People who don’t want to dance at a wedding…

[Wedds]

What do you do to cater for them?
I love a dance so we’re having a DJ and dancefloor but I know some of my guests aren’t dancers. There’s an outdoor area that people can go to if they don’t want to hear music but wedding is in April so likely to shower at least… so what can I do inside the same room as the DJ for them that’ll help them feel part of the wedding but not bored watching the dancers?
Thanks!

Games on the tables? Although people usually just chat don't they?

Leave them to it.

Fuck em

Just don't have the music so loud they can't chat

This - or have somewhere available a bit quieter so they can chat.

I think you can overthink this at weddings, people can occupy themselves having a drink & a chat without dancing :) it’s nice to have a quieter bar space where it’s not so loud if that’s possible so if you want to chat you’re not shouting over the music.

Music and dancing are surely expected and normal at weddings?

I'm not a dancer (two left feet and self conscious too), but I've never minded sitting at the table with other like minded people - or move to another one with non dancers I know and we laugh, chat, get a drink, people watch, comment on the clobber and then there's a break in the dancing.

It's nothing to worry about. They could always bring their knitting I suppose.

My MIL did bring her knitting to our wedding and reception. In a PVC shopping bag with a picture of a cat on it. It makes for a great discussion point when people see our wedding photos.

🤣 that's what I was thinking!

Weddings aren’t weddings without the dad dancing, op. You'll be talking about it years later. I met DH at a wedding because he fell in love with my dancing.

thistimelastweek · Today 20:35

Fuck em

How rude are you? My husband can barely walk, let alone dance. Should we not be invited?

Fuck you, frankly.

Can the venue provide somewhere close by that can be quieter for chatting? People will naturally find somewhere else to gather if they need a quieter space than the disco so I’d try and make sure they have somewhere comfortable.

Oh that's hilarious and brilliant! Whether YOU do or not I think I love your MIL 😊

Yes there definitely should be a more quiet area so people can at least chat.
I like the idea of having some games dotted around on tables - the old skool classics like Connect 4, Frustration, Kerplunk etc.
I don't enjoy dancing but I would get a lot of fun out of playing Guess Who with a random Great Uncle.

Ideally some space to chat without the music too loud. I like a dance but weddings are ideal for catching up. Maybe some games, not my thing but could be nice if people are coming who might not know each other well

Dunno but I’ve just had flashbacks to my sisters wedding reception when she’d paid for a DJ and not a single person got on the dance floor all night after the first dance - besides me and my little DS- and eventually we got so disheartened we gave up and went and danced on the balcony…. It… wasn’t great.

Perhaps if the vast majority aren’t dancers, you could get a live band in or a pianist / singer - something that people can chat under - and have a smaller dance floor for those that want to dance?

A couple packs of cards would cover it. But ideally being able to hear conversation over the music is the most helpful thing.

My worry about providing a quieter area is that the crowd will get split. I've seen that at a few weddings and the function room ends up looking and feeling really empty. I wouldn't overthink having something organised for them tbh!

Apologies.

I didn't mean to suggest non-dancers shouldn't be invited.
But people who don't want to he in the same space as the dancers?

I'd skip the DJ entirely, because I've never seen one contribute anything. In fact they either play music that's too current which nobody knows, or they spoils the classics by yelling over them.

I love a space to sit on actual sofas at a wedding. My wedding venue had apartments for family groups, and I spent half an hour chatting to my parents in front of a roaring fire with a dog stretched out in front.

Oh my god 😂 this image!!

Honestly, don’t overthink it op. If people don’t want to dance, they’ll either find a spot to sit and chat, or they’ll prop up the bar and chat. I personally wouldn’t lay on games etc as it has the potential to draw the maybe-dancers away from dancing.

Just don't have the music so loud they can't chat

Especially if there are guests with hearing difficulties/wearing hearing aids. They'll find it very difficult to hear conversation if the music is loud. And if the lights are low, they won't be able to use lipreading as an aid. A separate quieter room would be a great help.

@thistimelastweek the issue is if the music is too loud non dancers can't chat or anything so they just have to sit there and.....do what?

This is a bloody amazing idea!!!!! 👏👏👏