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Tonight’s the night

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Shmambles · 28/09/2024 12:59

DD has to gone off for a sleepover and now I have five hours to wait for my nice new man to come for dinner and a sleepover of our own. First time we’ll have DTD (assuming we do) after three dates over the course of six weeks. I’m excited and a bit nervous!

What shall I do to pass the time? I’m thinking… a bit of meal prep, nice bath, maybe a preparatory glass of wine in a couple of hours. I have the dress chosen and out of the wardrobe. It’s a long time to wait!

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BunnyLake · 28/09/2024 15:04

nextdoornightmares · 28/09/2024 14:57

Are you secretly my partner because he came to my house the first time we properly met, we did the deed and are still very happily together 6 years later 😂😂

I didn't even have to hide my valuables or anything.

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Evidently 😁

Bringitonnowibeg · 28/09/2024 15:05

What you cooking?
Have a lovely night and def update if you can 🥰

GabriellaMontez · 28/09/2024 15:05

Well this is exciting! Have you agreed tonight's the night?!

harrumphh · 28/09/2024 15:06

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One of my (female) friends said she's really into rim jobs. When she saw my face she said "Don't knock it until you've tried it."

Never trusted that phrase since.

BunnyLake · 28/09/2024 15:08

LasagneLasagne · 28/09/2024 15:04

Don't worry too much about his goods (size or otherwise) - 'It's not about the size of the boat, it's about the motion of the ocean'. He's going to be making a big effort to impress you with his prowess, so he'll be keen, at least.

Arrange for a friend to ping you a text during the evening in case you need an excuse to get rid. Otherwise, enjoy your preparations and bonk away!

Don’t want to be all serious and stuff but I hate the way some women make snidey comments about a man’s ‘tackle’ (that he can do nothing about). Maybe it’s because I’m the mother of boys but it’s so crass not to mention hypocritical.

Didhe · 28/09/2024 15:09

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Scotty22 · 28/09/2024 14:14

Have a great night!! We will all be waiting on an update tomorrow to let us know how it went!!

No doubt some posters will no doubt be excitedly checking in to find out
'what went?' 😀

As in, jewellery, cash, electronics, etc.

itsjustbiology · 28/09/2024 15:09

Ride safe OP! 😜
Have fun! I am so jealous. Oh to feel those butterflies again..me and Dh will fall asleep before the end of Strictly tonight!! Just enjoy, he will probably be feeling exactly the same as you if its any consolation.

TeaAndCakeFTW · 28/09/2024 15:11

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:46

Yes, there’ll be none of that thanks.

Although I am cooking for him so my real fear about choking is that he’ll die of it over dinner!

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😂😂😂😂

I hope you have a good time tonight op.

samarrange · 28/09/2024 15:14

GabriellaMontez · 28/09/2024 15:05

Well this is exciting! Have you agreed tonight's the night?!

He's been invited over for dinner after three dates and OP clearly has a glint in her eye/voice/texts. I suspect he's probably worked out what's on the agenda. 😉

Isittoolatea · 28/09/2024 15:16

I hope you have a fantastic night op!
I havnt done the deed in over 5 years , the thought now terrifies me . Not that I wouldn’t want to , I definitely would !

Chellybelle · 28/09/2024 15:17

How come you've only seen him 3 times in 6 weeks if he's your boyfriend? Unless it's because he lives miles away.

farfromideal · 28/09/2024 15:17

LadyKenya · 28/09/2024 13:03

It is not a good idea for him to know where you live, I would have thought. Too soon.

How do you know from her message how long she's known him? It's not mentioned anywhere!

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Shmambles · 28/09/2024 15:19

Chellybelle · 28/09/2024 15:17

How come you've only seen him 3 times in 6 weeks if he's your boyfriend? Unless it's because he lives miles away.

I wouldn’t call him my boyfr End. Just someone I got chatting to and have been out three times with. Just taking it easy, and we both have jobs and kids. I have one free evening a week (two this week cos of the sleepover) so there’s not much chance to see him.

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LasagneLasagne · 28/09/2024 15:19

BunnyLake · 28/09/2024 15:08

Don’t want to be all serious and stuff but I hate the way some women make snidey comments about a man’s ‘tackle’ (that he can do nothing about). Maybe it’s because I’m the mother of boys but it’s so crass not to mention hypocritical.

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Fair enough. I referred to that in response to other posters comments.
I've always been of the opinion that you work with what you've got, so to speak. And I would hope that I would be appreciated for my enthusiasm between the sheets than the size or appearance of any part of my anatomy.

BreastClinic · 28/09/2024 15:20

Seems a bit premature to be jumping into the sack with someone you've met three times. Especially as u have a kid.....

FeralNun · 28/09/2024 15:20

Fuck me, some of these replies!

Went to bed first date and still alive and unrobbed 30 years later.

Have a wonderful time, OP! I’m just a little bit envious tbh!

Chellybelle · 28/09/2024 15:21

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I know. I've been there myself. But if you haven't got the time to see someone you like, then you don't have time for a relationship. It's different if it's just all about the sex.

Aussieland · 28/09/2024 15:21

BreastClinic · 28/09/2024 15:20

Seems a bit premature to be jumping into the sack with someone you've met three times. Especially as u have a kid.....

FFS. She isn’t moving him in. Her child will have no idea she has had a good shag and the world won’t end.

izzygirlis4 · 28/09/2024 15:22

BreastClinic · 28/09/2024 15:20

Seems a bit premature to be jumping into the sack with someone you've met three times. Especially as u have a kid.....

The kid won't be there. What's the problem.

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Shmambles · 28/09/2024 15:24

Everyone’s replies are lovely. Thank you. Glad I’m not waiting around alone!

I’ve had a bath, sorted myself out, and feel ready (2.5hrs early).

I’m not massively concerned that he might rob or harm me. But I have a friend who’s calling later. I’m definitely not overly bothered by the size of his ‘tackle’ and whatever will be will be! We might not even DTD of course. We both know it might be on the cards but who knows how the evening will go? And yes, it is a bit annoying that he might have to leave early but I have to pick DD up and will need to sort the house and myself out beforehand.

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MonsteraMama · 28/09/2024 15:25

BreastClinic · 28/09/2024 15:20

Seems a bit premature to be jumping into the sack with someone you've met three times. Especially as u have a kid.....

FGS the woman is allowed a shag, your vagina doesn't seal shut the minute you have a kid and remain sealed for the next 18 years. This thread is ridiculous.

McBuckers · 28/09/2024 15:25

I hope you have a wonderful evening OP. 🍾💐🍆

I had a date/ONS with someone 11 years ago after the ExH left. I didn't want a man in my life and certainly didn't feel I needed one.

We're still happily together.

What are you cooking?

BunnyLake · 28/09/2024 15:25

LasagneLasagne · 28/09/2024 15:19

Fair enough. I referred to that in response to other posters comments.
I've always been of the opinion that you work with what you've got, so to speak. And I would hope that I would be appreciated for my enthusiasm between the sheets than the size or appearance of any part of my anatomy.

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I was agreeing with you, I should have said 😁 I don’t like to see women being bitchy from the off as they wouldn’t like men saying hope she’s not the size of the Grand Canyon.

The run up to a possible night of first sex with someone can be very exciting. It’s a long ago memory for me but I can almost feel the anticipation myself.