Ever met someone you later learned had done something really bad? **Content warning: thread contains mentions of child abuse**

[user2848502016]

Just asking because a few months ago someone I worked with suddenly stopped coming to work... then we found out he had been found guilty of possessing child porn 😬
He hadn't been working with us for long so didn't know him that well but he just seemed like a nice, slightly boring middle aged man! I know you can't ever tell by looking at someone but it just made me think anyone I know could be doing anything behind closed doors.....

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A friend from my teenage years that I'd lost touch with for about 20 years. I saw him pop up on Facebook a few years back so sent a friend request to see how he was doing. I got no response but a couple of weeks later saw his face on the front page of the newspaper having been sentenced to 7 years in jail for a violent rape. I quickly went back into Facebook and deleted that friend request!

A boy used to come to our house - a classmate of my brother. Intelligent, quiet, really well behaved and sweet natured.

He became a doctor, and was jailed for a huge number of sexual assaults on female patients.

A long time ago as part of dh’s job, he visited a company and sold them parts. One day when he went the staff asked if he had heard the news. The owner of the company, who dh had met many many time, a seemingly normal business man with a wife and 2 children, had been arrested and charged with murder. He had murdered a woman in her home and dressed her in charity shop clothes he had bought. I remember it being reported on the local news and thinking bizarre.
Dh couldn’t believe it.
I also met a woman who as a child, used to go to Harold Shipman’s house.
His wife and her mum used to take turns to do the school pick up. She said the times she met him he was quite and didn’t say much!
Both her and her brother went countless times.

I worked with a lovely man. Kind, unassuming, down to earth. After about a year of knowing him, he told me he’d been to prison for manslaughter. He had killed someone in a drunken fight in a pub. One punch, the victim fell, hit his head and died.
He was literally tortured with guilt over it. Never drank again, wouldn’t allow himself to have a girlfriend because he felt he didn’t deserve it. The victims parents actually wrote to him in prison to say they forgave him, but he just couldn’t forgive himself. Terribly sad for everyone involved.

I know someone who worked with Dennis Nilsen, one Christmas he brought in a homemade curry in a large pot.
He had used a large pot to boil things during his crimes.

I used to work in a nursery
This was before the days of the Internet and dbs checks
I worked alongside a bloke-normal,quiet and a bit shy
Was a bit of a shock,when about 4 weeks in,he was arrested
Turned out he'd been abusing and taking photos of the children

I work in fast food
There's a bloke that comes in and to say he gives off odd vibes is an understatement
He's a pedophile-he's known for it and has done time for it many times
And there is fuck all stopping him from coming in and smirking while gawping at the kids
Apparently he's done his time so case closed until next time he does it

I imagine the rehabilitation of offenders act had something to do with it. Is the man supposed to not work forever? Convictions get spent, time
passes, risk assessments are a thing. There’s a multitude of reasons why he might be deemed safe to work in that environment - and if he is, then his conviction must not place him on the DBS barred list.

He was a teacher. We moved a few years back and lost touch with him. Earlier in the year we found out he got 30 years for sexually abusing pupils in his classroom.

Going back 20 years now, but a former neighbor was a very friendly, smiley man, and an ambulance driver. It was only when he separated from his wife, that she admitted to us he'd just been locked up from abusing underage girls (presumably his daughter's friends who were young teenagers at the time), and had done time previously for the same thing. Came as a shock!

I know a man who was an odd bod anyway, but he was charged with raping the family dog (photographic evidence found on his phone when he took it in for repair). He had also awful child images on his phone. Vile, vile man.

Like a lot of people here, we knew someone who has been convicted for child sex abuse images. He was one of our very good friends, intelligent, funny and seemingly very principled. We couldn’t believe it. It pretty much broke my husband’s heart as he had known him since the age of 13.

We were part of a big friendship group with him as part of it, which has really ceased to exist now as everyone struggled so much with what we found out.

I always thought naively that I’d have radar for someone with his proclivities, the biggest shock is that these people live in plain sight. You trust them. I’m thankful he got caught when he did, I’ve got a daughter who was too young to be left on her own around anyone at that point so we don’t have to wonder. Had she been older I’d have really worried.

It’s apparently the fastest growing crime in the UK, they wouldn’t have the prison space for these people so most get suspended sentences.

Sat opposite a man who said was a single dad - I was on my own with two young children. He kept going on about me bringing them to a do in his town with his kids. It was 20 miles from me and I decided too much to take mine there so politely declined. He was a bit arsey after that.

Disappeared from work , we got told he wasn’t coming back. Years later he was in the national papers for preying on single mums and had abused children. Now serving life in HMP.

Something made me not go to his. Gut instinct and all that.

Child Porn 😔😔

Less speaking in rhymes! I agree.

Yes, but they were my customers when I worked in the public sector as a housing officer. I 'met' murderers, paedophiles, very violent men, you name it, I dealt with them. We had a warning system on their applications / files and it was amazing sometimes how new colleagues tried to ignore the warnings.
So a warning saying no lone female to interview, and the female would just shrug her shoulders, until being told exactly what that person had done.
It made me very safety conscious, I can tell you. People who commit horrendous crimes don't have signs on their heads, best to be cautious.

Is this case in the public domain? When did it happen?

Doesn't mean it's true.

A boy who lived nearby when I was younger - 10 years younger than me and used to play outside with my brother. He was a bit of a bully then and the dad was hitting the mum. When he was in his twenties the lad got into an argument with a stranger and pushed him onto the train track. Luckily other passengers saved the victim before the train came.

I know someone who only found out after she was pregnant that her partner had killed a family by putting a firework through their letterbox. Had to fight to keep her baby because they assumed she knew before she got pregnant when she unfortunately didn’t. Pretty horrific all round

My grandfather, who died 40 years ago, I found out recently was a child abuser and abused a close family member. The person who told me though, not his victim, has left me with more questions than answers.

The crime is actually possession of indecent images of a child. Has been for a long time.

@Dontlletmedownbruce

You really don't know what you're talking about do you?

Worked with a guy on a fixed term contract in a very senior position. Went on a conference with him, nice guy, had twins etc. He left to go to another post. Six months later he had committed suicide as he was in the run for stealing millions from the South African government!

As others have said in previous posts already, it’s really best to avoid using the term ‘child pornography’. They are images of child abuse

Okay, we get it, it's images of child abuse, not porn. You are absolutely right. The PP made a mistake. NOW WILL YOU PLEASE STOP GOING ON ABOUT IT!! You are ruining one of the most interesting threads I've read in ages.