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Tonight’s the night

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Shmambles · 28/09/2024 12:59

DD has to gone off for a sleepover and now I have five hours to wait for my nice new man to come for dinner and a sleepover of our own. First time we’ll have DTD (assuming we do) after three dates over the course of six weeks. I’m excited and a bit nervous!

What shall I do to pass the time? I’m thinking… a bit of meal prep, nice bath, maybe a preparatory glass of wine in a couple of hours. I have the dress chosen and out of the wardrobe. It’s a long time to wait!

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SnowflakeSmasher86 · 28/09/2024 15:55

Enjoy your night OP, low expectations all round as first times can be underwhelming. Just relax, take it as it comes (pardon the pun) and have fun!

alwaysmovingforwards · 28/09/2024 15:56

Doseofreality · 28/09/2024 13:02

Hide all the valuables as you are letting a virtual stranger stay over in the house you share with your child?

This is MN personified 😂😂
Utterly bonkers 😆

CharliesAngles · 28/09/2024 15:56

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:31

Right, I’ve called 111 just to get the police on standby. I have a mate who knows a guy who works the door at a snooker club. So he’s going to park outside. I’ve dropped all my jewellery off at my mum’s and bade her a tearful farewell. And I’ve superglued the good crockery to the base of the cupboard. Now I know it’s going to be a great evening.

That's all well and good @Shmambles but you've not told the whole of MN your safe word! 😂

Now that your valuables are taken care of, focus on getting your hands on his crown jewels...

Mamabobogo · 28/09/2024 15:59

Chellybelle · 28/09/2024 15:17

How come you've only seen him 3 times in 6 weeks if he's your boyfriend? Unless it's because he lives miles away.

what a strange question!

PadstowGirl · 28/09/2024 16:00

Have a lovely evening.
What have you got for breakfast? Danish pastries or the full works? Proper coffee? Or off to a cafe?

MaidOfAle · 28/09/2024 16:01

harrumphh · 28/09/2024 15:06

One of my (female) friends said she's really into rim jobs. When she saw my face she said "Don't knock it until you've tried it."

Never trusted that phrase since.

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🤮

Cuppa2sugars · 28/09/2024 16:01

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:55

Having a pair of scissors on standby is a great idea both for those who think he’ll bring me flowers and those who think he’ll try to rob me.

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🤣🤣🤣🤣

Didhe · 28/09/2024 16:05

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LunaNorth · 28/09/2024 16:06

Don’t put dried apricots in the tagine. Speaking from experience.

CombatLingerie · 28/09/2024 16:08

I have enjoyed your post OP it’s cheered me up. Especially after the post I read on here today about a creepy old pervert wanting to meet up with a woman he’s never even met in person to discuss his weird predilections. You seem to have had three nice normal dates with a hopefully nice normal man and are now progressing to a nice evening together. I must say as an old woman I don’t get all this fanny tidying though. Never happened in my day😂.

FeralNun · 28/09/2024 16:09

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 15:43

Don’t think that hasn’t crossed my mind but what alternative is there?! Every food and everything I can cook has some kind of potential horror attached.

Maybe I should just offer him a stick of celery. Although doubtless some would worry he’d beat me to death with it.

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I bloody love the sound of you, OP. He’s a lucky man!

Horses7 · 28/09/2024 16:09

I’m almost nervous for you so hope it goes well!

CombatLingerie · 28/09/2024 16:09

@LunaNorth 😂.

Horses7 · 28/09/2024 16:09

!

OverthinkingOlive · 28/09/2024 16:11

Have a great evening x

CinnamonTheCapybara · 28/09/2024 16:12

Team OP here!! 🥳🥂💐

Have a fab evening, keep us up updated! ( tomorrow, of course, not during this evening! 🤣)

McBuckers · 28/09/2024 16:14

Sounds lovely @Shmambles.

Have you got breakfast sorted too? 🙂

ChickpeaPie · 28/09/2024 16:15

Following because I cant wait to hear how it went

Bloom15 · 28/09/2024 16:18

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:07

What? God, that’s a mood killer!

I’ve been chatting to him constantly for weeks, have had three dates including one that started at his house. Pretty confident he’s not a cat burglar / killer. But thanks for your concern.

Enjoy yourself OP - and be careful! Some weird responses on here

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Shmambles · 28/09/2024 16:19

McBuckers · 28/09/2024 16:14

Sounds lovely @Shmambles.

Have you got breakfast sorted too? 🙂

Honestly I’d not even thought of breakfast.

He needs to be gone early so the best he’s gonna get is a bowl of posh granola from Asda. To be honest I don’t want him getting the wrong idea. He’ll already think my bikini like being tidy is the natural order of things so I don’t want him also thinking that croissants and freshly made pancakes are normal. In my house you normally need to be out the door by 8 so you’re lucky if you get toast.

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RancidOldHag · 28/09/2024 16:26

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 28/09/2024 14:57

'Where two become one' 🤮

Seriously though, have a drink and see where it goes.

Hopefully, accurately and sprinkle-free into the loo

(I've read too many threads about "D"Hs who cannot manage this)

McBuckers · 28/09/2024 16:37

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 16:19

Honestly I’d not even thought of breakfast.

He needs to be gone early so the best he’s gonna get is a bowl of posh granola from Asda. To be honest I don’t want him getting the wrong idea. He’ll already think my bikini like being tidy is the natural order of things so I don’t want him also thinking that croissants and freshly made pancakes are normal. In my house you normally need to be out the door by 8 so you’re lucky if you get toast.

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You're cracking me up 😂

Granola - what no bacon sarnie and a glass of bucks fizz?

TBF the only day I make breakfast is Sunday. Every other day of the week my DP makes it for me. He was supposed to be a ONS, but he was just too good to let go of!

I think you're maybe spoiling him with the trim though 😂

HelterSkelter224 · 28/09/2024 16:49

Christ, I loved reading your post and was excited for you then boom fucking miseryguts.

Ignore and enjoy your date!! A nice bath and glass of wine sounds divine!

lcakethereforeIam · 28/09/2024 17:02

Have a lovely evening OP. Are you going to warn him that he might be reviewed on MN?

samarrange · 28/09/2024 17:03

LouH5 · 28/09/2024 15:29

Cringing at the small amount of posters questioning why you’d let someone into your house after three dates/suggesting you hide valuables/saying having sex on the fourth date is premature… I am curious to know how they think relationships begin!
My boyfriend of two years stayed over for the first time on our second date and I’m delighted to announce he didn’t steal any valuables or kill my cat (don’t have kids so that’s the closest it gets 🤣).

Have an amazing time OP, this next couple of hours will probably be torture, but as soon as he arrives all the nerves will be gone and you’ll have an amazing night!

I am curious to know how they think relationships begin!

You know how some of the more batshit conspiracy theories claim that there is a plan to halve the world's population? I sometimes think MNers are trying to make those come true. No sex, no relationships, no babies. Sorted. Eat your heart out, Bill Gates and your 5G chemtrail nanoparticles.