Would you find this odd- nephew wondered around at night

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Bit random but my nephew is staying with us for a few weeks as his student house not yet ready. He’s in our loft bedroom at the moment.

We had our youngest daughter in with us the other night and she was pretty restless with a virus so I was awake a lot. I’m pretty sure at 1am or so I heard my nephew come down from loft room and stand on the landing and yawn wait for a bit and then I think go upstairs again?!

I asked him next morning if he got up in the night and said it was really late he seemed to know what I was talking about but said I must have heard him go to bed or that he was going down for his phone. But it wasn’t that as I didn’t hear the stair gate opening at all from the ground floor to the landing and it’s really noisy so I definitely would. He didn’t come down to use the loo as there’s an en suite in the loft room. I asked him if he’s a sleepwalker but he said no. So I guess he was just standing outside our doors?!

Since he’s been fine. I have three daughters 6,3 and 1. They all love spending time with him and always have. (He’s my brothers son and there’s a big age gap between me and my brother).

I don’t know if it’s strange and I’m right to be a bit freaked out or if it’s an over reaction?!
My husband didn’t hear anything and thinks I’m a bit crazy.

Should I be a bit wary or get over it? My nephew is a kind and lovely young man in general!

Nope fire alarm....... he decided to make himself something under the grill, shut the oven door without switching it off and went back to bed leaving it switched on high.

The fire alarm didn't even wake him! (I did 🤬)

Yeah - log it with 101 🤦‍♀️

Wells- I had thought it was the nephew was a raging paedophile and rapist - but things seem to have moved on and he has become a family annihilator

Oh FGS

He has lied or been vague about why he was up wandering around in the middle of the night. That rings a small alarm bell for me.
Use of “ might have” rings another. It is a classic deflecting blame phrase.
You know he wasn't going downstairs for his phone, because of the gate.
And you sound uneasy about it, listen to your feelings.

So, he was possibly sleepwalking, or sleepy wandering, and his memory is vague, or he is too embarrassed to say.
Or possibly not.

Like it or not, it is a fact that most sa takes place within the family.
Safeguarding the children is down to you, including safeguarding this boy, by supervising them all and reducing opportunities for any inappropriate behaviours.

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, sort of thing.

My son would often stand outside my door in the middle of the night if something was bothering him and he wanted to talk. He was listening to see if I was awake, and making tiny noises so that I'd call out to him if I was. Then we'd have a chat.

I'm sure if I hadn't called out, he'd have gone on with whatever he was doing.

Maybe your nephew had something bothering him, that didn't seem so bad in the light of day, and felt too embarrassed/didn't want to worry you/cause a fuss or something? and so was very vague.

Possibly a more likely explanation than murderer or paedophile.

Omg I have this weird thing where, sometimes, if I'm downstairs and sleepy before I go up to bed, I kind of expect to walk upstairs to my childhood bedroom in my mum's house, and it's almost a surprise that it's not, and that I'm here (the living rooms are a very similar layout in my defence).

So yes, this could absolutely have happened.

It wasn't random. The father was molesting the oldest brother, and then the older brother admitted to molesting the younger brother. The mother ignored the abuse of the older son when a cousin visiting told her about it. It has come out since the Father was molesting other boys too.

Their story is pretty horrific and heartbreaking.

Yes it's strange for a teenager/adult to leave their bedroom and hang about on the landing in the pitch black for ten minutes with no explanation.

Best scenario would be he sleep walked downstairs , woke up on the landing and was confused but eventually went back to bed. He was embarrassed/confused next day so gave a random excuse.

Worst case he was on the landing for nefarious reasons.