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Tonight’s the night

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Shmambles · 28/09/2024 12:59

DD has to gone off for a sleepover and now I have five hours to wait for my nice new man to come for dinner and a sleepover of our own. First time we’ll have DTD (assuming we do) after three dates over the course of six weeks. I’m excited and a bit nervous!

What shall I do to pass the time? I’m thinking… a bit of meal prep, nice bath, maybe a preparatory glass of wine in a couple of hours. I have the dress chosen and out of the wardrobe. It’s a long time to wait!

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GingerPirate · 28/09/2024 14:40

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I like the sound of your Mum!
😊

Renamed · 28/09/2024 14:41

You could balance a bag of flour over the door to DD’s room as then you will know if he goes snooping around trying to find the valuables…

itsgettingweird · 28/09/2024 14:41

StarSlinger · 28/09/2024 13:16

How on earth do some people on MN think that people get together in the first place?

Have a lovely evening, OP.

Quite.

If you never meet, date or marry someone .... just in case .... we would be wiped out as a human race.

Some people find their solemate on date one who is amazing and they are together for decades until "death do them part".

Some people date slowly, meet slowly, don't trust anyone, find love, get married and are together until one of them is found to have commuted a heinous crime.

Whether it's date 3 or 33 you still don't know everything about them. Life always has some risk involved.

OP this is one of those times I really hope you have a great night - and kiss and tell 😉

username0489 · 28/09/2024 14:42

Renamed · 28/09/2024 14:41

You could balance a bag of flour over the door to DD’s room as then you will know if he goes snooping around trying to find the valuables…

Or sprinkle flour around the house then she can see his footprints!

itsgettingweird · 28/09/2024 14:42

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:31

Right, I’ve called 111 just to get the police on standby. I have a mate who knows a guy who works the door at a snooker club. So he’s going to park outside. I’ve dropped all my jewellery off at my mum’s and bade her a tearful farewell. And I’ve superglued the good crockery to the base of the cupboard. Now I know it’s going to be a great evening.

😂😂😂

DownWhichOfLate · 28/09/2024 14:43

@Mindymomo - ha! Sounds like a great night 😃

Buildingthefuture · 28/09/2024 14:43

Exciting! I hope you have a fabulous evening op! I would ensue hair removed from appropriate areas, change bed sheets, make sure not to be wearing my most massive knickers, clean up generally, but bathroom in particular and probably light some scented candles.

JMAngel1 · 28/09/2024 14:45

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:31

Right, I’ve called 111 just to get the police on standby. I have a mate who knows a guy who works the door at a snooker club. So he’s going to park outside. I’ve dropped all my jewellery off at my mum’s and bade her a tearful farewell. And I’ve superglued the good crockery to the base of the cupboard. Now I know it’s going to be a great evening.

😂😂😂😂
Good on ya. I swear I’ve noticed a pattern on Mumsnet that the first two post responses are always completely bonkers/inflammatory/joy sucking or contradictory to the majority of responses.

Have a fantastic night OP

Psychoticbreak · 28/09/2024 14:45

Some of the replies will keep me entertained endlessly for days.

OP have a great time, do have that wine and have the ride of your life - two if possible as I havent had one in a while myself!

Demonhunter · 28/09/2024 14:46

Ignore the buzz kills! I went to my DPs house on 3rd date and he came to mine on 4th. Me and the kids are still alive over 11 years later 🤣

Alicana · 28/09/2024 14:46

MaidOfAle · 28/09/2024 14:21

Welcome to what porn on tap has done to modern men's ideas of sex.

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Luckily none that I know!

Noshowlomo · 28/09/2024 14:51

Excited for you OP!

adviceneeded1990 · 28/09/2024 14:55

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:07

What? God, that’s a mood killer!

I’ve been chatting to him constantly for weeks, have had three dates including one that started at his house. Pretty confident he’s not a cat burglar / killer. But thanks for your concern.

Don’t know why it double posted

adviceneeded1990 · 28/09/2024 14:55

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:07

What? God, that’s a mood killer!

I’ve been chatting to him constantly for weeks, have had three dates including one that started at his house. Pretty confident he’s not a cat burglar / killer. But thanks for your concern.

Oh God ignore them! The “no dating til DD is 18 brigade” will be along in a min too. Have a nice bath, self care, legs shaved and toes painted etc (if that’s your style obviously) then try to relax! Watch something mindless etc.

I went back to a first dates flat after our date, we watched a movie and had a few kisses then I went home. He came to mine for dinner a fortnight later. Married 3 years. They aren’t all serial killers 🙈. Maybe make sure someone knows who is coming over, his contact info etc and what your plans are? That’s what I did, a friend and I had a text check in planned.

LissaGa · 28/09/2024 14:55

Have a fabulous time and ignore the joysuckers who hate to think of anyone having fun, let alone having a lovely dinner followed by enjoyable sex for dessert, on a Saturday night 😂
Sex isn't just for procreation, ladies, it's for recreation too.

PS: I hope he's not a psycho jewel thief, and more than that, I hope he's not sporting a pencil dick 😉

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 28/09/2024 14:56

Alicana · 28/09/2024 13:39

What?! Where are you finding all these men who want to do that to you?!! I would definitely reassess your dating apps!!

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It’s more common than you think, approx 2018 I had a man I was dating ask about anal sex, I was in bed with him and had to dash his hopes re that one.

There are more men than you think into this stuff. Nothing wrong if you both want this.

OP - enjoy and have fun!

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 28/09/2024 14:57

'Where two become one' 🤮

Seriously though, have a drink and see where it goes.

Happygogoat · 28/09/2024 14:57

You have to come back in the morning OP and let us know 🤣

nextdoornightmares · 28/09/2024 14:57

CrystalTaliefero · 28/09/2024 13:22

Definitely do a last tidy up/clean then go out to dispell the anxiety and fretting!

I went to my now partner's house and had sex on our first date. Still together and very happy six years down the line!

Hope you have an amazing time.

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Are you secretly my partner because he came to my house the first time we properly met, we did the deed and are still very happily together 6 years later 😂😂

I didn't even have to hide my valuables or anything.

HotSource · 28/09/2024 14:58

Shmambles · 28/09/2024 13:46

Yes, there’ll be none of that thanks.

Although I am cooking for him so my real fear about choking is that he’ll die of it over dinner!

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Served on your second best plates? 😮😕

Since the best are glued down in the cupboard?

AquaLeader · 28/09/2024 14:58

StarSlinger · 28/09/2024 13:16

How on earth do some people on MN think that people get together in the first place?

Have a lovely evening, OP.

These posters don't believe in people getting together.

It's why they spend so much time on MN.

BunnyLake · 28/09/2024 15:01

username0489 · 28/09/2024 13:37

I hope you have a lovely time. One thing I suggest and I'll probably get jumped on, is before doing the deed make it clear that you're not into rough sex - be that choking, hair pulling, spanking, name calling or anything like that (unless you are of course!).

Modern dating can be a bit of a minefield and some of these things are expected, so I'd just be clear that they're not for you.

Crikey, I’m glad my dating days are over.

Have a great time.

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Shmambles · 28/09/2024 14:04

Thank you. I guess there are plusses to my evening to come, but on the other hand I have to clean the house, beautify myself, cook a meal that is filling and tasty but won’t leave me bloated and smelling of it, pick a wine that makes me seem sophisticated (I am not in any way), change the sheets, hope DD doesn’t have to come home early for some reason, hope he’s good in bed, hope there’s no awkwardness before, during or after, and get him out by 9am!
To be honest I wonder if I should just settle down with a book and send him to you!

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9am on a Sunday morning is pretty early just saying! Say 10-11am?

That’s if your DD is away until then.

LasagneLasagne · 28/09/2024 15:04

Don't worry too much about his goods (size or otherwise) - 'It's not about the size of the boat, it's about the motion of the ocean'. He's going to be making a big effort to impress you with his prowess, so he'll be keen, at least.

Arrange for a friend to ping you a text during the evening in case you need an excuse to get rid. Otherwise, enjoy your preparations and bonk away!