Have I become boring?

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For context. I'm 50 with dh and dc 15& 17. I work FT. In my 20s I was a party animal.

Now, I enjoy my Saturday mornings taking in the weekly food delivery. Weekly clean out & re stock the fridge. Bins out. Washing on. House cleaned. I have a very clean, tidy, organised, consistently well stocked house. Everything is decluttered, we always have what we need. I don't like theatre/art galleries/shopping. I certainly wouldn't want a day out at the weekend unless it was the seaside or lunch out. I prefer to stay local, except for seaside. Weekend nights I prefer to be in either at friends or with friends/ dh at mine. Sometimes I might suggest the local pub. I have no desire to go anywhere far away for the weekend, unless the seaside. I do go abroad a lot.

I'm not spontaneous. My messages to friends are always quite matter-of-fact. Never me suggesting to do anything. A friend is off to London today. I couldn't think of anything worse. She's excited to be going.

have I become boring ?

You sound content and you only need to read three or four threads on here before you realise how rare that is.

I think it’s commendable that you know what keeps you happy and don’t put your happiness at the bottom of the priority list. And I get why you mention seaside etc - if you hadn’t, people would have accused you of being a recluse and told you to get out more!

Doesn’t matter if anyone else thinks your life is boring. It might be for them but we’re not all the same.

Get those ‘90s tunes on with pride!

What makes you happy?

i probably live a very boring existence these days as I enjoy being at home in my own space and pottering around the garden, reading a book or watching a film. I couldn't really care less what anyone else thinks though as we are all different and I genuinely feel happy with the lifestyle I have. I used to be a lot more adventurous and spontaneous but did so more to fit in with others

Since you don't even own any books, then yes, I'd find you desperately boring. What do you talk about apart from the seaside and cleaning?

Why do you ask OP? It sounds as though you have the life you want, so why are you asking?

She says she watches stuff from the 80's and 90's so clearly she does like it to some extent - like I said, no judgement, but I'd be bored just watching the same stuff from 30+ years ago all day. I'd want to see what else I might like, iyswim.

Your life sounds very similar to mine for the most part. Sometimes we'll go into the city for a show or a play, we go out for meals occasionally but I'm not 'exciting' anymore. I really don't care. I like my life, I've accepted that now that I've settled in a lovely village (here 20 years now) and the DCs are doing their own thing, I'm actually a bit of a home bird.

I live in a nice house in a nice village, have a job I love, great family and amazing friends. I don't feel I need much else and I'm grateful. There's so much to be said for contentment, it's a much underrated feeling I think.

I didn't see that bit about the 80s and 90s stuff. There has been some amazing TV made in the past 10 years or so they even called the golden age of TV. Some of it is well worth checking out, Season 1 of True Detective was amazing stuff for example.

It’s whatever makes you happy I suppose? Who cares what anyone else thinks 🤷🏻‍♀️
I find the cleaning and food organisation part v tedious and boring, but that’s just me. But I do get excited by cooking something nice for me, Dh and Dd for tonight in the slow cooker and watching Strictly, some may find that boring!
I’m 46 and didn’t have Dd until later, so I’m very into playgrounds & crafts and lunches out then the zoo…but my teenage and 20/30 something self would laugh at me, as I was clubbing & partying very young and taking allsorts, travelling lots and going to festivals etc until 39, I’d still go now but it’s hard with Dd
It is a bit weird that I’m now excited to make banana bread with my Dd and go shopping for a few autumn bits for the house 😂

You sound happy, which is great. I like a boring life too!

But I would struggle to be friends with you - if you don't read, watch the news/follow politics, like art or culture or going out to nice restaurants, I just wouldn't be able to find any way to relate to you. I can't imagine a life without books.

I am very similar to you but I do read books.
I am younger than you but children a similar age.
we still do a lot with our children, which takes up most weekends.
I spent most of my teens/twenties partying and going out at night just doesn’t appeal to me anymore.
I enjoy my home and enjoy a calm life.
I love my job and I enjoy peace.

It wouldn't be much of life for me but if your happy fair enough. I do wonder what you have to talk to people about though if you don't read, watch, listen to or go anywhere!

I like a clean and tidy home too and love pottering about, tidying, reading and watching TV. I like going out to shows, concerts and restaurants but it has to be planned in advance. If someone said "let's go out tonight" I'd be like noooo

It's only boring if you find it boring. Of you are happy and content that's all that matters.

simple question really....are you happy?

I agree with this. My friends and l mainly socialise by meeting for lunches and dinners. We all have different interests but again all show an interest in each others.

What are your interests as talking about cleaning and an organised fridge is a conversation stopper for me personally!

Hmm wouldn’t actually say boring although at first glance seemed a little but with the further detail seems a little ‘stuck’ or something - focusing on house and only watching shows from the past (comfort shows?) and not embracing anything new. Could you think of any reason you might feel safer this way rather than truly enjoying it?

It would be very boring for me as I love the theatre, gigs, travel and such like. But it's your life and you can do what you want with it.

OP you sound just like me. I'm happy doing very little.

I see friends on FB so excited to be "Getting their glad rags on to go to a Ladies' Day" or going to a show and I could think of nothing worse. I absolutely hate getting dressed up or having hair or make up done - my idea of hell!

Oh I’m so glad it’s not just me who thinks this!

I think being boring is less about what you do and more about how you think.

This is so true. I wouldn't have said you sound boring at all OP....until you said you don't own any books!

You also say you don't watch the news or listen to the radio, do you read the news online at all? I suppose it's whether you would have plenty to talk about if you met up with a friend, if you're interested in the world and other people, whether you like trying new things etc that would be the decider for me whether someone is boring or not.

There is a lot of good new TV and music out there. I still watch and listen to plenty of old stuff but it doesn't mean that I can't find new things I enjoy too.

You said what I was trying to say - it all seems very "stuck" rather than something that's done for genuine enjoyment.

We’re all different and that’s okay! I tend to take things at quite a slow pace and need time to decompress compared to my friend who is always doing something. Occasionally I think I’m doing life wrong and should be busier with activities, but like someone said upthread being content as you are is underrated.
I do like reading and current affairs but also do a lot of pottering (and probably too much mumsnetting!)

Sounds incredibly dull to me, but surely as long as you’re happy that’s all that matters. I wouldn’t want to be in my deathbed regretting not getting out, seeing thr world and having new experiences

I don't want to go to Ladies Day but life would be pointless for me without books.