People who don’t want to dance at a wedding…

[Wedds]

What do you do to cater for them?
I love a dance so we’re having a DJ and dancefloor but I know some of my guests aren’t dancers. There’s an outdoor area that people can go to if they don’t want to hear music but wedding is in April so likely to shower at least… so what can I do inside the same room as the DJ for them that’ll help them feel part of the wedding but not bored watching the dancers?
Thanks!

Wouldn't even cross my mind to sort anything and we have 150 at ours in 5 weeks. If they don't dance then so be it. Not everyone dances to all songs. Always enough time to chat and.always someone to chat to. I've never been to a disco/wedding where you cant hear yourself speak.

At wedding you are often bringing friends and family together who haven't seen each other for some time. What those people want to do is chat. If there was nowhere suitable to catch up and chat and if, for the love of (deity) my alternative was play a board game with music thudding in my ears, I would probably leave (although physical violence would need to be supressed). Please just ensure that there are just quite areas away from the dancing where your guests can have a conversation with each other.

@LoyalJoker "clap his hands" ?
I assume he's an adult who would like to chat to people - not a performing seal.

I'm Scottish. I've never been to a wedding where it wasn't about the dancing.
So I have a stereotypical narrow-minded take on weddings.
I am sorry and i'll try to be less glib in future but I can't promise.

I’m a none dancer, just as everyone said either a location that’s quieter or just the music not blasting, so you can chat with people.

@LoyalJoker I will confess I have never been to a wedding with a disco - but similar parties/events I have been to I generally couldn't hear a word people were saying 😂
I suppose the world is divided into two groups.
Group A - who want to dance.
Group B - who want to chat and maybe have a bit of a laugh playing Uno.
The OP presumably knows which group the majority of the guests will be in.

@Wedds it's actually very nice of you to give some thought to the non dancers/prefer a bit of quiet folks 🙂

Ignore the po faced, perpetually offended.
You were clearly joking .

We just didn’t have a dance floor and instead had quiet conversation in a cozy bar built in an old library. If someone had wanted to get out a book, that would have been ok with me. It was a wedding built for two nerds, one with ASD.

its great if there is someplace relatively quiet. Typically we congregate as far away from the speakers as possible. Games would be fantastic. I would rave about a wedding couple who provided board games. Anything from simple games to more elaborate ones that we could play for hours.

I assume there will be quite a few of them, and the fact she's just gotten married I'm sure she won't want to have sex with all of them

(This post was tongue in cheek, just for the sake of clarity)

DH and I are not dancers. Turns out we are also naturally friends with non-dancers.

So we didn't bother and everyone went home at 4pm. It was great!

But otherwise, just have somewhere people can chat without being deafened.

Thank you but I wasn't entirely joking.
(I just can't help myself with the glib .)

@thistimelastweek actually if it was some traditional type of Scottish dancing (which I only know from rom com movies 🙂) I'd quite enjoy that.
Some bopping around to some pop songs.....nah !
I like music.....but for some reason I just don't enjoy discos. I was the kid at school who would hide in the corridors when a disco was happening 😂

That sounds absolutely wonderful!

I am a dancer at weddings (as a guest not a performer) and my DH is not.

I dance, he gets drunk.

I would say that a quieter space would be nice for those who want to converse. The last wedding we went to, my SIL who is late 70s apparently sat at the table with her hands over her ears as the disco was so loud.

I was dancing too much to notice and DH was too pissed to care!

100%

People don't get bored watching the dancers

They generally sit and take the piss

Or chat amongst themselves.

I've never been to a wedding where something else is organised for non dancers

We went to a wedding earlier this year where there was a small piano combo playing post dinner - it was delightful, easy to chat and move around to catch up with people, especially as the dinner had been seated. There were a few couples who slow danced towards the end but everyone seemed to agree that a calm ending to the busy day was lovely - the couple were late twenties, as were most of their friends, so didn’t just suit the older guests.

I think a silent disco would be ideal. The non dancers and people who want to catch up with friends and relatives can talk (don't forget older relatives may not have great hearing), and the dancers can do their stuff. It's particularly hilarious when you've got different channels so there's 3 different styles of dancing at once on the same dance floor.

Don't have the music too loud

Can you have the dance floor at one end and a sofa/ chill-out area at the other end?

I'm not a dancer - when I can't stand any longer, shouting and not being able to hear a thing said in response - I slip away.

I'm not a dancer and I wouldn't expect to be catered for in that way. As others have said, the music not being so loud I can't hear anyone is great but I always try to sit as far from the DJ/band as possible as a result anyway. I still like to hear the music and sometimes sing along to the tunes so a silent disco would be boring. DH is a smoker so I often end up sitting alone, if I don't know anyone else there I'll keep myself entertained on my phone but usually I know enough people to enjoy chatting and drinking for the whole night. After many drinks you may see me sneak to the edge of the dance floor but that highly depends on my footwear and my mobility/pain levels on the day.

The only thing I truly hate is when everyone is "forced" to the dance floor by the DJ and called out if you don't join in. Usually just for something shite like cha cha slide. With extra pushy DJs I'll suddenly find myself needing to go outside for some fresh air or desperately needing a 3 minute pee.

Don't have the music too loud. It's annoying if you can't chat easily