovers there and never suspected a thing, even now looking back. I was abused as a child so you’d think I would have recognised it.

Yes, a man his son was in a sport my son was, we chatted away 4 times a week for years, he seemed really nice (& very attractive) then I seen him in the papers after being sentenced for strangling/assaulting/abusing previous partners

A lad that was at school with my daughter is serving life for stabbing another young man to death in a row over drugs. 22 years old - what a waste of two young lives 😔

This is terrifying how you found them so normal yet their behaviour is monstrous

Maxine Carr is not a monster. She was an uneducated abused woman who provided an alibi for her boyfriend. She had nothing to do with the murders and only served a few years

An ex-boyfriend of mine, his brother, was sent to prison for 1000's of child abuse images.
No one had a clue, let alone his fiancé.
Most of his immediate family moved halfway across the world due to it

My late relative had a close companion in her later years who turned out to be the main suspect in the Carl Bridgewater murder case and had murdered his close friend. He now lives in a small village in south Lincolnshire and his neighbours haven't got a clue...

Most porn doesn’t involve consent actually. So many of the women appearing in it are trafficked or coerced.

I used to go drinking with a group including a lovelyy sweet girl when we were teens. She was in the news not long ago for murdering her child whilst having a psychotic breakdown. She took her own life shortly afterwards. When I saw her pic in the paper I had that sickening jolt that you get. Horribly sad. A lot of her old friends got trolled with so many abusive messages.

Loads of people have. The point about calling it pornography is that it identifies the sexual element. Not all child abuse is sexual abuse. So if you want to make the point you suggest, it should be described as child sexual abuse, not child abuse.

I said her behaviour was monstrous - providing an alibi and helping to cover up a horrendous crime.

I worked (overseas) with a psychiatrist who was very small, slight and looked like saying hello in the morning was a tremendous effort. I have never met someone in a workplace who looked so perpetually nervous. Worked with him for a few years, not massively closely, as he went out of his way to avoid conversation with most of us. A few years after I left, it was discovered he had been watching porn on his work computer. He had also been having sex with a patient. He had started treating (and grooming) her when she was under 16. She had gone on to be in some of the stuff he had on his computer. He was also into swinging with his girlfriend, and wrote prescriptions for her to get and sell narcotic medications, and they would share these at the swinging events they went to. We were all astonished. He was struck off, cant remember what else happened to him.

The charge is “possession of/making indecent images of children”.

A friend started seeing a new man. We were all in our thirties and he seemed nice enough. Good job. All went pear shaped when the police came knocking for him. He hadn't been checking in as he was supposed to do as a registered paedophile. Friend had met his parents and sister and they had given no inkling, all still playing happy family.

The charge is making indecent images of children. As was in the news very recently.

My children’s chemistry teacher was a bomb maker for the IRA but was let out of jail under the terms of The Good Friday Agreement and has been teaching for years. You would never know.

Sadly several.

My Sister's Brother-in-law was arrested and convicted of child sexual abuse and making/sending indecent images of children.

My boss (and my children's headteacher) embezzled 50K of school funds and was also arrested and convicted of child sexual abuse.

A child I taught went on to kill their own child.

One family friend (a vicar) multiple convictions for indecent child images.

Another (policeman) friend of the family murdered his wife and tried to cover it up as an accident.

Apologies I'm wrong. The pornography word is still used where I live so it's different.

I am such a person, and no-one would ever be able to tell! I ran away from my country and entered another country as an illegal immigrant.
I guess it's not something as horrible as others have described, and I definitely haven't hurt anyone by doing so, but it is still a criminal offence.
(I now have a legal status in that country, having been granted asylum)

My friend's husband served 6 years for raping a drunk woman at a party.
My friend just picked up their relationship where they left off when he got out.

OMG 😱

I've known plenty or wrong-uns but they were all up front.

The legal term is possession of indecent or prohibited images.

several of my family members worked in a pub when I was younger, we used to interact with all sorts of people. One of them was my mums childhood friend. A group of the regulars were drinking one night including her and her boyfriend, one of the guys we knew, If I remember rightly a Spanish guy, seemed like a nice guy, well he was drunk driving, run over my mums friends boyfriend and drove off. Bearing in mind they were all friends. It just shocked us all, he said it was an accident when he was caught days later, however if that’s the case you don’t just drive off, especially when you know the person.