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What were the 80s like?

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flowerwild · 17/09/2024 13:50

I’m nostalgic for a time I never experienced.

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User135644 · 17/09/2024 16:04

Depends which side of the tracks you were on Thatcher's social experiment.

MavisPennies · 17/09/2024 16:05

Economically they were incredibly hard for us in the north east. High unemployment, negative equity on the mortgage, our house closed to repossession. The piper alpha disaster for those working off shore. Maggie Thatcher didn't give a shit.

OldieButBaddie · 17/09/2024 16:06

I was 13-23 in the 80s, I had a huge amount of freedom and a huge amount of fun! I spent a lot of time waiting for friends (pre mobiles, you just had to hang around) and drinking too much and taking too many drugs. TV was great as everyone watched the same thing at the same time so was a big discussion point. The tribes were good too, punks, goths, skins, bikers etc.

I do remember discussing with friends at the time how it would be looked back on as the decade with terrible fashion/hair/politics (I mean fashion from the yuppies rather than the tribes). I do think a lot of the bad stuff has been airbrushed out! The music was great, well some of it was, there was loads of utter dross but the good stuff is still around (like any decade)

Busybeed · 17/09/2024 16:08

3doughnutproblem · 17/09/2024 15:45

Dallas, Dynasty on TV, big hair, really big perms and big earings, boxy jackets with shoulder pads, white high heeled shoes, cropped t shirts with FRANKIE SAYS RELAX, Wham"s Club Tropicana, big mobile phones the size of a brick. Very competitive, my boss was delighted to be called a yuppie, filofaxes that had everything you needed -now replaced by phones, Jonathan Ross and Ben Elton on TV, Bernie Inns and Spud--U-like, Princess Diana everywhere on tv, lots of sexist jokes and sexist bosses, ra ra skirts,dancing to Madonna, Cameo etc, Spandau Ballet's True played at many a wedding, meringue wedding dresses, bold eye make up....during the 80's I felt insecure and not that happy but now look back at it with fondness. Time blurs the edges.

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I could have written that!

I was 20-29 in the 80s, loved it! the fashion especially, the curly long perms, the music was awesome, when I look back on the charts I can recall huge majority of those charts at that time. Pay was great at work, I was earning £6.50 an hour 'word processing' - that was all coming in to play and I loved the huge leap in technology - I remember my first 'memory typewriter' where you could see just half a line of text on a thin long screen and you could edit for the first time without using tippex! thought it was a wonderful invention.

Live Aid at Wembley! bought my first flat in the 80s and then a house.

Dallas was exciting, no binge watching you were all watching at the same time so could chat about it at work the next day. Who shot JR!

Time definitely does blur the edges, long may that last! 😁

Lakeyloo · 17/09/2024 16:08

Loved it ! 10- 20 so enjoyed being a carefree pre- teen, no mobile phones, and coming home from "playing out" when it got to dusk. Very lucky to have grown up in a rural community in the South East and be of an age where politics and the wider world went over my head.
Dad at work on the farm, Mum at home (earnt some extra money by doing Kays catalogue and some cleaning around the village).
4 channels on the TV, although we weren't really allowed to watch channel 4. I do remember crowding round to watch the Thriller video.
Birthday parties were a picnic in the garden with a few friends. Everything seemed so simple without the tech/social media etc, but we didn't know any different.

Absolutely loved the music and fashion... such a definable decade. Still love it, although some of the outfits I went out in !! I thought I was Madonna..
Spent ages in front of the mirror experimenting with blue mascara and rainbow eye shadow. Backcombing my hair and getting through gallons of hairspray.
The constant whiff of white musk coming from my bedroom.
Just 17 and Smash Hits magazines. Posters blue tacked all over my bedroom wall.
Recording the top 40 on my tape machine and spending pocket money on vynil.
Etam, Top Shop, Tammy Girl.
First pay packets from working in the local pub.
Clubbing on a Thursday, Friday and Saturday ( i used to start getting ready at lunchtime 😂) The odd rave, acid house parties (tried it once along with the odd joint - never again)
Passed my driving test and my parents bought me a Ford Fiesta for my 18th.

Looking back, it wasn't the best decade ... Strikes, high interest rates, IRA, Falklands, Unemployment. I don't think i would have wanted to be a "grown up" , but as a carefree teen, it was the best !

almondflake · 17/09/2024 16:08

@Rummly it really was a fantastic decade . I got married in 86 and my FIL was furious with my husband to be because his wedding suit was a pale grey with striped lining and he wore a pink satin tie with his sleeves rolled up lol 😂

Lakeyloo · 17/09/2024 16:11

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 17/09/2024 15:20

What about if you were stuck at home? I recall lots of wandering around bored with friends and going to their houses. BT introduced a chat line service which was advertised as upping your confidence levels, it did but my friends and I got massive phone bills and in the end my mum got a proper coin operated phone box for a short time.

A friends parents went away for a weekend and left said friend home alone (Grandparents lived opposite) We spent the whole weekend speaking to random people on that chat line ! 😬

ApolloandDaphne · 17/09/2024 16:11

It was fabulous for me. I turned 18 in 1980 and headed off to uni. I met my DH there and we married in 1985. We had such a brilliant decade before DC came along in the 90's. The music was amazing.

Jasmin71 · 17/09/2024 16:12

Good and bad in equal meassure.

Women really did make progress
The music and social life was brilliant.
You really did have loads more freedom if you were a teenager.
More community spirit and lack of tolerance for antisocial dickheads.
You felt like there was something to aim for.

Rampant homophobia, racism, true Thatcherites really were hideous as well.
Grinding poverty with deindustrialisation. The cold war finally came to an end with the fall of the Berlin wall. People fought hard for each other though. They really were resilient.

I have loads of good eighties memories. It was very different from today though. Like they say, the past is a foreign country.

KnittedCardi · 17/09/2024 16:13

Best time ever. I was 14-23.

Music and fashion. You could be whoever you wanted to be, wear whatever you wanted to wear. At one point I was a New Romantic, going out with a Punk, at a ska disco.....Men wearing make up weren't necessarily trans or gay. I had BIG hair.

Cocktail bars, discos, nightclubs. Holidays abroad getting fried to a crisp with Pizza Buin Factor 2 tanning oil.

Went from school, to college, to work. Very few people went to uni. Bought first flat in 1988.

Had a blast, such good times.

HappiestSleeping · 17/09/2024 16:13

Awesome. Everything was better then.

Lakeyloo · 17/09/2024 16:15

bellinisurge · 17/09/2024 14:01

Music was great. Fashion was great if you did it yourself rather than from the usual shops.

Political landscape was grim. Fear of nuclear holocaust was high (if you let it)
I was told at school that I would never know regular employment.

@bellinisurge I am still haunted by watching Raymond Briggs when the wind blows in the late 80's. Never forgotten it.

Discombobble · 17/09/2024 16:16

flowerwild · 17/09/2024 13:50

I’m nostalgic for a time I never experienced.

15% mortgage rate

BellaBlythe · 17/09/2024 16:18

We lived in Wiltshire, some fiercely cold winters. Snow in Salisbury and Dorset in early 80s and cold snaps before Christmas throughout.

Hecatoncheires · 17/09/2024 16:20

My overriding memory is being terrified of nuclear war. I would take comfort in the fact that the nearby RAF camp, radar base and oil rigs might be key targets so that we would be vaporised instantly rather than suffering the long death from radiation sickness. Thank you, 'Threads'. Loved the music. I was a blend of New Romantic and goth, and loved my teenage freedom to go to gigs in the semi-nearby city with friends. The music is ingrained into my soul and I can still sing songs verbatim with all the correct harmonies even having not heard them for decades! Family money was tight but I got a job whilst at school to finance my own fun. There were a lonely few years during my early teens as I struggled to find my 'tribe' in a rough fishing town and tough school (no mobile phones for easy communication) but my late teens were much better. The politics of the 80s passed me by as I was too busy putting on eyeliner and eating cheesy Findus Crispy pancakes.

Crosswhatdoyouthink · 17/09/2024 16:22

I was 17-27 and it was my favourite decade, student in Brighton, clubbing most nights, Duran Duran, Spandau Ballet,Wham,Frankie, Kid Creole, Bronski Beat etc
Then out to Oz for a couple of years. Just happy, no SM,Mobiles, made a plan and you stuck to it , people less flakey, self obsessed and more considerate generally. Cannot remember anyone with MH problems within my friendship groups. Just think people were less stressed generally.

SlothOnARope · 17/09/2024 16:22

Great music, great bands, loads of going out and talking to people. Terrible fashion for teens but nobody cared. Lots of older women still did the smart skirt and jumper type of outfit and looked great.

No Starbucks, instead we had proper tea shops with teapots, scones and teacakes. And proper department stores and little shops, before capitalism and greedy landlords destroyed the high street.

M&S did this amazing apricot rice pudding dessert that I was heartbroken when they stopped selling. Never found it anywhere else 😞

M&S is still good now, but at the time it was awesome.

No fear around communications/tech/internet, you just picked up the phone and asked if your friends were going out.

Excitement about penpals and getting letters. Milk floats and coal men. Window cleaners.

Stamp collecting, it was fun because stamps were varied. Interesting conversations with people on the street (even the old biddies with blue rinses lecturing you about the youth of today). Little bookshops, interesting high streets. Roads were driveable. You could usually find a parking space.

TV was watchable/fewer people knew about Jimmy Savile.

Libraries were wonderful places. Councils did street maintenance.

Parents getting upset about politics. Miners' strike was terrible. Houses were affordable if you had a decent job. But if you couldn't get a job, life was very hard indeed.

However, people were generally far more polite, humorous and well-spoken, even in regional dialect. They were more inclined to help each other in little ways, without always expecting something in return. Just more community spirit in general.

There were still lots of boasters and materialistic people, but not everything was all about money and avoiding scams like it is now.

Cyclebabble · 17/09/2024 16:25

I think the music was better yes and for me as a teenager life was new and exciting. There were some big downsides though racism (I am ethnically Indian) was rampant and acceptable. Even for teachers in our school. Violence against ethnic minorities was also common and over a month at least one of our family would be assaulted (hit, spat at or kicked). Homophobia was also very acceptable and gay people would have experienced similar levels of violence to us. It is important to note that these attitudes at the time was mainstream and we experienced racism from lots of people not just a view NF thugs.

Technology is interesting. Phone boxes were our only way of keeping in touch so you always had to have change with you. Television had to be watched largely on the day, though by 83 we had a video player (big advance). It was great to be able to rent videos which we did regularly.

Unemployment was also much higher. In the Midlands there were few jobs and that is why I have done so much moving over my life. Moving originally for University- note tough that fewer people went- about 8% in the mid 80s.

In the background there was also a great fear of a nuclear conflict. Eastern Europe including Eastern Germany, Poland and Hungary were difficult to visit and the 80s there was no sign of this changing anytime soon.

Good times but not all good.

feellikeanalien · 17/09/2024 16:25

One of my favourite decades although I know it did depend on your circumstances. I was at uni and then moved to London where I met my ex-H. Even though I wasn't on a massive salary you could afford to rent and still go out several times a week. Concerts were still reasonably priced and going to the pub was a favourite pastime. Used to spend a lot of time in the wine bars which were popular then. Had a great group of friends who were a mixture of friends from uni and others who I met at work.

There was also however the miners and print workers strikes, the Brixton and Tottenham riots and high unemployment.

For me personally I look back on those days as some of the best of my life although I know it wasn't the same experience for everyone.

Busybeed · 17/09/2024 16:30

Just remembering the concerts I went to, Bryan Ferry, U2, Frankie Goes to Hollywood (my god that was an eye opener at the time!) Dire Straits

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MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 17/09/2024 16:34

Margaret Thatcher
Lots of unemployment and poverty
Rampant sexism, racism and homophobia
Cold War and fear of imminent nuclear war
Only 4 tv channels
lots of good music
No internet social media or mobile phones
We read newspapers

Worldgonecrazy · 17/09/2024 16:38

Had a great time. School, then work. I ended up working in the live music business so got to see so many great concerts. Fashion was awesome and I have a few vintage pieces that heft so many compliments when I wear them. Big dreams and big hair.

Thank you to whoever mentioned the chat lines. They were a lot of fun.

pinkroses79 · 17/09/2024 16:39

Great music. At the time I thought great clothes, but not so much now!
Too much hairspray! Lots of blue mascara. Fun discos with lots of slow dancing at the end with boys, even when we were quite young (I was only 16 at the end of the decade). At the end of the 80s, going to the pub and getting served with no question, drinking various spirits with coke (Tia maria, barcardi) southern comfort and lemonade (can't drink that now) and far too much of it, we all got really drunk every weekend. Went out all the time, because there wasn't much to do indoors. Closer knit family life, we'd all sit together watching whatever was on TV. Watched TOTP as a family, so my mum liked a lot of the same music as us, whereas I don't really know what my children even listen to on their airpods. In my experience, school is a nicer place now though.In the 80s, if you weren't getting on well socially or had bullying issues, nothing was done about it and there was some seriously dodgy conduct from a couple of the teachers.

DeanElderberry · 17/09/2024 16:41

Mass deaths in fires and crush disasters - Heisel Stadium, Bradford Stadium, Hillsborough, Stardust Ballroom in Dublin, Kings Cross Underground Station. Herald of Free Enterprise deaths Marchioness disaster on the Thames. Any time an idiot complains about health and safety regulations remember why we have them.

Northern Ireland situation grim with more pointless deaths every week. Famine in Ethiopia. Aids. Peter Sutcliffe killing women in the north of England, Fred and Rosemary West killing women in Gloucestershire.

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