Have I become boring?

[Mypetrabbit]

For context. I'm 50 with dh and dc 15& 17. I work FT. In my 20s I was a party animal.

Now, I enjoy my Saturday mornings taking in the weekly food delivery. Weekly clean out & re stock the fridge. Bins out. Washing on. House cleaned. I have a very clean, tidy, organised, consistently well stocked house. Everything is decluttered, we always have what we need. I don't like theatre/art galleries/shopping. I certainly wouldn't want a day out at the weekend unless it was the seaside or lunch out. I prefer to stay local, except for seaside. Weekend nights I prefer to be in either at friends or with friends/ dh at mine. Sometimes I might suggest the local pub. I have no desire to go anywhere far away for the weekend, unless the seaside. I do go abroad a lot.

I'm not spontaneous. My messages to friends are always quite matter-of-fact. Never me suggesting to do anything. A friend is off to London today. I couldn't think of anything worse. She's excited to be going.

have I become boring ?

Agree with Calypso books / theatre / keeping up with news / staying current are all important to me. Housework and cleaning the fridge are boring drudge to be done fast whilst listening to a history or current affairs podcast. What do you talk about with your friends? Am on holiday with a group we have talked about teens and their future / theatre / cases in the news and from that mental health and it’s links to crime etc. You would be unaware of all of that.

Why are you bothered though? You obviously are or you wouldn’t have posted.

From about age 17 I was a girl about town. I’m much older now. Adult sons. Married 26 years. Like pp well-ordered and clean home. Very content. Like to be left alone nowadays. I don’t socialise with anyone I don’t want to or have to x

Pink is still a really big artist, it's like saying Beyonce isn't popular any more. They are long termers like Madonna.

Outside of my businesses:

Travelling around the world, especially when water sports or cooking classes are involved, but I love a city trip too
Spending time with friends and family doing activities, at least once a week (not sitting around chatting - escape rooms, paintballing, axe throwing, pottery classes, sip and paints, chocolate making workshops, a classical concert)
Learning new things, either by own research or doing courses (currently doing an AI course)
Playing a musical instrument (badly)
Learning Italian on Duolingo
Going to the theatre
Going to the lake with a picnic blanket and book (weather dependent)
Listening to podcasts, especially true crime
Creating my own art for fun
Home decor/remodeling (not cleaning and rearranging)
Making jewellery
My pets
Going out for a really nice meal
Baking

And how would you feel if someone stated it sounds like you need therapy because you seem to use external stimuli as a distraction from your sadness?

I'd laugh because it would be hilarious.

Ah, so your “advice” to OP was a joke.

Fair enough.

@harrumphh Have you tried fencing? Me and DH took it up years ago thinking we'd not get into it. It's so much fun! Your likes are very similar to mine, so thought I'd throw it out there. 😁

OP, I probably couldn't live like you do. For me, it would be very boring...especially the not reading! I always say, I could probably cope with being locked in a tower for the rest of my life, but only if I had books!

Are you bothered about it? You posting suggests you are a bit? Have you thought about trying some new things?

I’m all for being content and appreciating the small beauties, but you do seem to have whittled life down to the bare minimum. Do unfamiliar things make you anxious? What do you and your friends talk about?

There is just nothing that I'm interested in. I love travelling abroad. But that is rather i just want to be abroad anywhere, i don't have specific places i want to go. When abroad i like the local culture, swimming in the warm blue sea (i only go to hot countries by the sea, not city breaks). we have a dog. I walk him.

I once went to Wembley for a concert. Huge queues for the toilets and drinks, 1.5hrs to get out the building/grounds afterwards. I had something thrown at my head from the seats above. Never again. I also went to see a well known comedian in london. We had the very back row seats. They were very high. Phones locked in cases. We jumped over the seat backs to leave 10 mins before the show ended, hoping we would miss the mad rush to leave, but we didn't. It took an hour to get to the train. A sea of people. This was at the 02. Never again.

I don't think Wembley and the 02 fairly represent going out.

Not liking Wembley and the o2 doesn't mean there aren't thousands of other activities you might enjoy, though

It sounds like familiar routines and comforts are very important to you and that’s ok. Who cares if other people think it’s boring? Having said that if you occasionally read or listened to a book about something that does interest you you might find you enjoy it. Libraries are very calm. Also there is a happy medium between staying in and going to the O2, eg local concerts or sports matches or pub quiz etc, no one is queuing for an hour to go to those!

There's more than just really busy places though, if that's what's putting you off. National Trust sites, a weekend in the Lakes during down season. A small art class. Hell, a nice walk around your local park and a picnic. You say you don't read, is there a reason why? Have you tried films in smaller cinemas? A Candlelight Concert?

There's so many quiet things and those are some of the more tame I've come up with off the top of my head. There's a huge spectrum between staying at home and the o2!

Also, audiobooks would be a good alternative to reading if you fancied giving them a go.
I listen to them on Spotify or there are some on YouTube if you don’t want to sign up to any subscriptions.

You sound a lot like me (granted I’m older). I did a lot of partying, going out, etc when I was younger and now I just can’t be arsed with it all, the getting home, the expense etc. Staying in my favourite pastime.

This! Unless you feel dissatisfied, OP, who is to judge?

This. 😂😂

Yeah I know but my point was that the OP kind of implied pink was more modern but she's been about for decades now and her heyday was more like 20 years ago or so, most of her fans will be in their 40's now most likely. In the context of what the OP said it would have made more sense if she'd said she wouldn't recognise Charli XCX on the train. I hadn't seen the bit she posted later about saying she only liked 80s and 90's stuff so perhaps Pink came after her cut off point.

Why would she regret not doing something she didn't want to do?

I don't know about boring but you definitely sound very routine oriented and stuck in the past.
Why would you watch re runs of the A team for example rather than catching up on the news, it would definitely broaden your horizons to have some clue what is happening in the world around you.
There are also some fantastic documentaries on TV that are entertaining and informative.
The lack of books is sad, you can literally read about anything and everything, I can't believe there is nothing you would enjoy reading?
Staying local to go out is fine I think, at least you are going out and getting away from the enormous amount of cleaning you do seemingly to fill the time.

I’m very similar at only 38!

I do read and study though.

I used to be out every single weekend, right now my house is spotless, the fridge is stocked, I have a candle burning and I’m about to cook dinner before a hot bath and some reading. I am content. After years of trauma, my home and being in it makes me happy. If that makes me boring then I’ll take it!

"There is just nothing I'm interested in".

That's pretty much the essence of a boring person, to me, even more so than someone who is very interested in just one thing and wants to tell me all about it.

Are you really not interested in anything? Not your house, or what makes the perfect beach, or why 80s TV is so much fun, or Whoop spears as the villain in multiple episodes of Columbo? What do you talk about with your friends? Do you do stuff that makes you laugh?

On the surface your life seems calm and contented, but if it doesn't give you anything of interest, then, yes, it's boring.

If you had a turbulent past, though, boring might be exactly what you want. I know a couple of people like that, and if that's what you want, then that's a perfectly sensible and valid way of living.

To me this sounds boring, and I'm by no means a party animal! I guess you're a bit bored to, hence you are asking the question.

I am 58, have a decluttered and very clean organised house. I cook from scratch and don't go out to restaurants or go shopping much at all. But I do like going to a show sometimes and I like an art gallery visit, and do some online courses and I love going hiking especially on holiday. So I wouldn't be content with your life. But the important thing is - are you content with your life? If you are then fantastic - stick with it. If you feel you'd like something else then explore a bit. It doesn't need to be the same as other people like - but find your own interests and hobbies if you need to. What do you like about the seaside? Could you start there and expand on that if you want to?

You're absolutely not boring, how can you say that unless you are bored?

It's a different phase in your life, and you sound content to get on with what you feel is important to you and what makes you feel good, and then to enjoy it.

I know so many women now that, like you, have come out and said 'Yeah, I know I'm BORING!

Friends have told them so, so they say it before you can say it, and yet, they are content and happy with their lives and what's wrong with that?

Many would envy your contentment and your home: well organized, decluttered, neat, tidy well-stocked, by a person who knows her own mind, knows what she likes, what she doesn't like or need in her life right now.

I say you're only boring when you yourself feel bored, and you sound like an person who would not let that happen :)