Have I become boring?

[Mypetrabbit]

For context. I'm 50 with dh and dc 15& 17. I work FT. In my 20s I was a party animal.

Now, I enjoy my Saturday mornings taking in the weekly food delivery. Weekly clean out & re stock the fridge. Bins out. Washing on. House cleaned. I have a very clean, tidy, organised, consistently well stocked house. Everything is decluttered, we always have what we need. I don't like theatre/art galleries/shopping. I certainly wouldn't want a day out at the weekend unless it was the seaside or lunch out. I prefer to stay local, except for seaside. Weekend nights I prefer to be in either at friends or with friends/ dh at mine. Sometimes I might suggest the local pub. I have no desire to go anywhere far away for the weekend, unless the seaside. I do go abroad a lot.

I'm not spontaneous. My messages to friends are always quite matter-of-fact. Never me suggesting to do anything. A friend is off to London today. I couldn't think of anything worse. She's excited to be going.

have I become boring ?

You don't sound boring to me, you sound content.

To me yes this is terribly boring. Same age. Similar set up.
But if an ordered home, staying local is everything you desire then for you it's not.

Different strokes for different folks.

Boring is subjective. Do you have anything to talk about? Do you keep up with current affairs, read interesting books, take an interest in the world?

Do you find your life boring? If not, then it doesn’t really matter how anybody else would find it. It wouldn’t be for me, and mine wouldn’t be for you, but we’re not obliged to live each other’s lives!

If you're happy, why on earth does it matter if other people find your life boring?

FWIW, it sounds great to me. I love a weekend at home knowing my house is clean and all my housework is sorted, and I'm only 35

I guess its possible that some people might find you boring however I think being boring is less about what you do and more about how you think. If you are happy with your life and aren't feeling bored then you don't really need to worry, it doesn't matter what others think of you anyway so enjoy!

It would be boring for me. But it's your life! As long as both you and DH are happy, crack on as you prefer.

I somewhat envy your organisation skills too.

I'm 25 and enjoy my weekends of food shopping, meal prepping, studying and relaxing. If that makes me boring then so be it

I don't read or watch the news. I have plenty to talk about with friends. If a friend suggested a shopping day at the weekend then I'd go, for them. But I'd consider myself to not have had a Saturday that weekend and feel like I only had a 1 day weekend (Sunday). A day out in a city would be my worst nightmare. Busy/I have no interest. I'm not interested in going to concerts or other shows. I don't keep up with celebs. Have no idea what the latest music is. I could sit next to Pink on a train and have no idea.

To me, being quite so routine is fundamentally quite boring.

But - that’s not an issue necessarily. If you enjoy it, then it doesn’t matter.

You'd be fascinating to someone who shared your interests.

I think contentment is severely underrated in these times where we are constantly comparing ourselves to others on social media.

You seem a bit preoccupied with the seaside!!

I’m probably considered boring too.
But I’m very happy.

I'm the same in terms of feeling like I lose my weekend if I'm not doing my own thing

When I'm at home sorting the house I'll have 80s or 90s tv shows/films on in the background. I've never watched strictly or the voice etc or any other prime-Saturday night type show. I never listen to the radio. I don't own any books.
I'm currently watching 80s The A Team while I tidy the living room lol

It doesn't matter at all what other people think. If you are happy with your life, you're doing better than a lot of folk.

I love to read, got to plays, the ballet, opera, concerts and to go out to eat. I work in the visual arts and I enjoy galleries and museums and I am a big film buff. However I do also enjoy staying home to cook, read, play music and just spend time with my husband. I also like having a cosy, clean well organised home.

I don't like having tons of stuff on as I need plenty of time alone to decompress. I do enjoy travel but my last holiday was touring various ancient sites in Scotland which some people would find tedious but I was very excited by that. My SIL loves the soaps and Kylie and while we don't share each others interests I still find her interesting and we have plenty to chat about.

Its all part of life's rich tapestry, what would be boring is if we were all the same!

100%. Being content with what you have is seriously underrated, IMO.

It all depends on how you feel about your life. If you want to make changes and do different things then go for it. Otherwise appreciate being content and settled. I think your life sounds lovely OP!

No judgement, but do you not wonder if you'd enjoy more recent music/TV show/movies just as much?

I'd rather die than live like that (sorry).

Have you thought about looking into therapy, as your whole life and interests revolving around obsessing about your house doesn't seem healthy. I'm not even sure how you fill all your time with just that, I'm assuming it's because it's an obsession for you.

To me personally someone’s lifestyle isn’t what would make me think they were boring, it would be the way they interact with me. If we sat down to have lunch for a couple of hours, could you talk to me about a variety of topics? Would you ask questions about my interests and things I’d been doing and contribute your own conversation starters?

If lunch would be two hours of silence or you going on and on about one specific topic and never properly conversing I’d think you were boring, but the way you live your life wouldn’t.

Well wasn't Pink's heyday like 20 years ago? Perhaps the OP just isn't into music or tv in general?

Ah I loved the A Team! They don’t make ‘em like they did in the 80s…